Islamic canonical marriage law allows marriages between Muslims and women of the People of the Book (Christians and Jews). At all times - both during the period of the Prophet's mission and today - Muslim men could marry Christian and Jewish women.
Today, in the context of globalization and the mixing of cultures, as a result of interfaith marriages, a number of problems arise in families, for example, with raising children in the spirit of the Islamic faith or with instilling in them an Islamic worldview. The demographic factor is also important: marriages of Muslims with non-Muslim women to a certain extent reduce the chances of Muslim women finding a spouse of the same religion, forcing them to marry non-Muslims, which is canonically prohibited.
The overwhelming majority of authoritative scholars of Islam, including theologians of all four madhhabs, expressed the opinion that it is undesirable for a Muslim to marry a woman from the People of the Book. As an argument, the example of the second righteous caliph ‘Umar is given, who, when he was the ruler of the faithful, called on Muslims to divorce their Christian and Jewish wives. Everyone except Huzeifa immediately divorced. The same man divorced his wife after some time, thereby showing that there is no direct prohibition on this kind of marriage in Islam, but the orders of the caliph cannot be disobeyed.
‘Umar’s order was not groundless. In view of the canonical permissibility of Muslim marriages with women from the People of the Book, many Muslims began to marry Christians and Jews, but did not subsequently show a desire to introduce their wives to the Truth of the Quranic gospel and strengthen them in Islamic virtue.
Some theologians, especially of the Hanafi madhhab, declare the prohibition (haram) of this kind of marriage in a non-Islamic state, where Muslims are a minority, since in such conditions, basically, the question of the personal religious status of the believer - the right to live - was and remains unresolved according to the canons of their faith, which presupposes the free exercise of religious needs (including the possibility of timely performing five prayers), regulation of their life in accordance with Sharia law (in matters of family, marriage, inheritance, etc.). An important factor is the nationalistic, anti-Islamic sentiments in society and propaganda in the media in some states, as well as (perhaps as a result of the above) the categorical desire of the non-Muslim spouse to raise children in a different (non-Islamic) religious tradition. This state of affairs cannot but have an impact, first of all, on families in which the spouse (caretaker, mother and teacher of children) is not Muslim: the spiritual, religious and national-cultural foundations of the family are weakened.
Of course, Islamic canons allow marriages between Muslims, on the one hand, and Christians or Jews, on the other, but one must understand that this permission by the Lord contains hidden wisdom and benefit. A person who has taken the path of truth will try to help his neighbor find this path, will make every effort to ensure that the members of his family hear the Word of the Lord and practice His commandments, which is sometimes difficult to achieve even in a Muslim family if the society and environment do not contribute.
A Muslim who marries a Christian or Jewish woman because of her beauty, but then makes no effort to make her understand and accept Muslim values, falls under the above-mentioned order of Caliph 'Umar. If he neglects this serious warning, then he calls into question the well-being of himself and his children in both worlds.
Summarizing the above, we can conclude that the marriage of a Muslim with a chaste and well-behaved woman of Christian and Jewish cultures is canonically permitted, but it is necessary to take into account (1) the preservation of the status of the husband in the family according to the canons of Islam, (2) the desirability of the wife accepting the Islamic faith and (3) the obligation to raise children in the spirit of morality and religiosity, commanded by the Holy Quran and Sunnah of the final Messenger of God (may the Almighty bless and greet him). And all this must be in the context of faith in the One God, among whose last prophets were Moses, Jesus and Muhammad.
May the Almighty protect us from rash actions and grant us and our descendants ways and opportunities to achieve happiness in the earthly world and in the eternal world!
Answers to questions on the topic
I am Orthodox, and he is Muslim. We fell in love with each other and would like to start a family. Is this possible and under what conditions?
If your feelings are complete, sincere and mutual, then try to see the world through the prism of the worldview in which your loved one lives and, perhaps, you yourself will answer the questions that arise.
I am a baptized Christian, I love a Muslim very much. The love has been mutual for almost five years, but we haven’t been able to start a family because my boyfriend can’t decide on nicknames due to the fact that I don’t accept Islam. His mom doesn't mind me. Recently he turned to his mullah relative for advice, who said that I should definitely convert to Islam.
I feel very good about Islam, knowing that God is One. I want our future children to be Muslims. Yes, and I, perhaps, will accept Islam if I come to it myself. I consider it wrong to take such a responsible step as accepting another faith, knowing practically nothing about it. Please give me some advice. And is it sinful if I accept Islam because I love a man very much, and he wants to marry a Muslim woman? Tatyana, 27 years old.
You say that the feelings have been mutual for 5 years, but if your intentions are serious, why haven’t you decided after such a long period of time whether you need Muslim spiritual values in your life or not?! And one more thing: if your friend has been cohabiting with you (living as if he were his wife) for all these years, then it is not clear what values he is guided by and what he follows. It turns out that Islam is a kind of formal status, but for the rest - live as you please, the main thing is that words like “live according to the Koran and Sunnah”, “what is it like according to Sharia”, etc. Strange, isn't it?
