There are several secrets that have been used by the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity for a long time to make a cherished acquaintance.
Secret #1
Loyalty and honesty are the main qualities that should be demonstrated in front of your chosen one. If a girl really likes a young man, then he does not need to show his communication with other fans. Otherwise, he may have the opinion that the girl is rather frivolous and completely indifferent to him. Emerging sympathy should be reinforced right behavior and showcasing their positive aspects character.
Secret #2
Excessive obsession can scare young man from a girl. You should not call him endlessly, invite him on a date, and even more so, check with whom and where he is. Wise girls, in order to avoid such a negative development of events, go to little trick and leave the guys only their phone number. This approach allows them to check whether the young person is interested in further communication with them.
Secret #3
Appearance - the most important aspect, which helps girls to start relationships with young people. But here everything is not so simple as it might seem at first glance. Many girls think that if they dressed the most fashionable outfits and applied a mountain of cosmetics, then all the guys will now be at their feet. This is far from true. It is not always advisable to follow the latter fashion trends. You need to dress in such a way that the clothes emphasize the dignity, hiding the flaws of the figure. The same rule applies to makeup.
How are girls supposed to treat guys?
Modern psychologists compare men to small children. And such a comparison is not accidental, since they really perceive many events through the prism of children's consciousness. But do not underestimate the capabilities of your man, he can easily distinguish flattery from the truth.
Beauty, understanding and femininity are the main features that men look for in their chosen ones. A girl must have her own special charm, a mystery. In addition, her behavior should be tactful, restrained. Guys should feel strong and brave next to girls. Only with such representatives of the beautiful half of humanity do they really develop high-quality relationships.
Secret #1
Self-confidence is the main character trait of any modern man. Unsure, frightened guys with a bunch of complexes do not like girls. If there is no self-confidence, then before starting a relationship, you should work on yourself.
Secret #2
Guys have to make the first move. Don't waste time waiting for it to fit itself. You need to take everything into your own hands. This is the only way to achieve desired result. Approach the girl you like, ask her for her phone number. It is possible that you will start a conversation. Therefore, it will not be superfluous to find out her interests and hobbies.
Secret #3
Be sure to call if the girl left her phone number. Do not delay the call, as you can miss your chance and be left alone. It is worth noting the fact that in case of refusal, do not be too upset. But a second time to offer a meeting is also not necessary.
How are guys supposed to treat girls?
Confidence, calmness and charm are the main emotions that should be reflected on the face of a man at the time of meeting. But do not be too zealous with charm, as sugary guys often cause distrust. And many girls, not wanting to be upset in the future, simply refuse to get to know them.
It's no secret that girls love getting compliments. Therefore, it will not be superfluous when meeting to tell her a few nice phrases. For example, you can praise her hairstyle or well-chosen outfit. If everything is done correctly, without going too far with compliments, then the girl is guaranteed to want to meet such a gentleman more than once. And it is quite possible that next time she will call and invite you on a date herself.
Chapter:What is the secret to building a good sustainable home? The secret to getting started right is the foundation. A house without a foundation will fall in a couple of rains. The erected walls have nothing to stand on, they will crack and collapse.
As relationship builders, we also need to be aware of the importance of starting to build relationships. You don’t need to pour the foundation at random, you must clearly decide for yourself what kind of relationship you will build.
What is the foundation, that is, the basis of friendship and love? What helps and what destroys these relationships? Let's try to figure it out.
How to start making friends?
Questions of friendship have worried mankind for several millennia. Even the oldest book in the Bible (Greek for "book") speaks of the principles of friendship:
“Who wants to have friends, he himself must be friendly; and there is a friend who is more attached than a brother.”
“A friend loves at all times and, like a brother, will appear in times of adversity”
"... so sweet is every friend with his heartfelt advice"
Despite the venerable age of the Book, the problems of friendship are as relevant as they were many years ago, and their solutions have not changed either. Be friendly, love and not leave a friend "at any time" i.e. not only in good days but also in difficult times. help each other with advice and action. All these are simple and understandable to the point of banality advice, but at the heart of them the main thing is the absence of one's "I". This is the foundation in relationships - not to leave room for selfishness.
