Many girls, when dating a guy, wonder if this is the only one with whom they can go through all the troubles and joys or not? How to avoid making a life-long mistake. How to understand that this is your person? By what signs can you recognize this person?
Next to him you will always feel loved
Your chosen one will never let you forget that it is you in his life - main woman. He will remind you of this every minute, every second and will not make you doubt it for a moment. Remember, the man who loves you will prove to you not with words but with actions that he is the man you need.
He will support you in any situation
A real man will support you in any situation, no matter what happens. You will never doubt your man, his strength, ideas, principles, desires. You can always enlist his support, the right advice and will help you understand the consequences of your future choice, even if he yells at you. In fact, this is correct, since the main task of a man is to make the life of his chosen one happy and safe.
He inspires and motivates
The main man should always motivate you and inspire you to new achievements and conquests by his own example. A man is never afraid to fight for his place in the sun and show his girlfriend that failures also happen and success will come only to those who truly deserve it. And your man always knows that you deserve happiness, and believe me, he will put a lot of effort into this.
It's always evolving
If five years ago your main dream was to buy or build your own house somewhere outside the city near a lake, now your man wants to reach the highest point in career ladder, he is also thinking about purchasing a personal car for himself and for you. Next to such a man, you will know for sure that together you can achieve all your goals, and remember, beyond my dreams- No! You, in turn, do not forget to support him and not nag him at night if something doesn’t work out for him.
He can't stop telling you that you're beautiful.
If your man sees you in tattered home sweaters, and also sleeping with drool on the pillow and still says that you are beautiful, wonderful, charming, and his sparkling eyes, hard shoulder and gentle hands, don’t let you doubt this - then girls, take care of such a man, it’s worth more, today such a man is very rare.
More action - less words
Anyone can sit and talk about a good life, about a beautiful, strong family, but only truly can create such a family, become its support, leader and head. loving man who acts and doesn't just talk. And you respect him for this, and do not forget to praise him, because such a man never wastes words, keeps his promises and sees everything through to the end.
He's never cruel
Every family has conflicts, disputes, quarrels and disagreements, but a real man will never get personal or insult your dignity. A man will never hurt you: neither physically nor mentally. A wise and mature man will strive to solve the problem in such a way as to preserve peace, respect and love in the family, as well as his and his girlfriend’s nerves.
They helped us:
Anna Nazarova
Psychologist, Gestalt therapist
Valeria Aginskaya
Sexologist, program director of the Center for Family and Sexuality Education Secrets
By the way, who exactly is he – “your man”? Who are you trying to find? Romantic prince? The best candidate for a husband? An admirer worthy of your magnificent company? Your soul mate? Agree, the requirements for the applicant in each case will be slightly different. “Answer - and you will be able to understand through what filters you pass your acquaintances in search of “your” person,” says psychologist Anna Nazarova. But for simplicity, let’s agree this: “my man” means that you are at least ready to get involved in a serious relationship with him. Now let's get down to business.
So this is not my man if...
I don't feel butterflies in my stomach
“Fluttering butterflies are like a torn page from a novel, where there are so many metaphors and symbolism that there is no place for anything human,” psychologist Anna Nazarova says indignantly. - And with what bigger girl fascinated by ideal stories, the more butterflies you give her in order to identify the SAME thing in what is happening.”
« All this fluttering is nothing more than natural and short-term chemical reaction , adds sexologist Valeria Aginskaya. “The brain sends a signal to the endocrine glands, and they mix a strong hormonal cocktail for you, giving you a feeling of inspiration, joy, happiness, as well as causeless anxiety and a strong craving for an object of interest.”
There is no guarantee that falling in love will develop into a mature feeling, and it will develop into a relationship for years, so away with metaphors. “Yes, feelings are necessary and important, but give the butterflies names,” Anna urges. – Tenderness, admiration, desire, respect – that’s what it is. These are the guys who will maintain relationships when the period of hormonal violence passes. Well, let me remind you that not all stories develop according to the “I recognize him from a thousand” scenario. Feelings have the right to flare up gradually.”
