Do men love their exes? The whole truth from the first person. Scientists have discovered how quickly a person forgets an old love

Text: Ekaterina Eliseeva

Parting with a once (or still) dear and beloved person is not easy for both men and women. Another thing is that the rehabilitation process for representatives of the stronger half of humanity is completed in the blink of an eye, but for women it can take more than one year.

the site found out why this happens and whether it is worth calling men who rush in search of a new lover immediately after breaking up with the previous one heartless blockheads.

There is no need to rush into hanging labels and labels, German sexologist Frauke Höllering is sure, but there is still some difference in the behavior of men and women after a breakup. Behind a man’s desire to start a new relationship as soon as possible, as a rule, is not heartlessness, but logic and... pragmatism: “Many men get used to living in comfort, they like it when they are looked after. In this case, it is absolutely not necessary that the next new woman be ideal - the very One. Usually they are satisfied with the intermediate option - the so-called “comforter”, who is initially forgiven for some mistakes and shortcomings. The relationship with her lasts until the man finds someone better.”

Four (!) weeks after the breakup, the man is ready to build new love. To recover from a breakup, women need a little more than a year.

How men behave after a breakup

The results of a study commissioned by one of the dating sites are as follows: every fourth man very quickly falls in love with new woman. In order to come to your senses, stronger sex enough... four weeks. This activates a protective mechanism that protects the victim. male pride.

Instead of licking their wounds and remembering what was done wrong and when, men stop thinking about the past and turn their gaze to the future. But not because they want to knock out a wedge with a wedge. Rather, they act from the consideration that what happened happened, nothing can be done. And if so, then you need to accept this event and continue to live.

How women behave after a breakup

Men's tactics - looking forward to the future - have practically nothing in common with the most common women's strategy. According to the study mentioned above, almost 40% of women need just over a year to “process” a breakup. It is clear that with this approach, in most cases there is no question of new relationships. Many women see breakup as a chance to change their lives for the better. And, instead of rushing headlong into a new love, they begin to analyze the past to understand what happened.

Another significant difference feminine behavior from a man: very often a woman looks for the reason for a breakup in herself, and not in a man. She perceives the breakup as a personal defeat. And the meaning of life for some time becomes the search for one’s own mistakes: “What did I do or say wrong? At what point was it still possible to fix everything?” Because of this immersion in the past, women spend much more time trying to free themselves from emotional dependence from an ex-partner than a man.

Here's what German relationship expert Sven von Staden advises for those who don't want to step on the same rake twice: “I recommend everyone to treat yourself to loneliness (if you can cope with this feeling, of course - website note: otherwise it’s better to contact see a psychologist) and ask yourself what led to the breakup. If the answer is not found, most likely in in the following respects the same problems will come up.”

Woman.ru found out why this happens and whether it is worth calling men who rush in search of a new lover immediately after breaking up with the previous one heartless blockheads.

Four (!) weeks after the breakup, the man is ready to build new love. Women need a little over a year to recover from a breakup.

How men behave after a breakup

The results of a study commissioned by one of the dating sites are as follows: every fourth man very quickly falls in love with a new woman. In order to recover, the stronger sex needs... four weeks. In this way, a protective mechanism is activated that protects the damaged male pride.

How women behave after a breakup

Another significant difference between female behavior and male behavior: very often a woman looks for the reason for a breakup in herself, and not in a man. She perceives the breakup as a personal defeat. And the meaning of life for some time becomes the search for one’s own mistakes: “What did I do or say wrong? At what point was it still possible to fix everything?” Because of this immersion in the past, women spend much more time trying to free themselves from emotional dependence on an ex-partner than men.

Here's what German relationship expert Sven von Staden advises for those who don't want to step on the same rake twice: “I recommend everyone to treat yourself to loneliness (if you can cope with this feeling, of course - approx. Woman.ru: otherwise It’s better to consult a psychologist) and ask yourself the question of what led to the separation. If the answer is not found, the same issues will likely surface in the next relationship.”

You have been dating for several months, but you are tormented by doubts - maybe he hasn’t forgotten yet old love. It’s a shame to one day discover that all his thoughts are occupied by another, and you are just a way to show her that everything is fine with him or to make her jealous. How do you know if there is a real reason to worry or if your suspicions are unfounded?