What is it in practice? When a friend is in trouble, we look for ways to help rather than looking for reasons why we can't. Often this can be to the detriment of oneself (loss of time, finances, relationships with other people, and much more). For what? Why should we do this? Because we are united with a friend: the past, common interests, hobbies, difficulties endured together, joys and much more, and not even from this listed list, even completely different, because there are many reasons that unite people that cannot be listed. The main thing is that a friend does not need to be persuaded to help, he will do it with joy, because in friendship there is no place for "ego", one's "I"!
Friendship is not one-sided. You cannot count on the fact that a friend will act with you according to the “rules” of friendship, and you will enjoy this process without giving anything in return. Friendship implies reciprocity, otherwise it is the use of a person, but such relationships, of course, are doomed - this is not friendship.
At the same time, friendship is not a “bash on bash” relationship, “you - me, I - you”. There are a lot of such simplified schemes between just acquaintances and unfamiliar people - “I paid, you gave me a ride”, “quid pro quo”. The fact of the matter is that in friendship you don’t need to return, and you don’t expect this, but do something out of friendship!
Everything is so simple and at the same time difficult, because our "I" can be stronger than friendship and, if you notice, there are few true friends, but don't despair, they are nearby!
Friendship between boy and girl
This headline is now very popular, but let's be frank, honest, objective. Between a guy and a girl, a man and a woman, relationships are called differently: sympathy, falling in love, love - yes, this, of course, has a place to be, it is, and it's wonderful! In such a relationship, elements of friendship can and should be present, but it is not friendship as such. This is different and requires separate consideration.
Friendship between a guy and a girl can not last long. Close friendship will slowly transform into romantic feelings, passion. And then friends either succumb to these feelings, or increase the distance in the relationship. What real friendship don't name it either.
Relationship between boy and girl, man and woman
We like each other! We are created in such a way that we seek and desire relationships with the opposite sex (we will not touch on the topic of mental pathologies here). This is wonderful! How can these relationships be built and maintained? How not to destroy? How to create love out of sympathy, falling in love?
At first we like each other
By what criteria, internal and external qualities, we evaluate each other is sometimes a mystery to ourselves. Eminent psychologists say that we have standards at the subconscious level, laid down from childhood. Moms, dads, sisters, brothers and other people influenced us and this very standard was formed. Maybe, but this is not the essence of our conversation, but the essence is what qualities it is important to pay attention to. Qualities that will prove important for building deep, joyful and happy relationships.
Although often the first thing we pay attention to, beauty will not be the leader in this list. Why? Because we are changing! Look at your photos at intervals of several years. Well, how?! Noticed the difference? It cannot be said that changes are always for the worse, sometimes quite the contrary. But change is inevitable - we need to remember this in order to be ready and not be afraid of change, because this is normal!
What are we looking for? We are looking for a person with whom we are psychologically comfortable. His character, temperament, upbringing, interests make your relationship comfortable. Pay attention to this, otherwise there will be difficulties later.
Are you comfortable with each other?
Then you communicate, which means that there is an opportunity to get to know each other more deeply. How he (she) communicates with other people, with relatives. What is his/her reaction to different situations. Is there any irritation or anger (not even towards you, because we remember - on this moment are you sympathetic (!) or in love)? Is there prudence and endurance? Is there rudeness, laziness, industriousness, complaisance, etc...
In general, the list can be continued for a long time, but why are we looking, looking closely? All this will definitely be repeated in your family, therefore, if some qualities, habits manifest themselves with constancy to someone, then they will definitely manifest themselves to you! And you already think whether you like it or not. You need to answer this question for yourself as soon as possible. Then the wounds from broken relationships will be minimal and the scars are not deep, and maybe they don’t even exist.
