How to behave in public places: be a real lady. What are the cultural norms and rules of behavior in public places

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INTRODUCTION
RULES OF CONDUCT IN PUBLIC PLACES
On the street
In public transport
In the shop
In the theater, at a concert, in a museum and at an exhibition
Rules of conduct in cinema
BUSINESS LUNCH ETIQUETTE
CONCLUSION
BIBLIOGRAPHY

INTRODUCTION

The culture of human behavior is an external expression of his spiritual wealth, the ability to communicate with people. The rules governing human behavior in society have been created over many centuries. They arose in connection with the need to streamline the communication of people, to make it more organized, pleasant and beautiful.
Often, a person's upbringing is judged only by his manners. But not only the external attributes of good breeding distinguish a cultured person.

RULES OF CONDUCT IN PUBLIC PLACES.

On the street.

On the street, you must follow the generally accepted rules of conduct. Every time you leave the house, take a look at yourself - do you need to clean your coat, suit, shoes. No matter how we hurry, we don’t fly, pushing the crowd, but we don’t trudge, barely, forcing passers-by to bypass us.
An educated person behaves on the street in such a way as to attract the attention of passers-by less: he does not speak loudly and does not laugh, avoids misunderstandings, and does not enter into a random skirmish. A disgusting habit of spitting, throwing cigarette butts, seed husks and other rubbish on the sidewalk.
A young man helps his companion to carry a heavy package, a shopping bag with groceries. If you need to go through a bridge, a narrow gate, along the side of the road, a woman, as well as people older than us, let us pass ahead. If going first turns out to be unsafe to some extent (among puddles, in the dark, etc.), the man takes on this role, finding and paving the way.
Avoid eating anything outside. And of course, you can not, walking along the sidewalk, douse passers-by with tobacco smoke.
Walking arm in arm is considered somewhat old-fashioned these days, making it difficult to move on crowded streets. In a slippery place, a young man can offer his hand to an elderly person or companion.
Among young people, it is a common custom to walk embracing. The young man puts his hand on the shoulder of the girl, and she hugs him around the waist. It looks immodest.
Accidents are not uncommon in the city. We try not to increase the crowd of onlookers. Let's help the old man carry the bag, take the blind man across the street. Need to be in the highest degree delicate, to closely examine a person with some kind of physical defect.
Pedestrians should avoid moving against the general flow whenever possible. Give way to an oncoming passerby and go around him with right side. If you notice that someone is in a hurry, step aside. Even in a very crowded place, they do not push, but ask permission to pass. If the road is narrow
and bad, then, if necessary, a man descends from the sidewalk onto the pavement. In narrow, cramped passages, as well as at stairs and doors, one should wait until those who are rightfully supposed to go first have passed.
An open umbrella is carried over the head so that water does not flow onto passers-by. When meeting with other pedestrians, the umbrella is raised or tilted to the side.
An oncoming passer-by on a narrow sidewalk is let through, stepping back (younger in age or a man). They don't walk in a line on the street.
Having met a friend and talking to him, do not stand in the middle of the sidewalk, step aside so as not to disturb other passers-by. When meeting someone older than you, don't stop them, but ask permission to see them off. It's impolite to stop unfamiliar people or a friend, if he is not alone. This can be done only as a last resort, of course, by apologizing and making sure that he is not in a hurry. If you are not walking alone and meet a friend with whom you want to exchange a few phrases, do not forget to apologize to your companion. He, in turn, having greeted everyone, is waiting for you or walking at a distance. However, it is not proper for a man to leave a woman alone. If you want to talk to your friend, introduce him to your companion.

In public transport.

