To be honest, military dating is a highly debated topic. Many women have found their soulmate among the military. And for those ladies for whom such a prospect is just emerging, we will tell you about the pros and cons of such a union - after all, as they say, forewarned is forearmed!
At any moment you can find yourself in such a hole that you never dreamed of. But every cloud has a silver lining.
Marriage to a military man provides a fairly reliable rear
Reliable in material terms. After all, people in uniform receive their salaries on time, plus they have various bonuses: advantages in solving housing problems, once a year free travel for the family to any place, food rations.
We intuitively feel that this type is an ideal candidate for the father of a future child. Of course, it’s scary to give birth far from your mother; you’ll have to forget about buying an apartment and going on vacation in Egypt. But this is the best time to start a career. There are much more opportunities in the outback. A new social circle will appear. As a rule, these are the same “Decembrists” with problems similar to yours.
Before jumping headlong into the dating pool, we suggest you find out what types of military people exist.
Psychotypes of military men
People in uniform are:
1.Hussars. This is a charming, darling husband who knows all your weaknesses. And not only yours. So don’t expect consistency from him, nor do you expect promotion. A cheerful and wild life is his element. So, if you want comfort and stability, think a thousand times about whether to marry him.
2. Special agents. He has good manners, intelligence, humor, strength of character, an iron grip. This is a cynical seducer. The main thing for him in life is victory. You will have the best memories about him. He marries at a fairly mature age.
3. Scouts. He is a calm, self-possessed, slightly reserved man of duty. He will appear at home very rarely. All his interests are aimed at career growth. If you are ready to devote all of yourself to serving this person, prepare for the fact that the house and children will be yours alone. But you can rest assured in your rear.
But in any case, the final decision about dating is up to you. Remember this when you decide your destiny.
“What are you thinking about now, dear?” - when asking this question, we really want to hear the truth, but for some reason we hope that it will be exactly like this: “About you, dear!
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“What are you thinking about now, dear?” - when asking this question, we really want to hear the truth, but for some reason we hope that it will be exactly like this: “About you, dear!”
So what do we really want to know? His real thoughts or his attitude towards us? Or perhaps just to make sure of his feelings once again? Is this why his answer “about fried potatoes” makes us despondent?
Often the unjustified hopes that we place on our life partners result in an insurmountable wall of resentment, irritation and disappointment. How to avoid this? How to maintain mutual understanding longer than the candy-bouquet period, and will the family be strong under the motto “endure it, fall in love”?
DOES A MAN NEED A WOMAN?
He needs her!
Without a woman, there is no development of a man, there is no incentive for growth (intellectual, career, spiritual, etc.) and the transfer of his gene pool into the future is impossible. The existence of such a person becomes meaningless, so any man, no matter what he says about women, good or bad, is looking for his woman. First of all, the guy’s psychology is based on this.
How does he do this?
Well, outwardly it looks like “let me meet you,” but on a deeper psychological level, all men are ranked - they confirm their natural rank by fulfilling their specific role.
In a primitive pack, the ranking of men determined the order of the right to bite (the right to receive food) and the right to a woman.
You have fulfilled your specific role - you have the right to food (material goods), and the woman shows you favor. Higher rank means more chances of being chosen as a woman. Yes, yes, exactly the chosen ones, not the chosen ones. The root of female commercialism lies much deeper than the ability to count money and spend it quickly. The man must be able to feed her while she bears and feeds the baby. This is a law of nature, naturally overgrown with a thick layer of rationalizations from both male and female points of view.
A specific role is a purpose given to a specific person by nature itself and provided with appropriate mental properties for its fulfillment.
By determining the vector set of a man, those very innate mental properties, we see his life goals, the character of a man, habits, values, attitude towards family and even. Anyone who understands human vectors will not have to read the psychology of men.
Yes, yes, right on the first date you can find out what sexual fantasies your gentleman has, what excites him, and what the limits of his sexual acceptability are.
MONOGAMIC, POLYGAMIC OR NEGAMIC AT ALL...
The popular concept of polygamy is used by men with great zeal and mainly in an attempt to justify their infidelities or numerous divorces.
However, true polygamy is much less common than it is talked about and is the prerogative. No more than 5% of such people are born, and only half of them reach adulthood. The basis of urethral polygamy is animal altruism, the need to give in response to shortages, natural justice and mercy. The undeniable highest rank of “leader” and a powerful libido at a deep psychological level give any woman the feeling that the birth of offspring is guaranteed.