To avoid being the “injured party,” take a close look at his behavior and analyze.

1. Most likely, he often thinks about her if they broke up less than a month ago, and even more so if they were married or lived in a marriage for several years. civil marriage. In this case, this period can be safely extended to six months. The fact is that even if the separation went through mutual consent, serious relationship impossible to quickly get out of your head.

2. Another sign is sadness and mood swings. He seems to be with you, but you notice that his thoughts are hovering very far away. Although, if you recently met, it is difficult to understand whether he has always been like this or whether the breakup with his ex is to blame.

3. A sure sign the fact that she is constantly in his thoughts - frequent mention of her in conversations, even the most innocent. Even more a clear sign- when in such conversations he speaks about himself and about her - “we”. It seems that his subconscious is sure that something is still possible between them.

4. They continue to communicate. It’s not surprising that he sometimes looks at the pages of his exes and likes them. Any man loves to remember his victories and “mark” his territory. But if their communication is regular and they are trying to put into practice “let’s remain friends,” then apparently both are not ready to accept separation as a given.

5. He constantly returns to their separation - recalls quarrels and misunderstandings, talks about her antics and lists her shortcomings. At the moment of separation, we all blame only the opposite side for this. And often even through for a long time are not ready to admit that they were also to blame for something. But if he experiences these moments over and over again, it means that the pain from parting has not yet lost its severity.

6. He confuses you with her. No, no, he doesn’t call you by her name, but in his eyes you are a representative of that half of humanity that recently caused him so much pain. Therefore, he projects his grievances onto you - he makes claims for actions that you did not commit, he is indignant at things to which you have nothing to do.

Although the above signs indicate that your man has not yet forgotten his ex, there is no need to panic. Of course, while your relationship is hanging by a thread, but you are nearby - she is far away, you are good - she is bad. So just don’t rush things, gradually he will get used to the idea that she is the past, and you are the present and the future.

This is where your relationship begins: long walks, pleasant words, small gifts and surprises. Idyll, and nothing more. But is it really that simple? If your chosen one has a past, then it can remind you of itself at any moment. How to understand that your man or boyfriend has not forgotten his ex?

He keeps gifts from her in a secret place

Small trinkets and beautiful things are safely hidden from prying eyes. They are only extracted a short time and only when you're not around. This behavior suggests that the guy is experiencing strong emotions when looking at these things. It is worth asking him about the reasons for keeping these items and the impressions he gets from them.

Your man is still invited to visit his ex's house

Talking to his ex-girlfriend's family is a strange moment, especially if the relationship has already fizzled out. This behavior may indicate a desire to have a backup option. But, on the other hand, it could just be a good understanding with people. Relationship experts advise discussing this moment together.

The guy mentions information about his ex nonstop

Constantly comparing the current relationship with the current one indicates that the guy is not confident in his choice. It is quite difficult to hear information about how an ex-girlfriend ran the household, made purchases, behaved in society, or achieved a promotion at work. If a guy is not sure what he can build strong relationships, then the girl should reconsider the situation and take action.

Showing relationships

If a guy leaves notes in in social networks, shows in every possible way how happy he is, but at the same time monitors the reaction of his ex, which means he cares. Constant rivalry and spying on each other’s profiles indicate the presence of feelings and the incompleteness of the situation. New girl It's worth taking a closer look and finding out who she is for young man: close person or a reason to hook up with your ex-girlfriend?

Frequent communication by phone and on social networks

It happens that couples break up, but people remain friends. If the discord was painful, and the separation was accompanied negative emotions, then resuming conversations on the phone or on social networks – alarm signal. In this situation, several options for this behavior are possible: firstly, people who were in a couple have common interests and the past, they can remember it, exchange impressions, so communication is resumed. Secondly, feelings for ex-girlfriend not faded away, she is seen as a fallback option if the current relationship does not lead to anything worthwhile.

He likes photos of his ex-girlfriend on social networks

Constantly viewing your profile on a social network, liking photos, romantic messages ex-girlfriend may be the cause of dissatisfaction with the current girlfriend. It’s worth mentioning this point right away and finding out the reason for the increased attention. No matter how well the relationship ends, this behavior shows that the guy still cares about her.