We have bad sex
We are for you, these are not the times for “if you get married, be patient.” “But,” the sexologist inserts a weighty word, “if the man is completely new, perhaps the only problem is that he does not yet know how to caress you. But in general, This is a common and dangerous misconception - they say, “in true love” everything is done the first time and forever perfect. It’s not the serial numbers that are important, but the partner’s desire to hear you and give pleasure. Look first of all at how he reacts to wishes - whether he takes them into account. If not, sex has nothing to do with it and the problem is most likely in the relationship itself.”
I feel embarrassed/ashamed for him/I get angry at him
How to look. On the one hand, who doesn’t want to be proud of the handsome man next to him - look, it was not in vain that she chose. And from this point of view, embarrassment for your partner will be a serious reason to slow down the development of the romance. After all, it is unlikely that you will be able to sit through all the prescribed “happily ever after” within four walls without showing yourself to anyone (and the feeling of shame usually manifests itself in society).
On the other hand, it’s worth thinking about why exactly you feel embarrassed. Is he really a completely asocial type (but then, forgive me, what are you doing with him?) Or is he simply becoming shorter than you, once you put on your favorite stiletto heels? " If you care so much about “what people think,” you risk never meeting “the right” man., warns the psychologist. – Because you give away the right to evaluate your couple to others, and there will always be dissatisfied people. Those who are looking for the ideal background for their own splendor in a partner have the same prospects. Impeccable characters, alas and ah, exist only in cheap romance novels.”
In general, everything is as usual: get to know yourself, find the sources of your shame there - and you will understand the situation. AND good news: It’s normal to be angry at your partner. In reasonable doses, of course. If, in addition to the desire to write a bream to a man for yet another stupid joke about his mother-in-law, you still have other emotions, everything is fine.
I don't like the smell of it
Perhaps trust your nose. “If you don’t mean the aroma of perfume, but specifically the smell of the body, then, most likely, this man is really not a match for you,” says the sexologist. – Like most mammals, we distinguish individuals of the opposite sex by the light volatile substances they emit. AND if your partner's smell is unpleasant to you, then you are not very compatible on a physical level, and every day the amber will irritate more and more.” Take a look at page 146, where we have collected the results of interesting research on the topic.
He doesn't do what I want
Here - “he doesn’t want to change”, “he doesn’t dress the way I like”, “he has - oh horror! - beard". Psychologists blame you, keep in mind. “A man is also a person,” Anna Nazarova rightly notes, “and not a pet, who can be dressed in a charming suit for a walk in the park. He has self-awareness own feeling style and rules of life. And the prefix “mine” does not mean at all that he is at your complete disposal. We will have to negotiate in some places, and in others we will have to put up with it and accept it as it is. Furthermore, in some ways you will also need to adapt.”
It’s another matter if your partner categorically refuses to make contact and doesn’t want to know anything about your needs. This, of course, is a red flag, and getting a dog that is pleasant in all respects instead of a selfish one will be much more useful.
I have nothing to respect him for
It’s hard to argue with you here, and there’s not much to talk about. “Respect, and mutual, and not strictly for a man, is very an important part relations,” says Anna Nazarova. Just one note. It would be good not to replace respect with superfluous demands. If your list of worthy people includes only people of the level of Bill Gates and the Pope, then some Petya has little chance of jumping over the bar - it’s too high. And he, maybe, saved a kitten from the fire yesterday and is generally a good person.
My family doesn't like him
The criterion is ambiguous, but important. Relationship experts note that if your environment is accepting of your partner, subjective feeling“he’s the one I need” intensifies. And vice versa. “But still, don’t forget that in your inner circle there are not only angels and to please absolutely everyone is an impossible task,” reminds Anna Nazarova. “Perhaps one of your friends predicted a banker, not a cook, as your groom.” Happens. But at least some of the friends should really recognize the man.”
He asks me to get rid of the cat
Or dogs. Or turtles. Gad. On the one hand, we are on your side: you knew Murzik like this, and this unshaven one has been in your life for almost a week. “A sharp difference in views on the possible inhabitants of a common house and on the arrangement of living space in general can become a serious problem,” the psychologist also agrees. On the other side, if you also like the owner of stubble in some way, it’s worth at least delving into the reasons for the request. Maybe the poor fellow has a severe allergy? A weighty argument. The objective difficulties of living your Great Dane in his rented one-room apartment are the same. Although... If a comrade chose “Down with Murzik” out of all the constructive options for solving the problem, we are still on your side.