If a group of people has accumulated while waiting for transport, then those who come should take their turn, and not stop in an indefinite position somewhere, so that when they land, they rush to the doors of the car, pushing back those who were first.
Upon entering public transport skip forward the disabled, children, the elderly and women. Help them if necessary. If one door is used for entry and exit, then people are first allowed to leave. The man gets out of the car first and helps his companion, the elderly or children. In the car, do not stop at the door, but go forward, freeing up space for other passengers. You can not fall apart on the seat and occupy it completely if it is designed for two. Bags on the seat can be put only if it is not standing and there are empty seats. If there are no free places, then they give up their place to the elderly, sick, pregnant women, people with small children. Both men and women, and especially young people, must do this. Giving way, you can say a few words, but you can do it silently. If you are given a seat, then do not take it for granted, you need to thank for showing attention. Thanks to both the man and the woman if the place was given to his companion. You can refuse the offered place. Then thank you for the favor and briefly explain why you did not use the courtesy. We advise young people: give way to everyone who is older than you, and your peers.
Young people staring out the window and trying not to notice the elderly person standing next to them are an unsightly picture. But, educating etiquette in adolescents and children, adults themselves need to follow the rules good manners. Parents should ensure that children do not soil the seats and clothes of other passengers with their feet. By the way, it is not necessary to seat a child who is able to play all day long without getting tired. Yielding to his whim, we thereby affirm in the child the opinion of his exclusivity. Permissiveness is a sign of an egoist.
Do not eat or smoke in public transport. They do not enter the car with ice cream in their hands. It does not shake snow or raindrops from clothes. Travel tickets and trash are not thrown on the floor. When sneezing and coughing, they use a handkerchief. In the carriage, they do not put their appearance in order, do not clean their nails, do not pick their teeth.
We try to stand steadily, not particularly leaning on other passengers when pushing or turning. Holding on to the handrails, we make sure that our elbows do not touch our neighbor, that our hand does not loom in front of his face. If we see that our progress towards the exit will hamper someone, we ask permission to pass, we inquire if the person is getting off at such and such a stop. If we get an answer that comes out, we stop and calmly wait.
Transport is not a place for public discussions. If we still have to enter into a conversation, and it is cocky, remember that only a sense of humor can help in this case.
If we accidentally push someone, we apologize. If they pushed us, in response to an apology we will say: "Nonsense!" - or just a friendly smile.
It has become common to read on the road. But in transport, the newspaper is not fully unfolded, but read folded. It’s not very nice to look into a neighbor’s book, to look at passengers point-blank. You should not talk about family or business affairs, eavesdrop on other people's conversations.
In a taxi, the driver is not reprimanded and is not required to increase the speed. If you are in a hurry, you can tell the driver about it, he will take care of the rest. But you can ask him to slow down the speed. Getting into the car, the man opens the door and lets a woman or an older man pass in front. The women usually sit in the back and the man sits next to the driver.

In the shop.

We go shopping every day. Respect for mutual courtesy here is a guarantee of order and good relations sellers and buyers.
Who must give way at the door of the store? Incoming. He makes it possible to leave the room, and then only enters himself, of course, while holding the door so as not to hurt the people following him. Address the seller politely, do not interrupt his conversation with a previous buyer.
Professional ethics requires the seller, in turn, to be extremely correct with buyers. Sometimes sellers, talking among themselves, do not pay attention to the buyer and do not even answer their questions. This is the height of tactlessness and a direct violation of official duties. In such cases, politely but firmly demand attention to yourself. When the buyer approaches, the seller is obliged to interrupt extraneous activities or, apologizing, ask to wait a little, say, if he is packing the goods. In turn, the buyer observes a number of immutable rules.
If you've come to the store to see if it's on sale the right goods and you carried with you the right money do not try on things that you are not going to buy. It is better to ask the seller about everything that interests you, and not force him to do meaningless work, and do not waste time yourself.
If you wanted to buy something, but could not find anything suitable, do not hesitate to tell the seller about it and thank him for his attention.
It is rude to try to get something without a queue. Such attempts will inevitably meet the just indignation of others. However, there are circumstances when you can ask to release food without a queue (hurry up to the train, a child or a sick person was left unattended at home). In this case, turn to those in front, explaining the reason for your request. It's easier than asking people in line to buy something for you as well. Yes, this is unfair to those who stand behind. In addition, we put those who are approached with such a request in an awkward position: either they must refuse us, or go on an ugly act in relation to other people and hear unflattering remarks from them addressed to them.

In the theater, at a concert, in a museum and at an exhibition.

You can often see in the theater, at a concert of girls and boys in casual clothes. This is due to the fact that they came here from work. Going to the theater, to a concert, one must strive to dress beautifully in order to create festive mood both to yourself and to the people around you.
Having missed the companion at the door, the man goes first into the hall to find his place. If 2 pairs of acquaintances came to the theater or to a concert, women sit in the middle, and men at the edges. Passing to your seats, try not to disturb the already seated spectators, and turn to face them. The man goes first along the narrow aisle between the rows and helps his companion to sit down, lowering the seat of the chair. Try not to make noise, do not occupy both armrests of the seats, do not lean your hands or feet on the chairs in front. It is best not to be late for a performance, concert, but if this happens, go to the balcony or sit in the nearest free seat. You will find your place in the break. Programs and binoculars are held on their knees. It is indecent to look at others through binoculars during the intermission. It is not allowed to talk (even in a whisper) during a session, cinema or theatrical performance, all the more so it is impossible to comment loudly on what is happening on stage. If you don’t like a performance or a movie, sit silently, and at the right moment (during a break between scenes, exits of artists) leave the hall. In the cinema, men and women take off their high hats so as not to interfere with the viewers sitting behind them to see the screen. Avoid rolling around in your chair, coughing or sneezing. If you are sick, for example, with the flu, it is strictly forbidden to visit public places.
The artists are thanked with applause, but musical works (symphonies, quartets, etc.) are not interrupted by applause. They usually applaud at the end of the movement (before the intermission). At the end of a performance, a concert, do not run to the wardrobe or to the exit: this will not save much time, but will only create confusion and spoil the impression of the spectacle, music.
Observe certain rules of behavior in museums and exhibitions. When moving around the hall, try not to interfere with others to concentrate their attention and enjoy the works of art. To do this, do not get too close to other visitors, do not block the paintings with your back, do not talk loudly. And of course, you can not touch the exhibits with your hands. In order not to dispel the impression, it is useful to inspect only those exhibits that are of interest to you. It makes no sense to quickly run through all the halls without highlighting individual paintings by some artist.
If you are visiting the halls accompanied by a guide, then listen to his explanations in silence, without moving too close to him so as not to disturb the others. If you have any questions, ask them after the story is over or during a pause. It is indecent to talk to neighbors during the tour.
Of course, it can be difficult to contain emotions when examining bright works art or fashion models. Another picture touches to the depths of the soul, and some object of the exhibition simply outrages. But still, try to be restrained, do not judge the work by its first impression. Often, upon re-examination, a different impression arises. In any case, refrain from disparaging remarks about the paintings and the author. An intelligent person is modest and self-possessed. And a true connoisseur of art never shows his enthusiasm too noisily and does not flaunt his erudition in front of people.