Often, and maybe always, lovers have a temptation to seem better than they are, so to speak, “dissolve feathers” (we saw all kinds of different peacocks, pigeons look after birds!) - this is normal, but your look should be “soberly evaluating” , look at his (her) relationship with others, because that is what awaits you in your relationship.
Confidence in feelings
So, you like everything about him (her). And so, you soberly assessed everything, threw away emotions, remembered all the cases, weighed words and deeds well, thought it over not so rashly, but already, armed with knowledge about the consequences (because we read articles, we think, we are looking for), we say to ourselves - " Yes, it is HE (SHE)!”
And here the advisers, "wise" by life experience, offer to move on to intimate relationships. Well, how?! We must try - do we fit each other physically ?! You know, one could laugh here if it weren't so sad that people make mistakes and, even worse, invite others to make them.
This article is not about morality, but about what will make our relationship happy, strong and long. After all, we spend time reading articles and looking for answers to questions for this? Therefore, examining the experience of others, one's own personal experience, we find the following answers.
Physical Compatibility
We are all physically fit for each other! Like this?! We are all so different: tall and not very, thin and not quite? We are coming. Take it easy. We are made to be like everything. If your intended future partner I do not agree with this in life, so he:
- Not aware of the consequences of premature (extramarital) relationships.
- He just wants to take advantage of you. (“... that means you don’t love me!”, “... then we won’t meet again!” etc.)
In the first case, you have the opportunity to get to know the person deeper by trying to explain your life views By this issue, look and evaluate the subsequent reaction, and in the second - you really better break off the relationship.
Let's look into this issue more. In one line we write the possible pluses of extramarital relations, in the other - the real minuses. So:
Pros:
— possible
(I emphasize this word - possible, but not necessarily so!) physical satisfaction. ALL. The line has ended.
Minuses:
- Relationships will definitely change, but in what direction? There may be disgust and resentment. There may be a psychological breakdown in its insolvency.
- Unplanned pregnancy, not protecting your unborn child.
- You will never have old relationship(the last "secret" is open).
- a bunch of sexually transmitted diseases- a threat to your health and the ability to have children in the future.
If your partner puts "at the forefront" intimacy, i.e. considers "bed" essential part happy relationship, then in the future, definitely, there will be disappointment. Do you know how often married couples have such relationships? In different ways, depending on temperament, but always much less often than at the beginning. The novelty passes and everyone calms down. This is fine. It is normal for those who did not make a basis, a foundation out of this. The rest will look for "novelties" on the side. Are you looking for this?
Further, “... why get married, it's just a stamp in your passport. We love each other, don't we?" Words that actually cover up cowardice and distrust of each other. If it's just a stamp in the passport, why such a fear to put it? If he does not decide anything and does not mean anything? How can you build something without trust?
It turns out that you plan to live hypocritically to each other. There is no room for distrust in love! And here's another - “We should try living together first.”. Yes, let's first try to build a skyscraper, and then we'll see if it falls apart or not ... Are we talking about our life or a sandbox?
Happiness in relationships
The truly happy couples are those who treat intimacy as a pleasant bonus of family life and do not get ahead of events. Slowly, they get used to each other, get to know each other, recognize each other's desires and needs, and are building relationship mutual love. Because love, as opposed to falling in love, does not come by itself. This is the work of two people who really want to be happy. Labor - because you need to forgive a lot, often give in, really be a support to each other, so that, after going through the first time of grinding, enjoy each other, existing relationships, be happy!
From the bottom of our hearts we wish you good friends and true love!
Do not forget - you are free in your choice! Do not drive yourself into the framework, some schemes and scenarios! You don't owe anyone anything! This is your life!
If you still have questions that you would like to discuss, let's try to figure it out together.
What is the secret to building a good sustainable home? The secret to getting started right is the foundation. A house without a foundation will fall in a couple of rains. The erected walls have nothing to stand on, they will crack and begin to move. Alas, moving walls are bad for a good home.
As relationship builders, we also need to be aware of the importance of starting to build relationships. You don’t need to fill in the foundation at random, you must clearly decide for yourself what kind of relationship you will build. Despite desired relationship, it is very important to set the goal you are pursuing.