Everything is not easy for us
Sure signs that you have met your person are the ease and clarity of the relationship. Promised - fulfilled. I wanted to do something nice - I did it. I fell in love and got married. Well, if “everything is complicated” and obstacles constantly arise in the way of your love, it means that something has gone wrong or the matter is unclean. Here is one point of view, but there is another: relationships are work, and when did it ever happen that it was simple. Like it or not, we will have to get into trouble, go through crises, get used to each other.
Which theory is correct? “There is no correct answer,” says Anna Nazarova. – Get ready to listen to both your heart and your mind, negotiate with both and decide for yourself whether this is your guy, if everything is still awry for you. Moreover, this question should be asked with some frequency. I would, of course, like to believe in the fairy tale about a single meeting and eternal love, but we change, and someone who was once very, very yours can suddenly become an unfamiliar master.”
He doesn't make me happy
Let's talk like adults. At the very least, it is naive to expect that someone will one day come and take care of your well-being. You risk being stuck in a dependent position for a long time and experiencing one disappointment after another. “It sounds, of course, hackneyed, but you need to look for the source of happiness in yourself,” reminds psychologist Anna Nazarova. – A man cannot make you happy, that’s a fact. And here’s another thing: putting relationships in the “take-give” mode is dangerous: the balance may never come together, then you will constantly feel deprived.” Attention, question: why all this? Well, here it’s every man for himself, too fine matter. By the way, the majority of Russians, according to the eDarling service, say the main conditions for a strong relationship are the coincidence of life values and caring for each other. And the lyrics come later, for dessert.
Every person has a period of life that is intended to build harmonious relations. Our article will tell you how to behave correctly at this time and not miss your happiness.
What you need to know to build love
Numerologists or astrologers will help you find out your successful period for building harmonious ones. But it is important not only to find out the dates, but also to understand what exactly needs to be done during this period in order to build a stable family. There are several life rules, using which everyone can make the right choice of a partner. There comes a time for every person when he begins to think seriously about his personal life. It is then that a deep misconception occurs: in every partner you want to see your soul mate. During this period, the wrong choice of a life partner may occur. It must be remembered that there are karmic developments that, as a rule, send temporary relationships with difficulties. When entering into such a relationship, a person must learn his lesson and let them go, and not try to keep his partner. So, after helping you determine the time cycle of your destiny, I recommend that you use these rules to determine your destiny love.How to build love? 5 important rules
Rule #1. From an astrological point of view, there is unfavorable days, acquaintance in which can result in difficulties and disharmony in your personal life - these are the 9th, 19th and 29th Lunar days. If you met your chosen one during this period, then it is advisable to avoid marriage. Rule #2. A person is endowed with freedom of choice, so you need to learn to read the signs of Fate. True love, as a rule, comes by chance, and the first meeting is always filled with obstacles and absurd situations. You can miss your chosen one by being confused and not showing initiative. If you saw a person from whom you felt your pulse and heart rhythm changing, you should not be afraid to approach and start getting acquainted. From the point of view of bioenergy, when a person meets his soul mate, his sensory sensations intensify and unusual body reactions arise: this is how we perceive energy impulses that are automatically tuned to the person destined by Fate. Rule #3. When your chosen partner has character traits and qualities similar to you, this does not mean that you can build strong family. Research by psychologists also confirms the opinions of psychics and bioenergetics specialists: ideal partners are people who have opposite qualities and can complement each other. If you pay attention to people who are happy in marriage and follow their Destiny, you will notice that such partners are antipodes to each other (for example, an ambitious and purposeful woman, a leader, finds her happiness with a passive and phlegmatic man; a sharp and conflicting man is happy with a humble and an obedient wife). This is a law, both energetic and natural: natural selection is that partners with the most different qualities from each other form a harmonious and stable union.Rule #4. It is becoming common that life-changing love forces a person to make cruel choices. For example, a person who has a family but is deeply unhappy in his personal life encounters a new partner who is a life-changing companion. In such a situation, it is difficult to make a decision to break off an old relationship. The only way to avoid making a mistake is to trust your heart and listen to the voice of your soul.