My Christian wife wants to get married. Can I marry her and then perform a similar ritual according to Muslim traditions? If this is possible, then what and how should be done? Nail, 21 years old.
There is no need to get married, you should not do this, registration with the registry office and a Muslim wedding will be enough.
My fiancé is Muslim, I am a Christian. His parents insist that I change my religion, otherwise I will not be accepted into the family. But I’m not ready for this, or rather, this religion is absolutely unknown to me, to tell the truth, it’s even scary, because, I think, this is a great sin. What should I do? I'm afraid of losing my boyfriend. Veronica, 27 years old.
Yes, a change of belief from the point of view of any confession is regarded as a sin, apostasy. But “there is no compulsion in religion!” (Holy Quran, 2:256). Only your heart can tell you what to do. To get acquainted with Islam, read my books “The Path to Faith and Perfection” and “Peace of the Soul”.
I am a Christian, dating a Muslim. We have a wonderful relationship, but I was married and I'm afraid to tell him about it. I think that if I tell him, he will decide to break up. I’m tired of being silent and it’s becoming more and more difficult to communicate because of this. After all, for him this is a shame, on my part it’s a deception. Irina, 22 years old.
The best thing to do is to tell the truth.
I have Muslim roots, I myself am half Armenian. I would like to connect my life with a Muslim. I am drawn to Islam. But as soon as I begin a relationship with some young man from this environment, after a while everything stops only because I am a non-Christian. Answer, why are parents sometimes against the happiness of their children? I come from a decent family, I’m modest and well-mannered, but that’s not what they seem to be looking at.
They, parents, have their own understanding of happiness. For each person it has its own shapes, shades, colors.
I married a Russian girl. After marriage, I found out that she was not a girl, she had a relationship with someone else before me. Can I continue to live with her? Is this allowed or prohibited? Now she is studying Islam and plans to become a Muslim.
Your situation is a sad and common reality of our time. In this case, you canonically have the right to divorce, but you can also continue to live with her if you think that she has repented of what she did and is not going to repeat this kind of sinful and harmful actions.
I hope you yourself did not have an intimate relationship with anyone before marrying her.
Please tell me what should a Muslim do if he is married to a non-Muslim woman who does not accept Islam, although she verbally says that she wants to become a Muslim, but in fact does nothing?
Be a full-fledged Muslim, that is, a person from whom only good, positive, creative energy comes, both in relation to others and in relation to oneself (the desire to successfully realize one’s capabilities and constantly improve oneself intellectually, physically, spiritually). This will require a serious attitude from you and a lot of energy and effort, but everything will quickly pay off in the end. Don’t be rude, don’t force, and you will see how those around you will transform as a result of your personal transformation. "Example is more powerful than preaching" (S. Johnson).
Do you think that I, a Muslim, can marry a Christian girl who wants to convert to Islam, as it seems to me, for my sake, for the sake of marriage (not out of conviction yet)? Jimmy.
Theoretically, you can, but practically, it is very responsible and has dangerous prospects for you and your future children.
Is it permissible for a Muslim man to live with a non-Muslim wife even though he has called and admonished her many times? I know that a Muslim can live with a Christian Jewish wife. What if it doesn’t belong to either the first or the second?
The question of whether it is possible to live with a non-Muslim wife (especially one who is neither Christian nor Jewish) would be relevant if asked before marriage, and not now, when the relationship has already been realized.
For a Muslim, as a submissive person devoted to God, in such a situation, patience is the only key to preserving the family, especially one in which there is a child who needs both paternal and maternal care. In addition, it can be very difficult for a person who has formed as an individual in a society in which spirituality is clearly in decline to change his inner world, fill it with faith, and even more so to understand and accept the final Scripture revealed to all humanity, especially when there is no living example of Muslim virtue, for example, in the person of her beloved husband. By the way, some married couples took years to come to the Divine Truth.
My husband is Tatar, Muslim, I am Orthodox, and very religious, observing all fasts and canons, from a non-drinking and non-smoking family. Before the wedding, my husband assured me that there should be no questions about religion with the child, that I could raise my children in my traditions. But now, when I am pregnant, he walks around sad, dejected, I can guess why. He is afraid that I will give the child a Christian name, that the child will not know Muslim traditions. What to do? I love my husband very much and don’t want him to be upset. He says that even if I do it my way, he will never leave me, but will live his whole life in melancholy and sadness, as if withdrawing into himself. It's like he's blackmailing me this way. Is it possible to circumcise a child, read the azan and iqamat, and then baptize him in the church? Is it possible to instill in a child two faiths at once and is it not considered a terrible sin if the child attends a mosque and a church? To me, as an educated and urban person, it seems possible, given the century we live in, to avoid family conflicts and reproaches.
Islam is the stage of religious development of mankind, following Judaism and Christianity. It is unrealistic to inculcate several religions at once, especially when there are serious differences between them. For a believer, if he really understands the meaning and significance of his religion, this is absurd, this is, as they say, neither here nor there. Your husband’s reaction is clear, understand that he, as the head of the family, must answer before God on the Day of Judgment for the righteousness and correctness of the beliefs of his wife and children.