When will we consider different relationships and how to start them, then we will mean exactly what each interaction means (if friendship, then we are talking only about friendship and do not add any other feelings here).
How to start making friends?
"A friend in need is a friend" let's take this phrase as a basis. Never try to be a friend, but be one. Don't force your friendship because it will feel like stalking and will really annoy your friend. Be yourself, live your life, but also be interested in the life of the person you want to be friends with. If possible, help when he has difficulties. Not always you can help, not everything is in your power, new support will not be superfluous. You can just call or send an SMS and cheer up, or you can distract with some kind of entertainment or just get drunk together .... Choose for yourself, you know better which option is more successful.
Another tip: if you are a guy and want to be friends with a girl, then in no case behave like her girlfriends, girls likewise - do not behave like guys who are friends with your friend.
It is impossible for the opposite sexes to remain best friends for a long time. If both are straight, then in 100 cases out of 100 the line of friendship will be erased. A close friendship will slowly transform or into sexual attraction or in romantic feelings - passion. And then they will either succumb to one of these feelings or slightly increase the distance in the relationship, thus maintaining friendship.
Before you start building friendships between the sexes, you must be fully aware and understand what this friendship leads to.
How to start a love relationship?
Love relationships don't start easy. Usually everything goes like this:
1. Acquaintance - friendship - passion - love.
2. Acquaintance - passion - love.
3. Acquaintance - hobby - intimacy - love.
4. Acquaintance - intimacy - friendship - love.
5. Intimacy - acquaintance - passion - love (This happens due to an overabundance of chemistry inside the body at some party).
There are very different schemes, more complex and very confusing, where the steps can be repeated from time to time. Schemes are different, but all can be correct. It all depends on many factors:
Characters of a boy and a girl.
Time and distance.
Guy status: schoolboy, student, working, son of a billionaire ♣. The status of the girl is also important.
Friends, relatives.
Old connections.
As you can see, relationships are always influenced by the world around you. If you want to smoothly build love interactions, try a proven pattern.
First, be a friend. As a friend, gain trust and prove your reliability. Just be a friend and don't hint at anything.
How to understand that you have achieved enough friendship in order to start a new relationship that crosses the line of friendship? As soon as your friend (girlfriend) begins to share with you not only joy, but also sadness, this path of trust and reliability will begin. If you can help and turn your shoulder in time, then you can proceed to the following points:
Attentiveness
Tenderness.
You must gradually manifest these qualities to the person with whom you want to build love.
Warning: Never move on to the next stage without getting reciprocated. You have to keep up with all the steps.
Mindfulness and tenderness will bring you to the stage of passion - romantic feelings. Become more intriguing (to them) and surprise with your versatility. Romance will begin smoothly and quietly, but over time, it will begin to gain brightness of feelings and emotions. Romance is the time for kisses and hugs. Therefore, her middle name is passion. The tenderness of touch captivates. The next stages are not planned, they are the result of your interactions. One of these stages awaits you: intimacy, love, separation.
If suddenly your scheme leads you to parting, then at some stage you were in a hurry. There are two ways out here:
1. Reconcile with the breakup;
2.Slightly redo the scheme and it is possible to go back one step. But don't back down anymore, fight for your love!
Relationships are about interaction. If you want to break into a new relationship, then wait for reciprocity, mutual desire.
What is the right way to start a romantic relationship?
If you fall in love, then romance will come to you by itself. It begins with a loving look, with a smile, with a touch that makes the heart beat faster. Romance, or more simply - passion is accompanied by an invincible attraction. You will be drawn to each other like never before. Time will fly by quickly when you are together. And yet the attraction pulls on the exploits of lovers. Romance is manifested not only in material values, but also in self-behavior. You always need to be careful and sometimes read in the eyes. During the period of passion, you must become a wizard (good fairy) and a little psychic. Create a fairy tale that you can save and then tell your grandchildren. Romance is the path to love or intimacy or both, don't skip this step!