Negative information about your ex-girlfriend

Flow of negative information about ex-passion and the constant emphasizing of her shortcomings may indicate that the young man is persuading himself about the correctness of his choice. Angels do not exist, every person has both good and bad sides. A completely negative image is a way to denigrate something that haunts you. This is definitely worth paying attention to if your past relationship lasted a long time.

All the reasons that were described above can be direct or indirect evidence of the young man’s caring attitude towards ex-girlfriend. The best option it will be calm for the couple to talk and figure them out joint plans for the future. If the guy still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, it may be worth breaking up initial stages relationships so that it doesn't hurt so much. No need to waste time. If worries and fears were in vain, a calm conversation will show the man that he is new choice was right and there is no need to return to what has already passed.

When a person starts a new serious relationship without dealing with his past, this can become a problem. The girl was abandoned by her boyfriend, she has not yet fully recovered from this, but she is already going to find another young man who will love her. And then she found you. Want to help?

A how to help a girl forget her boyfriend, You know? Help your loved one forget her quickly ex-boyfriend not that easy, but no one said it was impossible. There are some tips.

Be patient and understanding

It is now important for a girl to realize that there is an understanding and patient person next to her.. She knows that you will not put pressure on her, rush her to quickly part with the past, and this is good. All you need is support, advice, and sometimes deeds. Although, of course, it is difficult to establish relationships with a woman who constantly remembers her ex-man. In such situation Jealousy on your part is quite understandable, but try to restrain yourself. It will soon pass.

Let him speak out

And listen to what your girlfriend wants to tell you about her ex-boyfriend. Try to find out as much as possible about him and in the future carefully notice the person’s shortcomings, his obvious disadvantages. You will do this quite carefully - the girl will be able to look at ex-partner from a different angle and understand that it’s in vain to go through a breakup. Reel yourself with information about the shortcomings of the guy you just discussed, and don’t repeat his mistakes.

Remove everything that reminds you of your girlfriend's past.

It can be photographs, gifts, souvenirs, other memorabilia. Try to put away everything that reminds your loved one of her ex-boyfriend somewhere. It doesn’t have to be in the trash, it could be a storage room or loggia at least. Also avoid places where your girlfriend went out with your predecessor..

Find a new hobby for two

This must be interesting activity for two. You need to rest more together, relax. Just sitting at home watching TV together is not relaxation as such. Give your beloved a bunch of positive emotions, and the image of your ex-boyfriend will gradually be erased from her memory. And even if it is not erased, the emotions that you gave her will do their job.

New acquaintances

Make new acquaintances, look for new mutual friends. They will not let you or your significant other get bored. And if she is not bored, she will not remember the past. Why remember it when the present is so interesting and bright?

More attention

Pay more attention to the girl when you are not with friends or relatives, when you are just alone. Take care of your loved one, show her how much you love her, shower her with gifts and surprises, and she will very soon forget about her past

In this article, I will tell you whether a man can leave the woman/girl he loves.

I emphasize, BELOVED WOMAN. The one he loves. Really. For real.

Ordinary girls for whom there is “nothing” (serious feelings, love) are mooched and abandoned, and without reason, reasons, and without words, and just like that, and for some bullshit, this is not the same, we won’t talk about that today ...

Today I will speak only for those men who experience serious feelings to a girl/woman (love). But, at the same time, they can still leave the woman, leave her, break up with her.

Let's be clear right away...

They often say that if a man loves, then he will never leave.

Those. as a consequence of this, this arose: if a man leaves a woman, it means he doesn’t / didn’t love her.

It is clear to the naked eye who wrote this, from whose lips it came and continues to this day.

Women who adhere to this worldview = will never have long-term happy relationship, and all because they don’t know what love is, and naively believe that love is eternal and everything rests on it =) (it’s time to take off your rose-colored glasses and enter into harsh realities)

Love is an emotion. This is an animal instinct. This is instinctive behavior.

I talked about this in more detail in the main article:

What I mean is that in any long term relationship = all that love, emotion, passion, etc. = in any case will gradually cool down. It won’t be like before, like in the beginning. And you need to be prepared for this.