See, for example: al-Zuhayli V. Al-fiqh al-Islami wa adillatuh. In 11 volumes. T. 9. P. 6654.
The order of the Caliph concerned only those Muslims whose wives during their married life did not accept Islam and did not become Muslims.
Help me find confirmation in the Holy Quran or Sunnah for the prohibition of marriage between a Muslim woman and a non-Muslim?
There is no direct prohibition in the Koran against marrying a Christian or a Jew, but there are plenty of indirect arguments. For example:
“Do not marry [Muslim women] to pagans until they [pagans] believe” (see).
One of the main arguments in favor of the inadmissibility of a Muslim woman marrying a non-Muslim man is that, by the nature of the relationship, the husband is the main person in the family. The wife follows or tries to follow him in everything. If the husband is non-Muslim, then the Muslim wife will gradually have to renounce her religious principles and values. In raising children, it is also the husband who puts the emphasis.
All Muslim scholars are unanimous in the canonical inadmissibility of such a marriage.
It goes without saying that it is better to choose a Muslim as a husband, since the husband is the head of the family, with all the ensuing consequences. But I know a person who is a Christian (at the same time, I have some confidence that for him the Almighty is not triune, but one). Moreover, the existing alternative in the form of an ethnic Muslim terrifies me. I am ready to admit that I wish only the best for this Muslim, but I cannot live with him (after all, a family is created taking into account character and temperament). I hope for the mercy of Allah, who, if He wishes, will open his (Christian) heart to the truth (with my daily du'a-prayers).
So, 1) does it make sense to choose an unloved person as a husband just because he is a Muslim? 2) How correct would it be to allow children to independently decide on their choice of faith at a reasonable age (instilling in every possible way a love for Islam from childhood)?
1. Most likely, no, it does not.
2. Your duty is to educate them in the spirit of Islam, that is, morality and ethics, piety and religiosity. If you make all the necessary efforts for their righteous upbringing and create conditions, then you are not responsible for the results. In this, rely on the Creator, having done everything that depends on you.
It is useful to recall a reliable hadith: “Every baby is born with a natural faith [in God, inherent in him initially], and this is until the moment he begins to express (express) his thoughts in language (independently). Parents raise him in the spirit of either the Jewish tradition, or Christian, or pagan [that is, parental education makes a significant contribution to the formation of religious foundations and norms, rules and principles of the new person].”
I am an ethnic Muslim. I adhere to some things: I fast, I don’t drink alcohol, I don’t drink pork. I really want to perform namaz. But I live with relatives, and they don’t allow me, they are afraid that this might somehow interfere with my life, that I will limit myself greatly. Now I am dating a young man. His mother is a Christian and his father is a Muslim. The young man is very good, decent, does not wish harm to anyone, believes in the Almighty, but does not fulfill any of the religious instructions. I don't know who to attribute it to. It looks like we're heading towards a wedding. Will I be committing a big sin by marrying him? I hope that during our life together I will influence him. Zara.
Relying on the Almighty, listen to the dictates of your heart and mind. A well-known reliable hadith says: “Ask your [healthy, accustomed to right intentions and actions] heart.<…>Even if people give you conclusion (advice).”
Don't complicate things. Before the wedding, gently but frankly discuss with him all the exciting issues regarding your future family life.
If he is well-bred, does not drink, does not commit adultery, and has a minimum of piety, then this is already a significant plus. Introduce him to the tenets of Muslim faith and religious practice. If he agrees with them, having uttered the testimony of Monotheism, then there are no canonical obstacles to marriage.
I'm confused in my feelings. I dated a non-Muslim man for three years. He is a good person, without bad habits. I make a du’a so that he accepts Islam and begins to read prayer, but he always puts it off and finds reasons for this. A few months ago I met another guy, a Muslim. We dated for several months, liked each other, and he asked me to become his wife. I told him to wait until I graduated from college. The real reason is that I can’t do this to my first boyfriend, leave him, while he became like a family member to me, always looked after me. My mother, having learned about the marriage proposal, said that I didn’t know him and that in a few months it was impossible to know a person, and therefore she was against it. Milana, 21 years old.
I think you need to choose a Muslim, not this one, but someone else, and preferably, he should be of your nationality. Listen to the general opinion of the parents by first introducing them to your new boyfriend and first getting to know his parents.
My future husband and I are of different religions: he is a Christian, I am a Muslim. With a little, but still with difficulty, I persuaded him to read the nikkah. But he, in turn, asked me to go to church and get married. I don't know if this is allowed or not? Would this be considered “adopting another religion”? Please give me some advice.
I am a Muslim, my future husband is Orthodox. And, as you know, you have to go to a mosque or church for a wedding. What should I do? And who will our children believe in?
You should know that the marriage of a Muslim woman with a representative of another religion is unacceptable, except if the husband accepts Islam, and this implies, at a minimum, agreement with the basics of faith and pronouncing the formula of Monotheism.