Film rules.

You can come to the cinema during the day without preparing in advance - hence the great freedom of action. If you haven't taken outerwear in the wardrobe, carefully, without hitting the neighbor, put the coat on your lap.
If you have a furry hat, you need to take it off.
At festival premieres, various film festivals, the rules of conduct apply, as in the theatrical theater, including applause during and after the screening.
At a regular film show, you should follow the same rules as in the theater: do not make noise, come before the start of the show, take only your seats, go, if necessary, facing those sitting, do not chew, do not litter, do not leave until the end of the show. You can leave the hall only if the film did not meet your expectations at all, while trying not to disturb others.

BUSINESS LUNCH ETIQUETTE.

Business lunch with colleagues or business partners - popular in business circles an event that is usually held in a restaurant or cafe during the lunch break. A lot depends on a business lunch: your image as business man, the image of the company, which will be judged by your behavior, the success of important negotiations, entry into the highest business circles, etc. That's why courses like Business Lunch Etiquette are starting to gain popularity, covering every aspect of a business lunch, from how to eat spaghetti without dropping it on your shirt to how to properly open mussels.
When accepting an invitation to dinner, you need to think about your goals and see if a more relaxed atmosphere of the feast will help to solve them. It may be easier to resolve these issues in an institution or over the phone. Each meeting associated with a feast can take from one to three hours, and you need to be extremely respectful of your own and other people's time.
The uniform adopted for business lunches is everyday work. If a business lunch is held in a cafe, then the requirements for clothing are minimal - even jeans are allowed. The restaurant makes higher demands on clothing, as a rule, this is a suit or dress - for a woman. Going to a restaurant, a business woman should not change her business image. A business lunch is not a place for coquetry and excessive demonstration of one's femininity; deep necklines that cause cuts and bright jewelry are inappropriate here - they are intended for the evening. However, it must be remembered that only a table will separate you from the interlocutor, so makeup and manicure must be impeccable, and lipstick of such quality so as not to be eaten with a snack.
Meeting point. When choosing a meeting place, it is necessary to show good breeding and tact. When you are interested in a conversation, you can emphasize your respect for the person by arranging a meeting place closer to their place of work. The level of the restaurant should correspond to the position occupied by the people you invited.
Organization. It is necessary to strictly observe the agreements agreed in advance on the place, time and composition of the meeting participants (who, where and when will meet). Only when absolutely necessary can changes be made to a pre-approved plan. So, if you intend to meet with someone face to face at breakfast, and the invitee calls you and announces that he intends to come with his secretary and someone else, you must decide whether meeting in such a composition is in your interests and is it really worth it.
Seating at the table. If a reservation is made, it is good manners to wait until all the guests have gathered and only then sit down at the table. If you need to spread out the papers, and you are meeting with only one person, it is preferable to sit at a table for four, and not for two. In this case there will be good reasons Invite the person to sit to your right, not across from you.
Despite the fact that you need to behave naturally at the table, it is still worth adhering to some rules. For example, sit upright with your lower back pressed against the back of a chair and your feet flat on the floor.
Do not cross your legs while eating, and if you do not use a knife and fork, put your hands on your knees. Although the pose seems more relaxed when the right hand is on the knees, and the wrist of the left hand is on the table. Sometimes - between serving dishes - you can put your elbows on the table, but not during meals. Take food from common dishes should be placed next to it cutlery, most often it is a fork and a spoon. Be extremely careful that when holding the spoon or fork in right hand, do not drop food.
When using a knife and fork, make sure that your fingers do not touch the blade or the teeth. If the device is not needed temporarily, put it on the edge of the plate, but not on the tablecloth. And when you use only a fork, rest the knife on the right edge of the plate, where it will least interfere.
The feast is not over yet, but there is a pause in the meal ... In this case, the cutlery is placed on the plate crosswise: the knife is pointed to the left, the fork is convex up, so that the knife handle is located like a clock hand pointing to the number 5, and the fork handle - to the number 7, the crossing point should fall on the teeth of the fork and upper part knife. It is not forbidden to put the cutlery with the handle on the table, and with the working side on the plate. At the end of the meal, they are placed on a plate parallel to each other so that the handles show at 5 o'clock, the blade of the knife looks to the left, and the convex part of the fork is up. If this is an official reception, then this arrangement of devices will serve as a signal to the waiter that you have finished eating.
Dessert spoon and fork are also placed parallel to each other. When dessert is served in a vase high leg or in a deep vase on a front plate, the device is placed on this plate. If the vase is small and wide, you can leave the spoon in it or put it on a plate.
It is also worth adhering to special manners. In practice, two manners of eating at the table are accepted: European, when the knife is always held in the right hand, and the fork in the left, and American, in which the fork is shifted from the left hand to the right after one or more pieces of meat or poultry are cut off. . In America, a knife is used only for cutting food, then it is left on the edge of the plate, and the free left hand drop to the knee.
Sitting down at the table normal conditions, you unfold the napkin, fold it in half so that the bottom edge protrudes forward, and place it on your lap. At a formal dinner, you should wait until the hostess of the reception sets an example by doing it first. If napkins are served at the table, then they are completely unfolded on their knees. In no case should men tuck a napkin behind the collar, between the buttons of a shirt or in the waistband of trousers. When using a napkin, do not wipe your mouth with it, but slightly blot your lips. After the feast, casually roll it up and place it to the left of cutlery. At a dinner party, the hostess of the reception, in order to signal to all those present that the meal is over, puts her napkin on the table first. Guests can only do this after her. Napkin rings are used exclusively for family dinners.
Do not use a toothpick at the table. If a piece of food is stuck in your teeth, wait for a pause, apologize, get up from the table and go to the bathroom, where you can solve the problem with a toothpick or rinse your mouth. In America, this rule is strictly enforced, but in Europe it is considered quite appropriate to remove a piece of stuck food with a toothpick right at the table, hiding behind a napkin.
“Tastes do not argue” - this expression comes to mind every time it turns out that one of the guests for some reason cannot or does not want to taste this or that dish. Except for those who do not eat certain foods out of conviction, many people do not eat certain foods out of medical indications, and asking them about it is not always convenient. And since you are acting as an inviting party, keep in mind this circumstance. Good to have in stock various products to get out of the situation if a sticky situation arises.
When refusing a dish offered by the waiter, quietly say "No, thanks" or simply shake your head. If you want to give up wine or any other drink, it is enough index finger touch the rim of the glass.
Payment. Either the person who first proposed the meeting, or the one in a higher position, must pay the bill. If the situation can be misinterpreted as an attempt to win someone's special favor, it should be suggested that everyone pays for himself. This is especially true for representatives of the media and civil servants at all levels: breakfast of a journalist or official at someone else's expense may be considered an attempt to influence the press or a manifestation of corruption in public authorities. However, the most general approach nevertheless, it will be like this - the inviter takes all the expenses on himself.
Gratitude. After a business lunch, it is customary to at least thank the invitee. More appropriate, however, would be a thank-you note, although this element in business relations are often neglected.