This is a priori, you know? That's why that concept in the style: loves - will never leave = is not true, because love is not eternal, and over time, this love, feelings, emotions, passion, etc. — are cooling down.

I don’t argue that this reason exists (we’ll talk about it at the end). But! This reason does not reflect the real and true state of affairs. In any case, relationships (long-term, happy) will not last on love alone, this chemistry. This is a priori. If you don't understand this, it's worse for you.

Those young ladies who think that if he left, it means he didn’t love (she abdicated responsibility in order to feel normal) = either they are still little girls (still far from everything) or adults, but brainless hens.

Here are the real reasons, I repeat, REAL, why a loving man can leave:

No. 1. Your betrayal (female betrayal, no fidelity)

I think there is no unnecessary words. To adequate people, everything is already clear.

Cheating is something that changes everything once and for all. Immediately turns away from a person once and for all. And no matter how strong, real, genuine feelings there are = after betrayal = everything is no longer the same and will never be the same...

Serious, real relationships are built on trust. If there is no trust or it is gone = game over.

A serious relationship after a woman’s infidelity is a priori no longer possible, in principle. Such relationships no longer have any prospects for the future. With a girl/woman who cheats at least once, it makes no sense to continue anything AT ALL, because the girl/woman’s fidelity = this is her main quality No. 1.

Accordingly, if there is no fidelity (devotion), then such a woman worthy man, for the long term (relationships, living together, procreation) is not needed.

The fidelity of a girl/woman is needed so that a man has clear clarity and confidence that no matter what happens, well, for example, injuries, health problems, financial problems, swearing, scandals, quarrels, leaving each other, or there is separation, absence, business trip, flight, army, etc., etc. things = a woman will be faithful (devoted) to a man to the end, will not leave for another, will not leave for profit, will not trade, will not betray, will not betray, etc. etc. Do you understand? This is extremely important...

And what is much more important, it is extremely important for a man to understand that the children will be from him. With this woman. And not from someone on the side with whom she can somersault. Understand? It is extremely important to understand that the genus, the genetic line, is of this man, and not of someone else on the side. What are his offspring? That he will educate, invest resources, etc. in a part of himself, in his “flesh and blood”, and not in the offspring of some Kolya, Vasya, Petya, pYkaper, etc. from this category. Do you understand?

If there is no loyalty in a woman, she is not a worthy individual, and building a RELATIONSHIP with such a slut is pointless. You can fuck them, you can screw them up and throw them away, no problem, but build life together, relationships, family, planning children, etc., etc. = absolutely not, because it’s worse for yourself.

Those who don’t leave such whores and forgive them for betrayal are simply nonsense, heels, mattresses, weaklings, whom I don’t even want to talk about. These are not men. And period. All. Let's move on.

No. 2. If a man understands that he is not loved...

By the way, point number 1. female infidelity also indicates that the man is not loved or respected.

How can you build a serious relationship with someone who does not have serious feelings for you? After all, feelings are manifested in actions (actions). If there are no serious feelings (love) = then there are no corresponding actions (actions) either. Everything is interconnected. As a result of this, point No. 3 arises.

No. 3. A woman does not make a man happy...

If a woman doesn't make a man happy = doesn't try, doesn't put in maximum effort in everything = it's not love, and such a relationship will not last long.

I was in love once, and I left the young lady precisely for this reason...

All in all, loving man can leave a woman if he does not feel happy with her. If she doesn't make him happy. Doesn't try, doesn't put maximum effort into everything. If this is not the case, there is no love. Because love, serious relationships cannot do without 100% reciprocity.

For real loving woman- reciprocity is not an empty phrase...

If the feelings are serious, if a girl loves a man, really, truly, she will invest in him, invest in him her time, desire, strength, energy, money, etc., etc., do you understand?

The point is that when a person is dear to you, important - you want him to be happy and you do everything (you invest time, energy, effort, money, etc.) to make his loved one happy.

A loving girl/woman will always respond to any kindness with her own. For your gift - for yours. On your attention- to yours. To your action - to yours. Etc. and so on. Understand? I'll talk about this later.