We call such a man a “charming hooligan”, a heartthrob, a Casanova, an affair with a urethral man will always be one of the most vivid memories in life, but it is clear that a calm family life with such a hurricane is unrealistic.
However, not everything is so hopeless. By creating an emotional connection with our partner, we have the opportunity to move the relationship to another, higher level, thereby preserving it for a longer period.
A MILLION SCARLET ROSES OR A STAR WITH YOUR NAME
A woman’s heart melts when men compliment us, noticing a new hairstyle, a beautiful manicure or stylish shoes. At the same time, men's inattention to detail and forgetfulness of significant dates simply became a proverb. Are there any men who remember the date of their first kiss and know what color tea roses are?
Depending on the state of the vector, only a visual man will equally easily notice a new shade of your hair or a note of sadness in your voice. The special sensitivity of the visual sensor allows us to differentiate both changes in color and emotional state of the soul.
Great experts in creating a romantic atmosphere, they will not fail to light candles and place flowers on the table for your arrival. They feel every emotion with enormous force - not as vividly as in women, but disproportionately brighter than in men without a visual vector. A subtle sense of humor, high intelligence and sensuality are characteristic of a developed visual vector. In an undeveloped state, the same visual vector manifests itself in emotional swings and exhausting hysterics.
The complete opposite of the visual vector in emotional terms is. The romance of sound consists of contemplating the stars, about which he knows a lot, and listening to music - it is they, the sound engineers, who are the greatest connoisseurs of musical works, from classics to hard rock.
Self-absorbed, thoughtful and emotionless, such men captivate us with their unusual abstract thinking and obsession with the idea of scientific or spiritual search. All material wealth simply dissolves at the great depth of immersion of sound thought.
Living as if outside the physical world and concentrated on their thoughts, they not only do not think about starting a family or having children, but they may forget to eat or sleep, giving out the theory of relativity or the solution to the Poincaré hypothesis as a side effect of the process of self-knowledge. Therefore, you can become the wife of the future Einstein or Perelman largely thanks to your own initiative.
The article was written based on the training materials “ System-vector psychology»For Defender of the Fatherland Day, we collected stories of women who happened to love the military. It turns out that among them you can actually meet those very real men whom many women unsuccessfully look for in offices.
Special character
I have always liked the military, my grandfather was a military officer, an officer. Since childhood, I dreamed of a military husband. In early childhood I dreamed of a general. I was and still am attracted to the military, that is, probably what I like most is “honor and pride,” I would say, the ability to remain a man in any situation
I can say about my husband that he is a real man, and his character did not depend on the stages of development of our relationship. That is, before the wedding he was a gallant suitor and after the wedding he became a caring husband.
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Although the military is a special type of men. My husband also comes from a military family, and for them “woman” is a special concept. This is respect, honor, care.
I live behind a stone wall. Since he has a good upbringing, he never takes his anger out on me, although he has to make tough decisions at work.
Although, maybe it’s just his character, and the military uniform is just an appendage. It’s very nice when a man solves all family problems.
Larisa
Together no matter what
When I told my family and friends that I was going to marry a military man, they even locked me at home and didn’t let me go on dates. They were afraid that I would spend my whole life hanging around in garrisons, I would be left without an education, my children would have to change 20 schools before finishing 10 classes, my husband would walk around like a hussar, there would never be any money. But I still got married. And as it turned out, all their prophecies came true. But I don’t regret it, because my most beloved and most reliable man is always next to me.
Svetlana
Love can wait
When my boyfriend went into the army, I loved him madly, although we only dated for six months. I was 17, he was already 23, he deliberately joined the army, after college.
I was really very worried. And when he returned, he proposed to me on the first day, and two months later we got married and are still married.
So if there is love, then two years is not a hindrance to it, now in general you only have to wait one year.
Natalia
Not like regular guys
I am married to a military man - handsome, hefty! It so happened that all my boyfriends before my husband were ordinary guys, and when I met my husband, I realized that a military man and a non-military man are heaven and earth. And of course, I chose a military man. Moreover, my husband took me away from a guy with whom we had been dating for several years.