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Can our train leave us?
There is one interview on the website perejit.ru that is especially helpful to those going through a breakup. It's called "Your Train Will Never Leave You." main idea The point of this interview is that you won’t lose your person. If you lost a person, then it was not your person.
This sounds very comforting and helps perfectly during the “acute grief” stage, that is, in the first 3-7 days after a breakup. But this statement is true somewhat differently from the sense in which it is understood by those who accept this consolation.
It is true in the highest, divine sense. Indeed, God knows the name of the person with whom we will connect our lives.
But He knows this name not because He Himself destined this person for us. He knows this name because He knows what actions and what mistakes we will make along the way.
God is an amazing being, completely unknowable. For God there is no time, no yesterday and today. That's why He knows everything.
But He does not force anyone on us. We are free people, there is no place for fatalism in our lives. Yes, God and our guardian angel are doing everything necessary so that we have the opportunity good choice, so that we can choose the person with whom we can be happy. But we make the choice ourselves. And if we make a mistake, then we bear the full brunt of the consequences of that mistake.
Many non-believers say that if there was a God, there would be no evil, pain and wars on earth. Such people imagine God as something like a chess player, and people as dead chess pieces. There is no point in discussing whether such a god would be better than the real God or not. There is that God who exists. And He wanted to give us freedom, He wanted to make us not dead, but alive and even like Himself. But the flip side of freedom is responsibility for the consequences of our actions.
So, on our human level, our train can leave us. We may lose our man.
Does our train exist?
We all make mistakes. Therefore, it would be completely sad if there was only one single person of ours, and we, at all costs, needed to find him in the entire mass of humanity, and preferably not by the age of 70. Fortunately, this is not the case. The story of the only “soul mate” is an ancient myth invented by the ancient Greek philosopher Plato.
In fact, there are quite a lot of people who are suitable as wives and husbands for us. Many people have experienced a breakup with a person who seemed to them their only soul mate, the most the best person on the ground, and then, and sometimes even quite quickly, was new person, even better, even closer and more suitable.
The claim of some people that they are monogamous also raises doubts. How do we know that we are monogamous? Everything is tested by experience, you need to open your heart to new love, and then we will see whether it is capable of loving again. And if a person consciously or subconsciously decides not to love anyone else (this is in our power), then this is not a monogamous person, but simply, in my opinion, a person with psychological problems. Which, fortunately, can be resolved.
Is there such a thing as a monogamous person? What is a monogamous person, a person who loves neither friends, nor parents, nor God, but only one person of the opposite sex? This is simply impossible. If a person does not love either his parents or his friends, then he cannot love anyone. And if he loves at least someone else, it means that the heart is not one-person, and the person is not one-loving. And he might fall in love with someone else.
Therefore, each of us has, at least, a few people with whom it is easier for us to achieve mutual love than with others. But even if we do not connect our lives with any of them, this is not an unambiguous catastrophe. As you know, you will get it good wife- you will be happy; If you come across an evil one, you will become a philosopher. Socrates, who had an evil wife, said something like this, and he really became a philosopher. Of course, becoming a philosopher is no small achievement. But becoming a patient, humble person, remaining faithful to a person with whom it is difficult are considerable acquisitions that will allow us to approach the hour of death with dignity and confidence. But I am convinced that love will also increase in this case, and the highest and brightest.
But, nevertheless, we wish for ourselves, and God wishes for us more Bon Voyage. This is also one of the amazing properties of God. We have heard the phrases “God loves us”, “God is love”, but they usually sound to us like something abstract, this love for us is like the warmth of distant stars. So it’s even difficult for us to believe that the words in the prayer rule and liturgical texts, in which we ask ourselves and each other for a painless death, salvation in various sorrows, relief in various hardships, are not our weakness, but what God Himself desires us.