Business lunches have become very popular in business circles. It is simply impossible to imagine business life without them. They are an integral part of the life of every business person.

CONCLUSION.

Intelligence is not only in knowledge, but also in the ability to understand another. It manifests itself in a thousand and thousand little things: in the ability to argue respectfully, to behave modestly at the table, in the ability to quietly help another, to protect nature, not to litter around oneself - not to litter with cigarette butts or swearing, bad ideas.
At the heart of all good manners there is concern that a person does not interfere with a person, so that everyone feels good together. We must be able not to interfere with each other. It is necessary to educate in oneself not so much manners as what is expressed in manners, careful attitude to the world, to society, to nature, to one's past.
No need to memorize hundreds of rules, but remember one thing - the need for a respectful attitude towards others.

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1. Braim I.N. Ethics business communication. - Minsk, 1996,
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Ability to behave in in public places in various situations, not only tells others that you are a well-mannered and cultured person, but also facilitates the establishment of contacts, contributes to the achievement of mutual understanding, creates warm and stable relationships.

Etiquette in public places

The requirements of etiquette in public places are not absolute: their observance depends on time, place and circumstances. That is, behavior that is unacceptable in one place and under one circumstance may be appropriate in another place and under other circumstances.

At the entrance

According to etiquette, a man lets a woman forward, a subordinate-chief, a junior-senior. If people of the same position, gender and age collide at the door, the one who is closer to the door yields.
If you come home with a guest, you need to let him go first. If a person is visiting you for the first time, or if it is dark outside the door, you must enter first with the words: “Let me see you out,” and hold the door, letting the guest through.

On the stairs

When climbing up, the woman goes first, the man can be in front only if the stairs are dark, shaky or steep. When descending, the man goes first.
If on the stairs comes towards old man or the boss, you need to take a step to the side, stop and let the walker pass. The same should be done by a man in this situation in relation to a woman.
The side of the stairs on which the railing is located is the privilege of children, the elderly and the weaker sex. The man must give them a place at the railing.

In the elevator

If you are in an elevator without an escort, you must press the button yourself. If with a man - this is his duty.
A man should let the woman go ahead and stop behind her (unless, of course, he accompanies her).