Is it possible to marry a Christian without changing your faith? He doesn't want to accept the Muslim faith, and I don't want to accept him.
Canonically, a Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man.
Tell me what to do if a Muslim girl lives with a non-Muslim man? My parents are aware of this, and this guy is a very good person, but I know that it is still a sin (if I cannot persuade him to become a Muslim). Nadiya, 22 years old.
Study my book “World of the Soul” with him. If this works, it means there is some deep mutual understanding between you. It remains to study the basics of faith and religious practice, clearly described in my book “Muslim Law 1-2”. But keep in mind that there is no compulsion in religion.
I am a Christian, my beloved is a Muslim. I don’t think I can accept another faith, and my parents won’t understand. Besides, I believe that everyone has the same God, no matter what path we choose to reach Him: Islam or Christianity. Moreover, the customs in other faiths are different, it is too difficult to get along and become different... But we love each other very much and are really happy together! When getting married, according to what religious traditions should the ceremony be held? Maxim, 18 years old.
I will refrain from answering, but will only advise you to carefully read the book to the end.
I'm dating a non-Muslim guy. He is German, and I am Chechen. I don't commit any sins. He understands that he can’t even touch me. I've been dating him for eight years, two of which we were friends, the rest is love. I tried to move away from him, stop dating, try to communicate with guys of my nationality, but nothing. I'm in pain and can't do anything. He doesn't want to let me go either. Can I marry him? I know that there are many questions similar to mine, but I really want you to answer mine. Nadira, 22 years old.
You will both benefit from reading the opening chapters of the book Muslim Law, which deals with the basics of faith and religious practice. The theory is clearly presented there, so you won’t get confused. If he becomes a believer, agrees with the basics of faith and religious practice, recites the Shahada (formula of Monotheism), then all that remains is to settle everything with his family and find understanding and support in them. Although you are 22 years old, your relationship with him has been long (eight years), and therefore I assume that in the context of creating a family for the rest of your life, everything has already been analyzed and seriously thought through.
Shamil-Hazrat, as you know, the Holy Quran says that girls and women should not be given in marriage to non-believers. But what if the girl left without the knowledge of her family? What should I do with her? Should her guardians punish her for this and how?
No, her guardians do not punish her, but pray for this family, so that its members acquire faith and piety. The Almighty Creator controls the hearts of people and can turn them in any direction, as stated in an authentic hadith. Therefore, pray for them.
I'm getting married soon, my future husband is Russian. I asked him so that we could have a nikkah. But somehow he doesn’t dare. Tell me, please, if we conclude a nikkah, will he still have his faith? And what does the mullah read at nikah? He asked me about this, but I don’t know what to answer. Malika, 26 years old.
A Muslim woman is canonically prohibited from marrying a representative of a different religion. Therefore, nikkah in your case is impossible and unacceptable. If the groom agrees with the basic tenets of faith and pronounces the formula of Monotheism, then you can conclude a nikkah. During nikah, the following are voiced: instructions, asking for your and the groom’s consent to marriage and several prayer formulas.
I am married to an Orthodox Christian, a Russian. We have a daughter. We love each other very much. We left for a distant country so that my parents’ relatives would not see me. My parents stopped communicating with me and forbid my sisters and brothers from doing so. I understand them. But it’s hard for me without my parents’ blessing. What should I do? Rimma, 30 years old.
You should carefully study the tenets of the Muslim faith (there are six of them) and the basics of religious practice (there are five), for example, on our website (site) or in my book “Muslim Law 1-2”. When you understand them, imagine them, and inform your husband about this in a form that is understandable to him. If he agrees with them and testifies to you that God is one and Muhammad is His final messenger, then before the Creator your problem will be solved. And if it was resolved before Him, then everything else will be resolved. You will be required to constantly grow and develop spiritually, intellectually and physically, which will open up new wonderful prospects and opportunities for you and your husband.
See: al-Qurtubi M. Al-jami' li ahkyam al-qur'an [Code of the Qur'an]. In 20 volumes. Beirut: al-Kutub al-‘ilmiya, 1988. Vol. 3. pp. 48, 49; al-Zuhayli V. Al-fiqh al-Islami wa adillatuh. In 11 vols. T. 9. P. 6652, and also vol. 7. P. 5108.
Hadith from al-Aswad ibn Sari'a; St. X. Abu Ya'lya, at-Tabarani, al-Baykhaki. See, for example: as-Suyuty J. Al-jami' as-sagyr. P. 396, Hadith No. 6356, “sahih”.
St. x. Ahmad and al-Darimi. See, for example: Nuzha al-muttakyn. Sharh Riyadh al-Salihin [Walk of the Righteous. Commentary on the book “Gardens of the Well-Behaved”]. In 2 volumes. Beirut: ar-Risala, 2000. T. 1. P. 432, hadith No. 4/591, “Hasan.”
They are most clearly presented in my book “Muslim Law 1–2”. Let him read at least the first 70 pages.