What helps me realize God’s love for us is the memory of two situations when I was in danger on the evening streets of Moscow—to get hurt or even die. In both cases, even before the events themselves began, I felt some kind of incomprehensible, external excitement, and a sharp mobilization of forces. It wasn't my anxiety. It was at that moment that a special calm and determination came to me. I had no reason to worry, because I did not know what awaited me. So it was someone else who was worried and caring about me. I'm sure it was a guardian angel. It is clear that if I had suffered, it would not have been my sin. And, let’s say, if I had ended up in the hospital after these incidents, perhaps these tests would have been useful for me. But even despite the possible benefit of these trials for me, my guardian angel did not want them for me and saved me from them. This means that God treats us the same way...
We have every right to desire and seek one of those people with whom we will be happier and whom it will be easier for us to love. We will conditionally call such a person our person. But still not half. People become soul mates already in marriage.
There are five main regrets of dying people, compiled by Broni Vehe based on her work with such people in a hospice. This is useful to know, so I will give full list these regrets:
1. I regret that I did not have the courage to live the life that was right for me, and not the life that others expected of me.
2. I'm sorry I worked so hard.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had kept in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had allowed myself to be happier.
In terms of our topic, let us turn Special attention to points 1 and 5. When choosing a life partner, we need to think a lot, work, look for someone who is right for us. And we should not be afraid of our desire to be happy.
Why are we missing our train?
Many people complain that they are lonely or that they are not with the people they would like to be with. Remember, like Yevtushenko:
“This is what’s happening to me,
It’s not the same one that comes to me,
He puts his hands on my shoulders
And he steals from someone else..."
This is not surprising, given that most of us psychologically— people are not adults, we do not live consciously and do not see the connection between our views, actions and consequences. To find “your person,” it is very important to understand what exactly prevents us from meeting or seeing him.
First. If you want a prince, become a princess.
There is often a discrepancy between who we dream of and who we ourselves are. For example, if we dream of connecting our lives with a pure, decent, faithful person, but we ourselves are not like that, then firstly, we ourselves will not be able to discern and appreciate such a person when we meet him, and secondly, it will be difficult for him to appreciate us. Therefore, we must either become more modest in our demands, or (which, of course, is more correct), become worthy of the happiness we dream of.
Second. The influence of the media and public opinion.
Those who are now thirty or younger have had their brains washed since childhood. Images of the same princesses in American children's cartoons disorient girls as young as 3-5 years old. Badly educated, immoral, sensual, lazy, inept, cruel, spoiled - these qualities of American cartoon princesses are directly opposite to the qualities of real Russian, German and English princesses of the 19th century, as we know them from a variety of documentary evidence.
As the person got a little older, the images of “stars” began to “shine” for him - actors, musicians, as well as businessmen and thieves. The dirt of their personal lives, whether we like it or not, clogs the souls of those who are at least somewhat interested in it.
As a result, women overemphasize financial success men, and men sexual attractiveness women. In decency, purity, happiness of the poor, but large family many don't even believe it. If they hadn’t heard of this, they weren’t shown it on TV.
We are influenced not only by the media, but also by our environment. Girlfriends and friends can envy someone else’s “happiness” and thereby form in us an image of such happiness as what is desired for us. But first of all, we don't know how much happiness there really is and how long it will last. Secondly, even if this is happiness, it is someone else’s. It may not suit us. We need our own happiness.
Third. Mistakes, weaknesses, sins.
Sin always leads to pain, to suffering. In personal family life, this is especially clear. The most typical situation is when we succumb to the attractiveness of a person and fall into fornication. A certain connection, a certain relationship arises - and we begin to live with this person, allowing more and more compromises with our conscience, and moving further and further away from ourselves and from our happiness.
Point three is closely related to point one. If we do not live a spiritual life and do not work on ourselves, there is little chance of avoiding such mistakes.
Fourth. Psychological scenarios.
It often happens that a person himself is good, has a sound worldview, seems worthy of happiness, but for some reason chooses those with whom this happiness is impossible. And again and again he steps on the same rake. Or point-blank he doesn’t see someone with whom he will feel good. The reason for this is in the scenarios embedded in a person’s subconscious. What are these scenarios and how are they formed?
The most obvious scenario is our tendency to choose a person who is similar to the parent of the opposite sex. It's not bad if the parents' family is strong, full of love. And if not? What if your mother cheated and left your father? If the father is a domestic tyrant? Psychologists know very well that if a girl marries a drunkard, most likely her father or grandfather was an alcoholic.