In the shop

At the door of the store, first let people out, and only then enter yourself.
When making a purchase, do not tire the seller and those around you with petty whims and protracted indecision. When approaching the cash register, keep a wallet with money ready so as not to look for them at the last moment

At the restaurant

Remember that the phrase: “I invite you” means that they will pay for you, and the phrase: “Let's go to a restaurant” means that everyone pays for himself (unless, of course, the man has discussed this moment with you in advance) .
Do not put your phone, smartphone, etc. on the table. This will mean that you are not interested in what is happening around, and the phone plays more important role in your life than the people around you.
The head waiter always draws conclusions about who will pay, according to who enters the restaurant first: that is, the one who invited to the restaurant should enter first. If visitors are met by a porter, then the man lets the woman go ahead, after which he must find empty seats.
Don't move your head around looking for a free seat, don't rip out the menu, and don't take the initiative if you're walking with a man - that's his privilege.
Do not rush to sit down at the table, wait for the man to move a chair for you.
Leaving the restaurant, the man must let the woman go ahead and give her clothes.

In theater and cinema

You can not be late for the beginning of the performance or film.
Come to your seats facing the seated, not with your back.
Sit quietly in your seat without bending over. different sides and not twisting (especially if you have a lush hairstyle).
During a performance or viewing a picture, do not interfere with others: do not talk, do not wave your arms, do not tap your hands to the music, do not laugh out loud.
Do not leave the hall during the action or some time before its end - this is ill-mannered in relation to the actors.

In transport

At the entrance to the transport, children, women, the elderly and those who occupy a higher position are first let through (if you suddenly met them on the bus). When leaving the transport, the men go first to give a hand to the woman and those who need such help.
Children, the elderly, the disabled and women should occupy seats in transport. If all the seats are occupied, and you see an old man entering, a woman with a child or a pregnant woman, be sure to give up your seat.
Before you sit in an empty seat, ask those around you for permission - perhaps someone simply did not have time to take a seat.

On the street

Oncoming people on the street need to be bypassed only on the right side, to overtake passers-by - the same way.
If a man is sometimes allowed to smoke on the street, it is unacceptable for a woman.
On the go, do not speak loudly and do not wave your arms, especially if there is something in them (umbrella, bag, etc.).
A man on the street should always go to the left of the lady. Only military personnel who need to respond to a military salute can go to the right.
On the street you can not laugh loudly, communicate noisily, stare at other people.
If someone calls you impolitely on the street (for example: “Hey, you!”), Do not respond to this call. Better silently pass by and pretend not to hear.
Don't eat on the go. It is permissible to eat ice cream or a pie on the street, standing at a stall or kiosk or sitting on a bench.

General rules

Many perceive the rules of etiquette in public places as something shameful and difficult to implement, but in fact they are quite simple - this is elementary politeness, a culture of speech, a neat appearance and the ability to manage your emotions:

When entering a room, always say hello first.
Indoors, you can keep your gloves and hat on, but be sure to take off your hat and mittens.
Let a man carry a bag with groceries and things, but do not allow him to carry a handbag or an umbrella behind you, a removed jacket or coat - it looks ridiculous.
When using perfume, observe moderation. If you still smell your perfume in the evening, know that the rest have already suffocated.
If your companion greeted someone (even a person you don't know), you should also say hello.
When leaving the house, your appearance should be neat and tidy, shoes cleaned.
If you are insulted in a public place, never respond to rudeness and, moreover, do not raise your voice - do not stoop to his level. Smile and politely move away from the ill-mannered interlocutor.

In public places (and at home too), always remember that you are a lady and behave accordingly and with dignity and demand the same from your companion.

Probably every person at least once in his life faced with a child who behaves incorrectly. His actions may cause varying degrees rejection, but it immediately becomes clear to everyone, sometimes intuitively, that the child violates the foundations accepted in society.

Peculiarities

Order in society is provided by laws and moral norms. Children are accountable before the law only after reaching certain age limits, but this does not mean that they go unpunished.

Parents and other legal representatives are responsible for serious offenses. In addition, the consequence of any misconduct is public censure. A student who does not comply with certain norms will not be able to establish communication, fully live and study, and risks becoming an outcast.

There are several reasons why students behave badly:

they may simply not know how to do it;
rules can be observed purely formally, without conscious desire;
children often simply do not understand why there are rules of conduct, and what benefits their observance provides.

To avoid this, the following is important.

Teach your child how to behave. To do this, individual and group conversations are held, posters and memos are posted. In early childhood, parents are the source of knowledge. When a child becomes a pupil of a kindergarten or school, specialists are also involved in education.
Link theory with practice. It is impossible to analyze in detail all situations, but it is possible to give students the basic principles according to which they will build their behavior model.
Control violations, sort out problem situations. It is important to teach the child the basics of introspection.

If a child has already learned antisocial actions, it will be more difficult to retrain him. Therefore, education should start from early childhood. This does not mean that restrictions will be placed on the child. It’s just that such measures will help the child understand the behavior of other people and form their own opinion.