“Ashhadu alla ilahe illa Allah, wa ashhadu anna muhammadar-rasulul-lah” (I testify that there is no god but the One God, and I testify that Muhammad is His messenger) .
The content of the article:
Marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is a voluntary union of a woman and a man professing different faiths and belonging to different cultures, when a passionate feeling forces one to abandon traditional Christian virtues and accept Muslim values, namely complete subordination to one’s husband, restriction of rights and freedoms in public life .
Is marriage possible between representatives of different faiths?
Registering love relationships between representatives of different religious faiths is permitted in any country. The restrictions apply only to the age at which one can officially marry.
Russia is a multinational state; more than 190 different peoples live in the country. Moscow has over 11 million inhabitants, and the Slavic brothers - Russians, Ukrainians and Belarusians - are a minority here. There are only 4,620,000 of them. The rest are representatives of other nationalities. Let’s say there are significantly more Tatars in the Russian capital than in Kazan.
Currently, there are more than 20 million people professing Islam in the Russian Federation, and this number is constantly growing. Over 15 years, their number in the country has increased by 40%. If the growth continues to be so rapid, in forty years every fourth resident of Russia will be a Muslim.
The Family Code of the Russian Federation (Article 156 “Marriage on the territory of the Russian Federation”) does not speak of any restrictions based on nationality when entering into a marriage relationship. So marriage between a Muslim and a Christian is quite officially possible. It is not a novelty and is quite relevant today.
Many Russian women marry Muslims. This is a matter of personal relationships and is not regulated by the state. But Christian dogma imposes certain restrictions on such marriages. The Apostle Paul also said not to “be unequally yoked with unbelievers...” (Second Corinthians 6:14).
But this was said a long time ago. Now times are completely different. Orthodox Christians and Muslims live side by side in the same country. They work, study and often live in the same dorm. There is no time for dogmas of faith here. Yes, and the question is very intimate, but you can’t order your heart...
All this is true. Only a girl who married a Muslim can hardly be considered a true Christian. Did you wear a cross and even go to church on major holidays? So what? Now this is fashionable and does not at all mean that she was a believer, knew the tenets of Christian morality well and understood the differences between Christianity (Orthodoxy) and Islam.
And they are big, especially in the part that concerns the behavior of women in the Muslim community. Nowadays, marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is possible, but often insight comes “later.” And then those who left for their faithful in a Muslim country rush home to mom and dad, and it’s good if they return without serious consequences for their health, not physically and mentally exhausted.
And yet, despite this, some girls recklessly “get married” to the faithful, leave their country and go with their husbands to the promised land - to their homeland.
It is important to know! In Islam, a woman is in a lower position compared to a man. One of the hadiths (a retelling of the words of the Prophet) says that “A woman is created from a rib and will never straighten out in front of you, and if you want to benefit from her, then let the crookedness remain with her. And if you try to straighten it, you will only break it.”
Why Christians marry Muslims
There are many reasons for marrying a Muslim. The main thing that is cited to justify such an act is that a great feeling forces you to get married. And with a sweetheart, as you know, there’s heaven in the hut. It is useless to tell a foolish heart, but a reasonable one should listen to the arguments of elders or at least ask what awaits a woman of a different faith in the house of a Mohammedan.
Among the reasons why marriage between a Muslim and a Christian is possible, the following should be mentioned:
- Love. In their youth, everyone is a maximalist. And if the feeling that flared up for a handsome brunette with a burning, irresistible gaze is first love? She makes you mad. Follow him to the ends of the earth! The girl agrees to become his slave and wash his feet, as long as he doesn’t leave him. There are such simpletons by nature; they easily convert to another faith and, without unnecessary emotions, adapt to Muslim customs, which are unacceptable for most Orthodox women.
- Unexpected pregnancy. Let’s say they are students and often meet in companies outside of their studies. A cheerful student party ended in a casual affair. She became pregnant and wants to solve all her problems through marriage. And these could be complaints from parents, “crooked” smiles from friends and acquaintances. He is quite attractive, and he has money, because he came to study in another country. So marrying him is not the worst option. But the girl doesn’t think much about the fact that he is a Muslim and how life will turn out in the future. Such a marriage is short-lived and can cause her big troubles in the future.
- The desire to go to another country. He's from another world. And everything there is fabulous, and besides, he’s rich and doesn’t skimp on expensive gifts. And here is such a prose of life, parents give very little money for study. And you want not only to eat well, but also to look beautiful. It makes no difference that he is a Muslim; their customs are strict but fair. And he loves me so much. I’ll go with him and have a great life!
- Loneliness. The woman was already married. My husband, for example, drank a lot and beat me too. A hopeless, tedious existence. I had to get a divorce. And here is an oriental handsome man with money. And how he cares, gives such gifts... He promises to take him with him, for example, to Turkey. There is only one life, but you want to live beautifully.
- Business. He comes from, say, Turkey. He has his own profitable business here. She works in his company. Warm relationships grew into love. They began to live together, over time the woman converted to Islam and left for her husband’s country.