Often scripts are instilled in us by our parents. A single mother can instill in her daughter distrust of men and program her that it is a woman’s lot to be unhappy in her personal life. And a girl grows up who subconsciously does not feel her right to be happier in love than her mother. And, naturally, when good, decent men meet on her way, she bypasses them - after all, happiness is possible with them!
Even a single strong childhood impression can have a huge impact on us and hinder us throughout our lives if we do not discover and neutralize this “mine” in our subconscious.
I know a woman who was overweight parental family, but who in childhood saw a bitter example of betrayal in a family of relatives, and to this girl the woman who was cheated on, at the peak of pain, said with great feeling: “You can’t give them your heart.” This girl was then afraid all her life to trust someone with her heart, to suffer from betrayal. And she never got married.
I know a man who, as a child, was depicted by his classmates on a wall newspaper as a henpecked man. This upset him very much, and he said to himself: “It’s better not to get married at all than to become henpecked.” And this program operated there for many years. He married, but already at a fairly mature age, to a young girl who, due to her age and intelligence, had no chance of getting the better of him. But on his way there were many women, smart and strong, more worthy of him.
The scenario can also be laid down in adulthood, in the experiences we love relationships. We can take what we have experienced as a standard and subconsciously look for repetitions, look for opportunities to again enter the same river that has already become shallow. Or we can be frightened and afraid of repeating what we experienced, transferring to the innocent the characteristics of the one who hurt us.
You need to analyze your life, starting from childhood, compare the past and present, find the reasons for your behavior, your preferences. If we find it, it’s not difficult to overcome this scenario. A wound inflicted by a word is healed by a word. We can say healing words to ourselves, or we can resort to the help of a psychologist.
How to know your person
If we have the right worldview, we understand what love is, what family is, we work on ourselves, but when the decisive choice comes, doubts arise. And if they don’t arise, they should be induced artificially. This is too important a decision to make without testing and consideration. What should you pay attention to and what should you do to reduce the likelihood of error?
Reciprocity and nature of feelings
Your feelings should be like love, not like passion or like love addiction. And although we have devoted a separate chapter to this topic, recognizing true love it doesn't always work out. Its important feature is its quiet state. This is not a flame, not an explosion, not a fire.
And, in any case, the feelings should be mutual. This is also a feature of true love.
Coincidences
The easiest way to check the probability the right choice according to those coincidences of yours that are very, very desirable for the happiness of family life.
To analyze a person’s qualities, it is advisable to know him for about a year, sometimes six months may be enough. And not just acquaintances, but to go through a certain experience of communication with him. See him in work, in difficulties. See it in communication with friends and parents. The way he treats his parents is how he will treat you later.
What should you pay attention to?
First of all, on his worldview and value system. What is the meaning of life for him? How does he understand the purpose of family? How does he understand his and your role in the family, the distribution of responsibilities? What does he think about having and raising children? How many children does he want? What are his religious beliefs?
Secondly, on the relationship between his parents. In many ways it will repeat the model parental relationship. How much do you like them? How similar is it to your parents' relationship? It is very good if the similarities are great.
The level of education and financial status also matters. The closer these levels are, the better.
Cultural and national differences. In our time of great mixing of peoples, the temptation for mixed marriages is high. A Russian woman can marry a man from the East or a Western European. Sometimes such marriages turn out to be happy. But on average the chances of creating a strong, healthy, happy family several times lower than with people of your culture. Have you considered everything enough to take such a risk?
A large age difference also reduces the chances of a family. Optimal difference aged no more than 5 years. There are often happy marriages, in which the husband is 10-20 years older than his wife. But if the wife is much older than her husband, the chances of saving the marriage drop sharply.
Some believe in fortune telling, others prefer to remain skeptics, but absolutely anyone would like to know their destiny. What awaits him in life: luck and success, wealth, love, of course everyone would like all this.
But how to look beyond the veil of time, is there a 100% way?