Culture of behavior

The culture of behavior obliges to behave in accordance with the rules and norms accepted in society. And here we can talk about both universal human norms and the principles inherent in a particular society. It is impossible to distinguish between culture for the upper or middle class. Everyone has the same values, and they do not depend on the status of a person.

Established norms of ethics should be common for children of different age groups: both for younger students and teenagers. Even a baby can have the right manners, and you need to behave well not only in society, but also in the family.

The culture of behavior is a system of interrelated elements, such as:

interpersonal relationships within groups and between individuals, as well as between students and teachers, parents and other members of society;
etiquette (and the ability to apply it in different situations);
competent oral and written speech (since with the help of it all communications are carried out);
non-verbal signs (these include gestures, facial expressions and other actions that complement speech and contribute to understanding by other people);
attitude towards the environment (including nature).

Do not underestimate the peculiar preparation: before going to any public place, the student or his parents (if we are talking about elementary school student) must take care of his appearance, hygiene.

A neat and tidy appearance is also part of the child's culture, however, as well as his attitude towards himself, the organization of study, home, life or leisure.

In general, the culture of student behavior is always influenced by several factors:

parenting;
the influence of educational institutions;
belonging to a religious or ethnic community (mentality);
example of others.

Communication rules

All norms governing the communication of students can be divided into several groups (depending on the place of their application).

In the learning process

This includes behavior in general education, music, sports schools, sections, circles.

Communication between students takes place during breaks, after lessons or at a time specially allotted by the teacher.
During the break, you can not run up the stairs and play outdoor games, during which others may suffer.
Communication should be calm, without the use of profanity.
During the lessons, you can not talk, make noise, get up without permission and distract other students.
Greet and address teachers with respect. At the appointed time, before you say or ask something, you need to raise your hand.
The rules that form the charter of the school apply on the territory of the school. According to him, the child is obliged to obey the requirements of the staff.
Since school activities are subject to a strict schedule, it is important to be punctual and not be late. In case of absence for a valid reason, it is necessary to warn the teacher.

On the street

The way to school or other public place students overcome on foot, by public or private transport; accompanied by parents or independently (if age permits). A few rules of conduct in such cases:

being outside the school walls, the student must remember that any act can adversely affect both his reputation and the reputation of the educational institution;
communication with peers and children younger age should be friendly, be sure to say hello and say goodbye;
older people should be treated politely, offer all possible assistance, give way in transport, hold the door;
you can not distract the driver on the bus or parents when they are driving;
all games that interfere with passers-by or threaten someone else's property must take place on appropriate playgrounds and sports grounds;
the student must be instructed by parents or teachers on how to behave on the sidewalk and roadway;
it is legally prohibited for minors to be in public places after ten o'clock in the evening unaccompanied by adults;
For your own safety, do not talk to strangers, get into a car with them or agree to requests to move to another place.

In other public places

When visiting the cinema, theater, zoo, library, stadium, you should remember the following.

Before you go to any event in a new place, you need to carefully study the acceptable rules of conduct. For example, in the cinema it is permissible to consume food and drink during the screening, but in the theater it is not. In the zoo, you can buy special food for animals and even stroke them, and in the museum, all touching is prohibited.
All actions must be carried out with the expectation that they do not interfere with anyone. In the library, theater and cinema (equally), students are prohibited from laughing, talking on the phone, or in any other way causing inconvenience to other visitors.
If you can talk according to etiquette, you should not attract attention to yourself with loud noise (for example, in a cafe). with an interlocutor and service personnel should communicate carefully. Don't turn your back, ignore greetings, and ignore polite words (such as "thank you", "please", "goodbye").
Boys with early years you need to teach to help the girls, let them go ahead. When entering a building, exits go first, then incoming.
In case of occurrence dangerous situation you should immediately contact the rescue service or at least tell an adult.

Generally Accepted Principles

Every child will become an adult sooner or later. It is scary to imagine what will happen in society if people's behavior is chaotic, unrestricted by anything. That is why it is important to educate in a child qualities that are passed down through several generations.

At the heart of any education are the principles of responsibility for one's actions, humanism, kindness, friendship, respect. A student who has mastered them is able to make individual decisions in accordance with the situation and without contradicting social norms.

Every day we encounter different people. In transport, at work, in the store, on the way home, we meet a lot of people hurrying about their business. Compliance with the rules of conduct allows you to avoid bad situations, which we sometimes witness. There are frequent cases of unpleasant conversations in transport or quarrels in the store. An educated person knows how to behave correctly and will definitely avoid such situations.

Why are rules needed?

From early childhood, children are taught how to behave properly. From the first days, adults should help the baby become a cultured person, be able to get along with other children at a child's pace and at school. Growing up, everyone should remember these rules and follow them. Such norms exist to help anyone avoid embarrassing situations, which not only spoil the mood, but also leave an unpleasant impression for a long time. How an individual gets out of an unpleasant situation depends on how familiar he is with such a concept as etiquette.

The correctness of our actions largely depends on how people around us see us. Society begins to evaluate a person and all his actions.