How to get started intimate relationship?
Start intimate relationships- is a continuation of some existing relationships. It will be very correct if sexual relations do not complement the scheme love affairs, but to consolidate love interactions.
It is necessary to start such a relationship prudently. There are important things that matter in sex between a girl and a guy:
Your age
Partner's age
When we talk about the age of partners, we do not mean that there are any standards. Your preferences are your business. But! There is a very important "but" when you will be punished for having sex with a minor.
Appropriateness of sexual relations or degree of intimacy
On the next point, I will say a few words: if you are just friends, you should not do this.
reason for sex
The reason for sex can be very different, but have sex only when you really want to plunge into this sea of \u200b\u200bsensations with your soulmate.
Knowledge of the consequences.
I will not tell you about the consequences of sex, everyone knows this, but I advise you only one thing: have sexual intercourse according to own will, otherwise then all the relationships built will crack.
Start intimate relationships only when you are ready physically and mentally. If in doubt, don't do it. This will be the correct construction of intimate relationships.
We wish you reliable friendship, strong love and amazing sex. Build your relationships, work on them, develop them and do not lose interaction.
Psychologically and in all our essence, we will desire to start a relationship with the opposite sex. We may have fears, but we must not go along with them. We overcome barriers and start relationships slowly. Yesterday's failure should not interfere with tomorrow's victories, and today is the day when you can feel sorry for yourself after failure, gather new strength, think it over, get up and move on. Never shut yourself up. A person is not created to be alone, he needs friends, he needs a person who will love him, whom you can love and take care of him. And never fool yourself, the people you need, they exist and are just as real as you, maybe you just haven't met or noticed them yet. Good luck with your relationship!!!
In order to be able to create happy and harmonious relationship, and subsequently the family, you need to know how to start relationships correctly and how to develop them.
In most relationships there is a place for frequent scandals, quarrels, misunderstandings. Many families break up before 5 years of existence. One of the reasons for this is the lack of knowledge about how to create relationships correctly.
IN modern world people do not understand that the right beginning of a relationship must be approached with great responsibility. Relationships, family are for life, which means that it has a huge impact on the level of happiness and satisfaction of a person.
Therefore, one should take a reasonable approach to this issue and thoroughly study it. In this I will try to help you.
What will help you learn how to build relationships correctly?
It is quite possible to create harmonious relationships. To do this, you should study a number of issues related to the correct construction of relationships.
If you understand these issues thoroughly enough, then the chances of making a mistake when creating relationships and families will tend to 0.
So, now, point by point, I will list the main factors that need to be sorted out in order to start a relationship correctly.
- What is love and what is love
Many people confuse these concepts, considering them the same. But these concepts are different.
Falling in love is that burning sweet feeling in relation to a loved one. It is through love that people create families. The problem is that falling in love passes pretty quickly. Its average duration is 1-3 years.
Love is something that needs to be created in the process of relationship. That is real love does not arise by itself and has nothing to do with falling in love. True love can begin to manifest itself 5-10 years after the creation of a family as a result of the efforts that at least one of the spouses makes.
Having understood these concepts, you will be able to understand how to start a relationship the right way.
- Motives for creating relationships
You may be surprised, but there are different reasons where the relationship begins. Depending on the motive on the basis of which relationships were created, and then the family, further life proceeds.
If the motives for creating relationships were base, then life together will be full of base things and negative situations. If the motives were sublime, then this will unite the family and help overcome the difficulties that necessarily arise in the life of every person and family man.
For example, if we met in a club where most people are looking for fun adventures and casual sex, the future of such relationships is very vague.
And when we met loved one at a seminar on spiritual or moral development, and we both strive to engage in self-development, then this definitely increases our chances to save the family and make her life happy.
- Wise choice of partner
It is foolish not to pay attention to the shortcomings of a person, since many people have such shortcomings until the end of their lives. There are a number of criteria by which you can determine the degree of compatibility with a potential partner for a relationship.