Of course, there is no such method, because everything depends on our actions and yet there are events that do not depend on us in any way, the weather (it started raining) or an accident (the bus broke down), all this is fate or fortune. It is precisely such accidents that can be seen, and also determine the paths that should be followed or not (for example, will you be happy with this person, should you take this job). It is especially good to tell fortunes on Christmas night; they say that higher powers take their power over the world of the living into a ring and begin to be reborn.
Simple ways to tell fortunes
Method one. Fortune telling on the water.
This method will help you decide on your betrothed. And for this we need three candles, a mirror and a glass plate. Pour water into a plate and leave for three days, the water should recharge your energy. After this, place the candles on the table in a triangle, opposite the mirror, and a plate of water in the center. Close your eyes and mentally transfer the energy and ask a question. In the reflection of the mirror in the water you will see the answer to your question.
Method 2: Yes or no
The simplest way to find out about fate. Make a question about the future, for example, I will find my soul mate this year. And then look out the window.
Pay attention to the first one walking:
- If the man is YES, the goal will materialize.
- Woman - NO, let go of the desire.
- Child - will be born with a delay or according to a different scenario.
- Deserted on the street - put off the divination for another time.
Method three. Fortune telling on a gold ring.
For this ritual we need four plates and pieces of cloth, wedding ring and candles. The ritual is carried out together, preferably on Christmas night.
One of you will hide the ring in a plate of water and cover it with a cloth. The second person entering must guess where it is. If you guessed right the first time, then your wish will come true. Don't forget to meditate before starting fortune telling. You should feel vibration or warmth from the ring plate, don't poke at random.
Method four. Fortune telling on wax.
To do this, we only need a candle, a container of water and a spoon. The candle is melted into a spoon, then the resulting wax is poured into a container of water. Concentrate, you should see clear wax silhouettes in the water. Take a closer look, meditate and you will see the answer to the question that is tormenting you.
Fortune telling with tarot cards.
One of the surest ways of fortune telling is, of course, fortune telling with cards. Who among us has not tried to take a regular deck of 36 cards and say “magic” words to spread it out? It is best to tell fortunes using tarot cards, but this method has many nuances, each layout has many meanings, so it would be more correct to contact a knowledgeable person.
But don’t believe in any online fortune-telling, the cards should definitely recharge your energy. To do this, simply hold them in your hands and mentally redirect warmth and your energy into them, thinking about the problem that interests you. After this, give the cards to the fortuneteller and he will explain the layout to you.
A simple way to predict
Focus on the question. For example, what to expect in your destiny tomorrow. Now randomly select one card from the deck and interpret it. This card will tell you what to focus on that will have an impact on your life.
Gypsy way to find out fate
Get ready for fortune telling, shuffle the deck ( better than tarot) and contact higher powers so that they can help you tell fortunes truthfully. Pull out 7 cards and interpret them.
Here is the interpretation of the tarot in detail.
- Personal situation. Your Self.
- Relationships with people, their opinions about you
- Concerns. What you should know to protect yourself.
- Aspirations. What to expect.
- What will you gain in life for sure?
- Near future.
- Your destiny. The card speaks of what will stay with you.
The gypsy method of predicting fate is very effective, try it.
English fortune telling
It is held on a birthday. You will need:
- ring (any ring will do, as long as it’s not a wedding ring)
- sweetness
- slice of bread
- ace of spades
- willow twig
- ace of diamonds
- 10 clubs
It is important to prepare all things in advance, put them in a white towel. The cards must be new. All attributes folded in a towel 
Be sure to place it under your pillow at night.
Now go to sleep, dreams will reveal your destiny to you. It’s just important to relax with an open window. It is necessary.
In the morning, remember what you saw in the Embrace of Morpheus:
- The key is a lucrative offer, a career.
- Ring - love achievements, marriage is possible.
- Bread - material income, prosperity.
- Sweetness - prosperity, creative self-expression.
- Willow branch - good news
- Ace of diamonds - luck, winning.
- 10 of clubs - trip, travel, moving.
- The Ace of Spades is a negative prediction, indicating bad news, illness, or health problems.
If you didn’t see these things in your dream, it means it will be smooth, quiet year, without any sudden changes or shocks.
Conclusion
These are the fortune telling you can try at magical night before Christmas and remember wishes come true! You can guess on any other day.)