Proper Behavior will help to establish contact with new acquaintances, achieve mutual understanding, create a fertile ground for further cooperation.

The purpose of the rules of conduct is to create a comfortable environment for each member of society, avoiding rudeness, rudeness, and disrespect for individuals. It depends on each individual person, on his ability to behave correctly and comply with generally accepted norms, what kind of society we are creating.

Although we are taught the rules of good manners and the ability to behave culturally in a public place from early childhood, judging by the frequent conflicts, some norms of etiquette are not taken into account by individuals. Ethics is a kind of standard of behavior, a system of rules adopted in society.

by the most important elements V Everyday life should become: a rule of good manners, kindness to others and Special attention to them.

Norms of behavior of children

The child is faced with a small amount people are parents and relatives, doctors, neighbors. Getting into kindergarten, he feels insecure if the parents failed to instill the rules in time good behavior to be observed in such establishments.

Each person in a new place feels insecure, and for a child, such a situation can cause stress at all. Gradually teach your child to a large number people, talk about the rules of conduct. Explain what actions are unacceptable for children.

Growing up, the child will already have certain rules in his luggage, know them and try to comply.

We often observe on the street or in a store how ugly a child begins to behave, arranging tantrums. Small children beg for toys and sweets from their parents. As for teenagers, they can make loud noises, swear, smoke, behave inappropriately. Such behavior should be unacceptable for minors.

Many of them know that there are norms to be followed, but not all of them follow them. Teenagers should understand that parents can be punished for their non-compliance. From the age of 14, they themselves will be able to be responsible for violating public peace.

Cultural skills should become the basis of life, because a person with good upbringing easier to build relationships with others throughout life

There are certain rules that must be followed:

It is not recommended to shout loudly in a public place.
You can not throw garbage in the trash, spit, break trees and bushes.
Need to follow the rules traffic, to cross the road in the prescribed metas.
You can’t do bad deeds, you should warn your peers from them.
Children should not mock and tease other people, as well as insult, damage the property or clothes of their peers.
You can't hurt little ones.
The elderly must be respected.

Judging by the fact that such actions can be seen quite often, these children were not sufficiently taught how to behave properly in a public place.

Adults are obliged to teach the child how to act correctly in places where there are a lot of people so as not to disturb the peace. It is necessary to make it clear to the baby that well-mannered people will not scream and make noise, throw pieces of candy on the floor, whistle and spit.

When a baby gets to a new place, he must understand how to behave and what not to do. For example, tell your child that in the zoo you can not tease animals, throw stones, climb onto the bars, shout loudly and spit. So, a young visitor will not only scare the animals, but will also interfere with those who came to the zoo, and put himself in danger.

When visiting a circus or cinema, the child must observe the correct manners. Explain why no food is eaten during the performance, while popcorn and drinks are brought to the circus. When visiting the museum, children should listen carefully to what the guide says, and also not touch the exhibits and showcases on display.

Particular attention should be paid to children on their behavior in transport. Explain to the child that:

The women and the elderly enter first, then the children enter.
Passing through the cabin, the elbows should be pressed, you can not push passengers with them.
You need to pay your fare on time.
Loud music gets in the way, so turn it down or turn it off.
You can not make inscriptions on the seats, damage property, throw garbage.
Do not make noise, shout, or distract the driver while the vehicle is in motion
If the child has not eaten the purchased hot dog or pie, it should be put in a bag and eaten after disembarking from the transport, otherwise passengers can be dirty. Use napkins while eating, eat carefully, do not champ.
The child should always have a handkerchief with him and use it as needed. When sneezing or coughing, you should always cover your mouth, use tissues or a handkerchief.
Also explain to the child that it is necessary to monitor their appearance and when going outside, be clean and neatly dressed, combed.

From early childhood, children are taught to be polite. For such training better fit your daily example. Do not forget to say polite words in the family at home, When parents or relatives constantly use the words “thank you”, “please”, “ Bon appetit», « Good morning», « Good night” and so on, the child himself begins to pronounce them and learns the first rules of politeness.

Don't forget to teach your child important rules behaviors:

When opening doors, you should knock.
Do not interrupt the conversation of the elders.
Don't ignore, walk away or turn away.

The child needs to instill cultural behavior at the table. Children copy their parents. If adults in a family do not always behave correctly, then young household members begin to repeat their actions. Teach your child how to behave at the table and tell me what not to do while eating.

To make it clearer to the child (and for greater effect), hang pictures above the dining table with rules on how to eat and what not to do. Yes, in game form it will be easier to teach the baby the important rules of behavior and etiquette at the table.

The child must know that:

Before eating, be sure to wash your hands with soap.
You need to be able to wipe yourself with paper napkins.
You need to take enough food.
Know how to use the equipment correctly.
Always give thanks after meals.

At the same time, the child should be explained what should not be done during meals:

Stuff your mouth full of food while talking.
Spit out food.
To indulge, spin, turn away, act up.

The child should know how to sit neatly and correctly at the table. Have him sit in a comfortable chair so he can easily eat on his own without spilling the soup on his clothes.