And my military man and I got married a few months after we met. I immediately realized that it was super reliable and shouldn’t be tested for years, and I was not mistaken. And now I am very happy with my husband, we already have children, and in all the years of our marriage I have never regretted my choice. He is not only strong and caring, but also a candidate of science. The army shows what kind of man he really is.
Alevtina
Not everyone is lucky
My husband is a military man. My friend also married a military man, and a month later she couldn’t stand it and ran away. He wanted everything to be the way he wanted, he didn’t take her into account, he said something - that’s it, it will be like that, and don’t care about her opinion.
It got to the point that he hit her because she put his slippers in the wrong place! And at first he seemed like such a man! Attentive, tactful... And that’s how it turned out.
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But my husband is the opposite - he’s very tough at work, but at home he’s just a pussy, gentle, calm, affectionate. I still don’t understand how he transforms like that. And he says that everything has its place, you need to show severity with soldiers, then they will understand the meaning of discipline, overcome hardships and become stronger in spirit, and you need to be affectionate with your wife, because this is the most beloved woman in the world.
Although we had a period when I wanted a different life and even took a lover, but because of his softness and weak character, he could not even be compared with my husband. I left him and began to understand even better what real military men are.
Irina
Three novels
I am the wife of a former military man and served myself. I had several romances with military men, especially my first romance was significant.
I met a guy, fell in love with him, and he fell in love with me. He went to serve, I decided to wait. And not a letter from him, I even had to write to the unit commander to find out if he was alive. He was alive and returned 2 years later with his wife and child. And I spent 2 years of my life on stupid fantasies about my role as an officer’s wife.
True, I then met another military man, and we had a long, hard life in the cities of the country.
And finally, for the third time I met the major, a real man, and now he is my beloved husband.
Svetlana
It is important to feel a man's shoulder
I have been married to a military man for many years. He is my military doctor, I doubly admire him, he is not only a defender of the homeland, but also saves human lives.
Perhaps God helps him for this, because we have lived quite well and financially all our lives. He worked for me all his life in a hospital in Moscow, and he also visited abroad.
They gave us a four-room apartment, then we decided to pay extra, and now we have our own house. The husband has always been the breadwinner and the master of the house.
It is very important for me to feel a man’s shoulder; I simply need my husband to make all the decisions, since over the years of living with him I have realized that he always makes exceptionally correct and correct decisions.
Regarding our personal life, like any couple, we had everything: crises, mistresses, lovers, and temporary separations, but I always understood that I would not find a better husband.
Zinaida
Many of the women find their husbands among the military. For those who doubt the choice, it will be useful to imagine the disadvantages and advantages of such a union. What awaits a woman who decides to connect her life with a military man?
Pros of marriage to a military man
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read article Kindergarten is most likely not shining, and the child will change schools more than once. In general, it will be difficult to “put down roots” and feel stability. In the closed world of a military garrison, a young woman can feel very uncomfortable and lonely. And your whole personal life is in full view...
But is everything really so hopeless? No, of course not! Common interests will allow you to find true friends among the same “Decembrists”. An unexpected career option is possible in the outback. Of course, you won’t be able to spend a vacation in Egypt, but seeing the most beautiful corners of our country is quite possible.
Types of husbands in uniform
Eternal cadet. This guy won't mature anytime soon. He admires his own “coolness” and does not suspect that the situation is under the reliable control of his wife, who herself chose him, having provided for many nuances. This option is only suitable for strong women who are capable of pushing their cadet into generalship patiently and purposefully.
The hussar is the soul of the company. You should not expect consistency or special promotions. His element is a cheerful life without obligations. It’s easy for someone like that to be thrown out of service because of drunken parties and “immorality.” For a woman who dreams of a strong family and stability, “hussar” is absolutely not suitable.
"Agent 007". This is a person with a strong character, systematically moving towards his goal. As a rule, he has a strong character, good manners and a grip of steel. Cynical and pragmatic, knows how to get his way. He marries quite late and not at all according to his heart.
A real soldier. Career growth, service and everything connected with it constitute the meaning of his life, the rest is secondary. The wife will have to carry life and children completely on her shoulders. In return, she is provided with a reliable rear. This option is suitable for women who are ready to devote themselves completely to serving their husband and children and abandon their own interests.
In conclusion, it should be recognized that if there are mutual feelings and the ability to tolerate the peculiarities of the profession, marriage with a military man can become a happy union for a long life.