- The appeal of Islam. Nowadays there are many divorced Islamist preachers; it is easy to find them on the Internet. They convincingly talk about the benefits of their religion. The vices of Christian society are stigmatized. Let's say same-sex marriage, which is prohibited in Muslim countries on pain of death. Many girls (guys) succumb to this propaganda and accept the new faith. What this can lead to, a striking example is the sad fate of Moscow student Varvara Karaulova. She traveled to Turkey and tried to illegally cross the Turkish-Syrian border in order to join the ranks of ISIS, the Islamic State terrorist organization banned in Russia.
It is important to know! There will always be women eager to marry a Muslim man. In the end, it's a personal choice. And it is not always fatal. However, the decision must be conscious, so that later it will not be “excruciatingly painful” for making a mistake, if it does happen.
Features of Muslim marriage
The marriage of a Muslim man and a Christian woman should be viewed through the prism of the norms of Muslim law, enshrined in adat and Sharia. Adat are ancient customs that believers are obliged to strictly follow in their lives. And Sharia is the “right path” given to people by the Prophet Muhammad.
Islam states that a woman should be an extraordinary person. For example, Khadija, the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad, was engaged in trade and herself invited him to marry her. Aisha, his second wife, left a lot of hasidim about the Prophet - information about his personal life. Muhammad respected his many wives, telling his followers that "You have rights over your women, and your women have rights over you."
But the Prophet also said that “Most of those who will go to hell will be women.” This controversial opinion of Muhammad about the female sex actually resulted in a severe restriction of the rights of Muslim women.
For example, in Saudi Arabia, women are actually prohibited from riding public transport; all parts of the body must be covered. Disobedience can result in imprisonment. And if she’s already behind bars, then there’s no early release, unlike men.
Therefore, a Slavic girl should think seven times before deciding to marry a Muslim. Will she be able to endure all the restrictions that life as a Muslim will impose on her if she has to leave for her husband’s homeland? After all, there you will have to change your faith.
Great love is not an excuse for a rash decision. You should verify your feelings with your mind. Passion may go away, but it is extremely difficult to rewrite a broken destiny again.
Life in a Muslim family has its own nuances that a girl who wants to join her destiny with a Muslim simply needs to know. She must understand that Islamic traditions regarding family relationships are holy and unshakable. For example, she must not spend money without her husband’s permission and cannot leave home without a male escort for more than 3 days. Otherwise it will be considered incorrect. This already entails punishment.
Main features of Muslim marriage:
- The husband is the head of the family. It is impossible to disobey, his word is strictly fulfilled. He can listen to his wife's opinion, but the decision is his. You should please your man in everything and always, even in sex. Refusing it without a serious reason (this could be, say, menstruation) is considered a serious fault.
- Household. The wife is obliged to conduct all household chores under the supervision of her mother-in-law. And strictly follow all her instructions. She is the eldest among the women of the family. He has no right to talk to her of his own free will, only when she speaks to her.
- Work permit. You need to ask your husband for it, he can give it, but this does not free you from housework. Muslim women can only work as doctors, nurses, teachers; they are prohibited from other professions.
- A woman has no right to talk to strangers. For disobedience there is a severe punishment; they can be charged with prostitution.
- Wearing a hijab. These are dark clothes that hide the body from prying eyes. What multi-colored dresses are here, so beloved by young people. Even the decorations cannot be seen by strangers. Everything is just for my husband.
- You can't leave the house. Only with the consent of your spouse, without his accompaniment or a relative, you cannot visit, for example, friends.
- Maybe more than one wife. I came to his homeland, and it turns out that he has three more wives at home. Muslim law allows polygamy. There is nowhere to go, you have to put up with it.
- Punishment. A husband can punish if his wife stubbornly refuses to obey him. But hitting is not allowed. If she can prove cases of physical violence against her, she can obtain a divorce. However, in this case, there is a very low probability that the Christian wife will take the children with her. The law is on the father's side here.
- Restrictions on attendance at sporting events. This is due to the fact that there will be involuntary communication with strangers, and this is strictly not allowed.
- Can't drive a car. Accordingly, a ban on obtaining a driver's license. In Saudi Arabia, being a female driver is a great sin.
- Internet restriction. Anyone who wants to marry a Muslim should know that in Muslim countries he is under strict control. Let's say there is a ban on social networks, dating sites, etc. The greatest restrictions exist in Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Jordan, and Iran. Anyone who violates Islamic values on the Internet may end up in prison.
It is important to know! The Islamic theologian al-Ghazali said: “Out of 1000 virtues, only one applies to women, the remaining 999 apply to men.” Before a Christian woman marries a Muslim, she should carefully weigh all the pros and cons of such a union. So that later you don’t bitterly repent and don’t bite your elbows.
Consequences of marriage between a Christian and a Muslim
Actually, all the features of the marriage of an Orthodox woman and a Muslim can become consequences. Happy or sad if the decision to marry was made hastily.