The influence of the horoscope, the position of a person in society, his views on life, personality type and much more should be taken into account. How to start a relationship with a person who clearly does not suit you according to a number of criteria, but just likes you? Reasonable answer: no.
To list and explain all the criteria for choosing a partner for the right start of a relationship, you need to write more than one page of text. Therefore, I recorded a video on this topic, more on that below.
- Discussion important issues before starting a family and starting sexual relations
These words may seem revolutionary to you. I mean that before having sex, you need to discuss a number of important life issues and the attitude of a potential chosen one or chosen one towards them.
This should be done because after two people have sex, they develop a strong attachment to each other. As a result, they cannot see the shortcomings in each other and soberly assess the prospect of their relationship.
There are a number of moments of the future life together that must be discussed at the very beginning of the relationship. These are questions about children, earning money, spiritual development, recreation, etc.
By the way, this is a method of constructing right relationship tested by intelligent psychologists and their happy clients.
Two people, despite their joint sympathy and falling in love, can have absolutely different views on the fundamentals of family life.
For example, she wants children, and in the near future, and he does not even want to think about it. On this basis, serious disagreements can arise, which often lead to a break in relations and the breakup of the family.
These four factors must be studied and assimilated, so that later disappointment in the “wrong” partner and unhappy relationships does not suddenly come.
How to get a complete guide on how to start a relationship the right way?
To really learn to understand the issue of a reasonable and correct building of relationships, you need to study a serious amount of knowledge.
Doing it yourself will take a lot of time. In this case, there is a high probability of making a mistake.
So I decided to create special video course on the topic "How to start a relationship for the subsequent creation of a happy family"
It consists:
— 4 video lessons for each of the considered factors;
— 4 PDF checklists in addition to video tutorials;
- A nice bonus from me personally;
- The book "Happiness and success is within us" as a gift.
This course includes reasonable practical knowledge that is used by the most famous psychologists and lecturers in the CIS. By creating relationships and a family according to the recommendations given in the course, you will greatly reduce the likelihood of divorce and an unhappy life. On the contrary, you will get the opportunity to create and develop harmonious relationships, in which happiness and mutual understanding will be the basis.
The course has been withdrawn from public access.
Looking at those women who get what they want in their personal lives, I would say that the beginning of their relationship with men usually proceeds according to the following scenario:
1. Find, get acquainted.
2. Attract attention, interest.
3. His dream. (You, of course)
4. Near-Far. Formation of dependence.
The points.
1. It is advisable already at the first stage of communication to understand what type of men you are interested in (his attitude to certain issues, financial situation, personality traits, etc.). In principle, most women, "trying on" a new acquaintance for the role of a friend, lover, husband, sponsor, do this automatically.
The "fitting" itself is an uncontrollable, instinctive process and often does not depend on the woman's conscious choice. Such a paradox is obtained when instincts pull a girl to an unintelligent, strong "male", the mind - to an ambitious and wealthy, and life experience- to the good and decent ...
It is better to immediately think about whether it is worth spending your time and other resources on this person or not. The saying "for lack of fish ..." does not work here. If there is no worthy candidate on the horizon, but "who knows what" is hovering around, we are waiting for our prince. If you took the bar - hold it to the end. Ideally, develop, communicate, and the “bar” will rise with experience, but in any case, you can’t exchange for unworthy ones.
You can get acquainted yourself, but it is much better if he takes the initiative. Any woman from birth knows how to provoke a man to action. Unless, of course, I forgot how to do it. Instincts will tell. Erotic (not aggressively sexual!), graceful non-verbal to help. Look, gestures, gait, voice...
2. We attract attention at the first stage. But here the task is to stand out favorably from the crowd of all other women. And these "others" can be much more than you think.
There must be a "zest" in a woman, some peculiarity. Everyone is modest and boring, but you are cheerful and energetic. No extremes. The presence of "special" talent is also welcome. Maybe you have the most beautiful walk Or do you know all brands of cars?
It is necessary that after talking with you, he thought about you. How to make him do it? Interest. By yourself, something else? A bit of intrigue and understatement... How to make him call himself and offer to meet again? Think. Analyze.