If this is not the case, it happens (for example, a man does and does everything for her, invests in her, gives her gifts, arranges surprises, invests all of himself, his desire, time, money, energy, strength, etc., etc.) - and the girl only receives, but does not give anything in return, or gives very little, there is no parity, she does not make the man happy in return, and there is no 100% reciprocity.

And a man feels this, inside himself, he feels that he means less to a woman than she does to him...

In this situation, there is no longer balance in the relationship = has already arisen, therefore, the relationship is already coming to an end or has already come to an end. Demanding something or even asking for reciprocity, love or understanding is stupid and absurd...

Success in relationships is possible only if balance (parity) is maintained. Dot.

What should a woman do to make a man happy?

At a minimum, satisfy all men’s needs efficiently and regularly:

1) High-quality regular sex

It’s probably no secret to anyone that sex is an integral part of a healthy, full-fledged relationship. Without quality and regular sex = no relationship is possible in principle.

Sex is one of the main elements of a man’s attachment to herself; a loving girl will always keep an eye on this, satisfy her man sexually and always try to do her best in this regard.

If this is not the case, there is no high-quality and regular sex in the relationship (the woman does not pamper the man, does not please him, does not satisfy him, does not try, does not make an effort, etc., etc.) = hey, is the man satisfied anyway? or not = hey don't care = as a result = feelings (love) are not here.

2) 100% loyalty (devotion) to a man

No comments, everything is clear, I’ve already told you.

3) SUPPORT. CARE. FAITH. LASKA. TENDERNESS.

In short, in one word, only femininity is capable of all this. Feminine woman!

Read more about femininity, here, go and look for it right away

4) Attention to the man

A man must feel that he is needed, important, paramount, No. 1, that without him there is no way.

If this is not the case, the girl does not sacrifice anything for the man = this is not love. If hey girlfriends/friends are more important = this is not love. If you are not her No. 1, you are hey and not important/dear, as a result, this is not love.

For a loving girl/woman, a man comes first. Everything else is secondary. Much less important compared to a man. Hence certain behavior on the female side.

5) The value of a man

Reciprocity for a loving woman is not an empty phrase...

Love is when both partners are invested in each other. If this is not the case, one of the partners does not experience feelings. If a man is everything, and a woman is nothing, this is not love.

A loving woman, as I already said, will reciprocate the man’s feelings. If this is not the case, there is no love.

6) Motherhood function

This is already at advanced stages. The important thing here is that a woman should not forget about a man when giving birth to a child. Very often a child is born and the man is forgotten, and this is the main mistake.

A mistake that can destroy this relationship (union).

Remember. Darling. You work with a man. Always! Throughout life.

If you don’t meet a man’s needs, don’t expect anything good. Everything is possible. Dot.

7) Hostess function

A woman must perform this function efficiently, raise children, run the house (household function), etc., this function of a woman is needed in order to free her husband to perform his main functions (breadwinner (breadwinner) and protector of the family).

8) and everything that he lacks (is missing).

You already know better what is there and how. You must feel it, know it, see it. You're a woman. But! At a minimum (without fail), satisfy those 1-7 needs efficiently and regularly.

Read more about all the needs (in detail) in the main article:

Needs were the first thing. And secondly…

And secondly, you, my dear, need to make this man of yours feel like a man next to you. Your man should feel like a MAN - next to you.

To do this, you must be a FEMININE WOMAN. This is one of the key rules of relationships between men and women. This key rule- allows a man to want to be with this woman.

You need to pump up your femininity! Work on yourself woman. Work. No one is born feminine. At the snap of a finger = nothing happens. Must be hard work!

Don't act like a man (develop your femininity)
Don’t allow monotony, routine, ordinariness in your relationship with your man.
Don’t stop constantly looking after yourself, “don’t let yourself get screwed”
Don't let it happen frequent quarrels in a relationship
Don't let it happen long separation in a relationship
Don't act like a mom, you're a girl - be one, wife - be a wife
Don't allow constant jealousy in your relationship

These are the real reasons. 1) Cheated (no fidelity) and 2) No reciprocity (does not make you happy). I thought about what other real reasons there could be to quit loving girl, more - I don’t know.

No. 4. Someone else will say - you might fall out of love...

Again, at the beginning of the article, I already talked about this. The fact that the vast majority of people forget (or rather, don’t even know at all) what love is.