There is a high probability that he will be prosperous when the husband stayed in his wife’s homeland and even converted to her faith. And if they are both non-believers, it is possible that they will simply live happily, without burdening themselves with the religious dogmas of Christianity (Orthodoxy or Catholicism) and Mohammedanism.
In her husband’s homeland, if she decided to leave with him, the family can also be happy. And here a lot depends on the country where you went and the personality of the faithful. Will he be able to provide his wife with familiar living conditions in a state completely unfamiliar to her? An important role is how the foreigner will be received by her new family.
Her character also determines her future fate. How will she react to a new unusual life for herself, will she come to terms with it or will she resist the tough life situation.
A true Christian is unlikely to decide to marry a Muslim; even great love is not a reason to abandon the faith of her ancestors. And if this does happen, such an apostate departs from Christian morality and loses herself in God. He turns away from her, the realization of this will torment her soul for the rest of her life.
It is not easy to break oneself for a person who is accustomed to living freely, without wild taboos in the 21st century. And in Islam there are many of these for men, and even more for women. For example, the Islamic preacher Abu Isa at-Tirmidhi, who lived in the 9th century, said: “If a woman is disobedient or immodest, the husband has the right to beat her, but not to break her bones.” He believed that if a husband wants intimacy with his wife, she must submit unquestioningly, “even if she bakes bread at the stove,” since she “has no power over her body, even her milk belongs to her husband.”
Sharia law speaks about the inequality of women. For example, in court, the testimony of two women is equal to the testimony of one man. A Muslim can cheat on his wife, and, interestingly, can enter into short-term marriages from one hour to a year. In fact, this is a license for prostitution.
And God forbid a wife look at a strange man or she will be caught in adultery. This could end very sadly, for example, they could get stoned. This punishment is not practiced in all Muslim countries, but in Somalia in 2008 there was a case where a teenage girl was beaten to death only on the grounds that she had allegedly been raped by three men. The Islamist authorities interpreted this as having provoked them to violence.
An Orthodox Christian should certainly know about these and many other consequences of marriage with a Muslim before deciding to marry a Mohammedan. So that later all the harsh restrictions on the rights and freedoms of women that reign in Muslim society will not be a heavy duty for her. If this doesn’t stop you - love is above all, then good luck.
But more often than not, women have a very vague idea of the consequences of marriage to a Muslim. In the Soviet Union, there were often cases when a girl married a guy from Central Asia. Let's say he served where she lived. The soldier seemed like a sweet and reliable person, but upon arrival with his young wife at home he suddenly turned out to be a despot. His relatives also did not want to recognize her. And this became a great tragedy for the woman.
Today, a Muslim often takes his girlfriend to his country. All roots with relatives are cut off. It’s hard to say what could happen to her in a foreign land if life doesn’t work out. The unfortunate woman has to endure many ordeals, and it’s good if she manages to return to her homeland. And some are resigned to their lot. But such a fate can hardly be called happy.
In our troubled times, it is especially dangerous that preachers have appeared among young Muslims who describe the delights of Islam to Slavic women and even marry them. But in fact, women are recruited into the ranks of various terrorist groups banned in Russia. And this is the most terrible side of marriage with Muslims. It happens that such women become suicide bombers.
Watch a video about the marriage of a Christian and a Muslim:
Marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is a very serious step. There are many “pools” invisible to the inexperienced eye in which you can get wrapped up and confused. First of all, this applies to women who decide to throw in their lot with a person from a Muslim country. Feelings are good. But a wisely made decision is better! If a girl does not value her personal freedom and is ready to sacrifice herself in the name of love, then she should take the flag into her hands! But unfortunately, sad stories often happen in life when a rash act can significantly ruin your life. And not only can it be spoiled, sometimes you can even lose it.
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What awaits us? What will the parents say? Can a Muslim man marry a Christian? What rights do brides have? What about polygamy? Can we be happy? And if so, for how long? What about our children? And many more similar questions, the answers to which, in my opinion, are overgrown with myths. So I will try to tell you what you should actually prepare for.
To begin with, let’s put an end to the answer to the question: “Is it possible marriage between a Christian and a Muslim? Yes. A Muslim man is allowed to marry women from the People of the Book - Christians, Jews. To do this, you do not have to renounce your faith, wear a hijab, and so on. The Koran clearly states that there is no compulsion in religion. But, of course, it is advisable for the girl to still accept Islam and profess the same faith as her husband. When you get married, it’s like you’re getting into the same boat, and if everyone rows in their own direction, how far will you sail?
In the first case Christian woman is getting married behind so-called "nominal" or ethnic Muslim. That is, a person considers himself a Muslim, but has no inclination towards Islam and religious practice. Throughout their lives, such couples are guided by familiar moral principles and values. It is possible that the husband will go to the mosque twice a year on major holidays or observe the traditions of his people. Especially enterprising wives, and I know such cases, husbands even go to church on Sundays and are not against icons in the house. There are actually a lot of similar marriages. You can hear: “The neighbor over there has a Muslim husband, and he allows her to do everything - to wear makeup and to go without a headscarf.” Yes, he allows it, but at the same time the man himself is not averse to drinking and stares at the girls. And this is exactly the case when it is necessary to separate the “flies from the cutlets”. We must understand that being called a Muslim and being one are two different things. Such families are considered Muslim, as a rule, because of their place of residence or their Eastern surname, but not because of their lifestyle. Their longevity falls into the statistics of secular marriages.