I would especially like to draw the attention of parents to the fact that you should teach your baby not to slurp at the table. which adults sometimes do. Start raising your child with yourself. The kid watches how his parents themselves behave in society. If he sees that they swear loudly, spit past the urn, throw papers and be rude in the store, then this is hardly a worthy example to follow.

Growing up, your child falls into the company of peers who will have a certain influence on him. Show him what bad behavior looks bad from the outside, and also explain why other people condemn bad deeds, and how this can affect their future.

The established order for adults

Adults must also adhere to the rules of behavior not only on the street, but also in the family. A lot depends on how adults know how to behave properly in public places. Using the rules of cultural communication, you can establish new contacts in the workplace and at home.

On the street

When we leave our homes, we encounter a lot of people. On the street, in transport, shops, adults should behave in such a way as not to cause inconvenience to others and adhere to certain requirements:

Take care of clean and comfortable clothes and walking shoes. Hair must be clean and neatly styled.

When crossing the street, carefully look around or pass at a traffic light. Never run in front of cars or in undesignated areas. Also, you can not walk on the lawn.
When moving, do not wave your arms, do not keep your hands in your pockets, do not slouch, look forward, but do not forget to look at your feet. If you want to have a snack, you can buy a bun or a pie, step aside and eat the food. Do not chew on the go - it's ugly. In addition, you can stain the clothes of yourself and people walking nearby.
Do not throw garbage, napkins and cigarette butts on the road. If there is no bin nearby, put the trash in your pocket temporarily. For people who smoke there are corners where they can smoke. Smoking is prohibited in public places.

While walking, you should not push people away, and also move forward by pushing with your elbows. Walk around and overtake passers-by should be on the right.

If several people are walking on the sidewalk, there are certain rules:

You should not walk in a crowd along the street, interfering with passers-by. 3 people walking side by side are allowed.
If a man and a woman are walking, the lady should walk on the right. The exception is the military - they should be saluted.
If two men walk with a woman, the lady walks in the middle.
If there are two ladies and a man, an older woman goes next to him, then a younger one.
If the ladies are of the same age, the gentleman goes between them.

In transport

Traveling by public transport requires certain rules to be followed:

When entering public transport, remove bulky bags and backpacks so as not to hit other passengers.
You should not occupy more than one seat in transport, exposing your legs wide.
If you are asked a question, you should listen carefully and answer it.
Do not forget magic words: "thank you", "please" - be friendly. If you accidentally hurt a passenger, you should immediately apologize. Often in transport you can observe such situations when someone stepped on the foot or pushed. It is very unpleasant when a scandal begins, and it was enough just to apologize politely.
If you eat with small children, make sure that they do not make noise, do not interfere with neighbors, do not scream. Make a quiet remark to them, and discuss this issue with them at home.

Why do you need to know and follow the rules of behavior in public places?

The rules of conduct in public places need to be known and observed in order to maintain order and for the safety of oneself and others. If you want to be respected by the people around you, you need to treat them accordingly. Treat others the same way you would like to be treated.

There are rules of conduct, the violation of which leads to isolation from the society in which you violate them.

If the violation is of a criminal nature, then the isolation will be physical - arrest, several days + scattering, trial, etc.

If the violation is moral and behavioral, but not criminal, then the society itself will repel you, because it does not want to communicate with you. After all, you do not follow the rules of behavior of this society, which means you are an outsider. And society won't help you Hard time, will not support, because you do not support it, violating the norms of behavior in this society. I think it's all fair.

Something like this...

Simply, so as not to look like a black sheep, so as not to be looked at with judgmental or evaluating views. And in general, the rules of conduct were not invented in vain, this is a manifestation of respect for the people around you.

Imagine that not only you, but also all other people will cease to follow the rules of conduct ... It will be chaos in which only boors, lawless people and anarchists will want to live. Elementary rules must be observed even out of self-respect.

It is necessary to know and follow the rules of behavior in public places in order not to harm yourself, people around you and nature. A cultured person will always follow the rules of conduct. It's nice to talk to such a person.

In general, the rules of conduct, it is desirable to observe not only in public places. Just in public places, non-compliance with these rules is especially striking and causes indignation of others. It's not for nothing that they say that how you treat people is how they treat you.

In order not to look like a redneck, because they can say so about you if you slurp and do not follow the rules of behavior at the table. And also in public places, so that you do not throw sidelong glances.

Rules of conduct are necessary for a harmoniously developed country, so as not to be like animals, to be people in the end, to be developed, educated, to respect other people, to be cultured, culture is morality.

In a public place, we are not alone and it is not always pleasant for those around us, what we are used to doing at home. In public places, we are forced to observe certain norms of behavior and we want the same from others. For example, not everyone is pleased to be with a drunk, foul-smelling and swearing person. This is where the rules are needed.

You need to follow these rules in order not to be a black sheep in society. Whatever you are considered crazy. Since the prevailing mentality in society is a long-term phenomenon. You may not be accepted into this society if you do not follow these rules.