I remember. Love is an emotion. This is an animal instinct. This is instinctive behavior.

What I mean is that in any long-term relationship = all love, emotions, passion, etc. = in any case, they will gradually cool down. It won’t be like before, like in the beginning. And you need to be prepared for this.

But the majority are not ready for this. They think that everything will last forever. This is a huge mistake.

Here, success will depend on what kind of woman is next to the man, what she is like, and how this woman interacts on a regular basis with her man. It is also important what kind of man he is, what kind of man he is, and how he interacts with his woman on a regular basis. Do you understand?

If both a man and a woman are OGOGO (worthy, high-ranking) + are well suited to each other, and at the same time interact very competently with each other = this reason will not happen.

However, this reason is possible, indeed, that is why it was included in this article.

I don’t know any other reasons, if we are talking about a man in love who has serious feelings.

Congratulations, administrator.

Standard story: just yesterday there was a girl you loved next to you, who seemed to you an ideal candidate for the role of life partner and mother of future children. However, now you are alone - SHE is gone.

Maybe there is no love anymore, another guy has taken over her flighty heart, maybe you yourself are to blame for the breakup. But so far there is no strength to clarify the root cause, since mental suffering is becoming more and more intense.

All your thoughts now are only about how to forget the girl you love, and this is right, because only by getting rid of the fragments of past happiness can you prepare to meet new love.

Every breakup is a severe emotional shock for the person left behind. During this period, everything around appears in a negative light, and it begins to seem that nothing good is waiting for you. Men and women experience breakups differently. Of course, one cannot say that it is easier for some of them, it’s just that if lovely ladies are allowed to suffer in public and cry into their friends’ vests, then the representatives of the stronger sex prefer to suffer in silence.

So, the breakup happened, the past cannot be returned, so you need to get used to these thoughts and continue to live. Just how? , adhere to the following algorithm of actions:

Parting with the past.
Changing the attitude towards what is happening.
Cleansing thoughts.
Strengthening willpower.
Getting yourself in good physical shape.

First of all, let's say that it is impossible to get rid of feelings at the drop of a hat. magic wand. You can fall in love at first sight, but it will take a long time to root out desire, love, passion from your heart.

Point No. 1. Parting with the past

Everything that connects you with your former lover must be thrown away, destroyed, forgotten, etc. To understand how to forget a girl who betrayed you, you need:

get rid of objects belonging to or reminiscent of her - photos, gifts, clothes;
do a full-scale cleaning of the room to clean everything, right down to the hair and the aroma of her perfume;
delete all her pictures and SMS from her mobile phone, blacklist her phone number, and preferably change yours;
block her email address, clear her friends on social networks and limit access to her own pages.

Similar actions must be performed regardless of the cause of the rupture. If you initiated the breakup, the measures taken will protect you from unwanted visits. If the girl announced the end of the relationship, such steps will help you come to terms with the loss faster.

Point No. 2. Change our attitude towards what happened

Try to follow the old wisdom that says that if it is impossible to change a situation, you need to change your attitude towards it. To forget a girl, you need to understand a simple fact: it was she who disappeared, but love (your ability to love) has not disappeared anywhere.

The time will come and you will give your emotions to someone who will not reject them, but, on the contrary, will accept them sincerely and with gratitude. Now let’s skip the situation with an electronic or paper message. It is worth saying thank you to the woman for all the good things you had with her, and apologizing if your behavior caused the breakup. This letter does not need to be sent, you write it not for HER, but for yourself.

Point No. 3. Clear thoughts

Getting rid of objects that remind you of her by writing to her Farewell letter, you can begin to use techniques that, if they don’t get rid of your worries, will make them fade a little.

Imagine that the air you breathe in through your nose is the best thing in the world. These are changes, updates, the desire to build new relationships. The air coming out through the mouth removes everything negative, gets rid of the past and mistakes.
With each attack of the blues, try to distract yourself - for example, train your memory. Start memorizing poems, aphorisms, foreign language. This will also bring real benefits.

Point No. 4. Strengthen willpower

How to forget a girl? Use self-hypnosis. Experts recommend imagining yourself in the role of a prisoner, shackled with heavy shackles. These shackles are feelings for a former lover, memories of her. Introduced? Now take in more air, feeling the strength pouring into you, and with an effort of will, break these shackles. Let them fall at your feet.