Self-positioning. What impression do you want to leave of yourself? How about an irresistible heartbreaker or good and faithful friend? What phrases, stories about yourself will you achieve this? Remember, he will think about you what you tell him about yourself with your behavior.
Here we show him a delicious and beautiful "candy". Let him look for an opportunity to "earn" it.
3. He must independently come to the conclusion that you are the best candidate for him at the moment. And to this conclusion it must be carefully brought. Do not leave such a responsible and important matter to him ... And for this you need to get into his card. Be his ideal.
We calibrate. What kind of woman does he want? How to find out? Let him tell. For example, about beloved female role. The received information is very easy to analyze. Home shy or bitch? Direct blonde or business woman? What qualities does he value? Any woman knows that talking about her former men starting is not desirable. Because it will be difficult not to give them ratings. If he was so wonderful, then why did they break up? Is there something wrong with you? And if it's bad, then why did you tolerate it? For the same reason, eliciting valuable information about his ex should be done carefully and unobtrusively. To keep the conversation from turning to you. What relationship does he want? Friendship, love, just communication, family relationships, sex? It is better to understand immediately, so as not to be disappointed later. The ability to listen (and hear) is an invaluable quality for a woman. 60% of the time, try to listen to him, along the way asking leading questions.
We are adjusting. Rapport at all levels. Let me remind you. We adjust to his posture, a comfortable distance between you, the pace of speech, etc. If you like him, and you do not close yourself from him, then everything will "adjust" by itself. We tune in to his values and beliefs. Again, no kinks. A person really appreciates when he has something in common with the interlocutor. Does he love animals? And you have such an amazing cat at home, who steals food from the table and sleeps on his favorite chair. Likes motorcycles? Do you have a friend who built his own bike. The man will appreciate it. Pay attention to the fact that you have a birthday in the same month or the same color of jeans. Attention: no fanaticism. No one is interested in easy prey, which itself wants to be caught. We adjust to his goals in life, priorities. Family? Career? Gouging?
At the same stage, as, in principle, at all the others, we arrange checks for him. Does it suit us on important points for us or not? For the same espionage purpose, stories about third parties are good. Your friend (not a girlfriend, because he will definitely decide that you are the same - this is a feature of many, not only men, to perceive girlfriends this way) cheated on her beloved and confessed. And he left her ... Who is right, who is to blame? He replies that he could forgive until the next time if he loved ... What conclusions do we draw? A man is understanding, capable of loving, but such an answer may indicate that he is used to "clinging" to a woman, and this, in turn, indicates a low rank.
At the peak of his positive attitude towards you, you say goodbye to him. A person's mood is like a graph. Rise, decline, rise, decline ... If you leave during the decline of his positive emotions, after an argument or during awkward pause, then he will unconsciously "bind" this state to communication with you, and therefore, to you. The first minutes of communication and the last are best remembered. So you can use it!
Here he achieved this delicious and beautiful candy. Enjoys his "victory". Naive...
4. Easy "next". By this we make it clear to the hunter that the candy must be earned. Now it is important that he understands that he needs you, that he needs you. We communicate on the "plus" in the mood chart, we do not communicate on the "minus". Be helpful to him. Only so that it never crossed his mind that he was using you. For example, he is very interested in talking with you. A dependency is being formed. Or are you one of the few who understand his worldview. A dependency is being formed.
He is a natural hunter. Let him hunt you. Conquer you. Don't give up right away. The Near-Further circuit should work constantly. So that he never had complete confidence that he "tamed" you. Surprise, don't let the relationship turn into a routine. Make easy rooftops. Open something new to him, always remain interesting. Even when he achieves what he wanted (most often it is sex), continue to "play".
And let him invest in you. How more strength, time, money he will spend at the beginning of the relationship - the more valuable you will be for him. But don't ask for gifts. Let him understand that you are very pleased with such signs of attention, and you appreciate it. At your place good mood and you give him "candy" again for this.