Point No. 5. Get yourself into better physical shape

Sport exercises, physical exercise- Another one effective method forget the girl. Try to scrape yourself out of bed, go jogging in the morning, followed by a contrast shower and others water procedures. This will invigorate you and give you strength for new achievements.

Will help you regain your self-confidence:

push ups;
rocking the press;
pull-ups.

Regular exercise will soon bring not only balance, but also visible results. Agree that it is better to look for a new life partner with strong abs and pumped up arms.

Another question that worries men: how to forget the girl you love if you see her every day. This is perhaps the most unpleasant type of separation, since it is very difficult to observe the object of desire every day, but understand that you will never be together. What should I do? Take the following steps:

completely ignore her, limiting yourself to short “hello-bye”;
sign up for the gym (to regret the loss);
don’t stay face-to-face;
change jobs (if you are colleagues) or transfer to another department (if you study together).

When answering the question of how to quickly forget the woman you love, you should understand that love is an extremely strong emotional attachment. If you find it hard to leave alone ex-lover, besides general recommendations, you should follow other tips.

Think that it’s all over - you and SHE have parted forever, try to get used to this thought. Distract yourself every time if thoughts about your ex-girlfriend arise.
Think about the fact that attachment is more connected with what is drawn in your imagination in an ideal way than with a specific person.
Try to pay attention to yourself, your loved one, and like yourself. In addition, you can finally figure out what you want and what you are striving for.
Enjoy all sorts of pleasant emotions from the rapidly passing minutes and days. Do something you love, come up with a hobby, maybe even an extreme one.
You are free? There's something in this! Try to find some positive aspects in your own independence and freedom. Now you are free to do as you want.
Work more, become a workaholic for a while. Work so hard that when you return home you only have energy left for dinner and sleep. Hard work is a good “cure” for worries and obsessive thoughts.
Even if you feel guilty for the collapse of the relationship, stop “pecking” yourself. A wise person is the one who noted that both partners are to blame for the breakdown of the relationship.

How to let go of the girl you love? Forget that she is so one and only. You are surrounded by a large number of equally (and even more) sweet and pretty young ladies. Start a new relationship.

How to let go of your ex-girlfriend? It is necessary to understand that a breakup is a multifaceted phenomenon in which emotions, actions, reasons and motivation are closely intertwined different sides. Psychologists recommend considering the situation of separation from several, sometimes unexpected, points of view.

Why are you breaking up?

Think not about how to let go of the girl you love, but about why you need to let her go. Perhaps she met another man? Are you married and have decided to stay with your spouse? Is your relationship weighing you down? Is she afraid that such a relationship will destroy her? Are there any obstacles?

It will help to answer such questions and look at the situation with a “fresh” look. best friend or a psychologist. By the way, a specialist is preferable, since he will be able to identify the real reason breakups.

Experiencing a breakup

Have you figured out the problem and are still breaking up? It is necessary to handle the breakup properly. Psychologists claim that love is a process in which the will is almost not involved. It turns out that will alone cannot overcome attachment. How to forget the woman you love? Follow these recommendations:

Parting is death, tragedy, grief, at least, scientists think so. Therefore, you need to survive this difficult feeling; the psyche will not be able to heal ahead of time. Yes, yes, advice from the “time heals” series.
Channel discarded emotions, desires and sexual energy in a positive direction, for example, in creative activity. Take up drawing, sawing furniture (why not), photography, sports, travel.
Think about where you are going. Simply put, what is your purpose in life. The collapse of the relationship - good time to reconsider your own motives, ideas, life goals. If you are moving in the right direction, it will give you additional strength.

New relationships

Only if you competently analyze the reasons and motives for breaking up and work on yourself, there is a chance to build a completely different relationship with a girl, based on experience and knowledge.

How to forget ex-wife the one you love? What to do if your heart refuses to let go of the girl you love? There seem to be many options, but they are not suitable for every man. Yes, time is a good doctor, so in a few months the pain of separation will subside and you will be able to start a new relationship. Perhaps they will become the best page in your life.

Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a specialized psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on issues of raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.