In the second case marriage of a Muslim and a Christian is not limited to the registry office. If you find that your beloved also turns out to be a true believer, then you have a direct path to the mosque to legalize the marriage not only in front of society, but also in front of the Almighty. Often, during nikah, a woman will still be asked to say the Shahada (testimony of Monotheism). Many do not do this in name and actually convert to Islam over time. But there are also opposite cases. So, for example, one of my friends went out marry a turk and divorced after 5 years. Since after the birth of the child all disagreements that are possible between Muslim and Christian. When the husband wanted to teach his son prayer, his wife continued to memorize the “Our Father” at night. Think about whether you are ready to compromise on such vital issues, and agree on everything “on the shore”. And if you do not plan to raise your child in the Muslim faith, why then connect your life with a person of other principles? The strongest families are those where the wife is literally “behind her husband”: she fully accepts his way of life, observes religion herself and helps her husband, when everyone is in his place and fulfills his duties.
The third option is a nikkah without a registry office. Good news: Can a Muslim marry a Christian?, simply by concluding nikah in the nearest mosque. Two witnesses are enough, who are usually friends, and the girl’s guardian is the imam. The bad news is that almost all such marriages break up within the first two years, and the children born in such families grow up without a father. Remember, or better yet, write in bold letters: never agree to such adventures! Despite the fact that polygamy is permitted in Islam and is supported at the state level in some countries in Asia and Africa, the proportion of such marriages in these countries is very low. But for some reason, young beauties are in a hurry to add to the sad statistics and get involved in stories about which television and the Internet then make noise. Dear girls, before you go out marry an Arab or another eastern prince, understand: men love what they invest in. A marriage concluded in 5 minutes in a mosque, even with a decent gift, is nothing more than a way of quick and legal access to intimate relationships. Don’t rush to become second, third, or fourth, because the world is full of divorced people and even widowers. Why deliberately put yourself in a disadvantageous and obviously losing situation? But even if you are the first and only, and your betrothed only talks about love and is in no hurry to collect the necessary certificates for the embassy and marriage, run away from him. Most likely, this person is not distinguished by decency and responsibility for loved ones.
So, what is the first thing you should pay attention to before going out? marry a Muslim. Here are the main points for a happy and long marriage:
1. Beginning. As the proverb says: “A good start is half the battle gone.” It matters where and under what circumstances you met. It is doubtful that a marriage in which the future spouses met at a disco or on the beach will be blessed. If you are still searching, then be sure that the phrase "I want to get married" clearly visible to the opposite sex. Unfortunately, even among Muslims there are people with bad intentions, so be especially careful in public places if you are alone or with a friend. Choose a spouse from your circle or based on recommendations from friends.
2. Time. Never rush out get married early. To protect your interests, Islam has a wonderful custom - engagement (al-hitab). In this case, before marriage, the young people have time to get to know each other and make a thoughtful, informed decision. It’s better to spend months clarifying all the issues before the wedding than to spend your whole life tormented by a stranger or to get divorced after six months. According to my observations, most hasty marriages turn out to be extremely unsuccessful and unhappy. Don't make hasty decisions, don't burn bridges, and don't be led by feelings. The hadith says that slowness is from Allah, and haste is from the shaitan. If you are going to create a strong and lasting family for life, then arm yourself with this wisdom.
3. Family. Be sure to meet the groom's close relatives. May your future husband receive a parental blessing. Also take a close look at the lifestyle in his family. How committed to religion are the mother and father of the chosen one, what kind of relationship do they have? In 99% of cases, a man copies the behavior model of his parents. Be wary if he hides you from everyone or keeps silent about the facts of his biography. Some peoples, especially in the Caucasus, strongly discourage marriages with women of other nationalities. And if the groom’s family is categorically against your future together and sees you as a stranger, you should seriously think about it. It is equally important what position your future husband takes in a difficult situation. Whose side is he on: does he support you, or is the opinion of his parents more important to him? You will also gain support and understanding from loved ones before you go out. marry a Muslim. And really evaluate your chances - whether you can fight for happiness all your life together with your husband or alone, and also think about the consequences for the children.
4. Customs. A very important point, since not all Muslims are guided only by the Koran. For many peoples, traditions are so firmly rooted in everyday life that it is simply stupid to discount them. Study the customs of the people of your chosen one and try to try it on yourself - whether it suits you or not. If something confuses you in the behavior of a young man, then ask yourself a question: would he treat me this way if I were... (for example, an Arab, an Ingush, a Tatar, etc.). If the answer is no, then you should be on your guard. Let’s say in the East it’s customary to give women a lot of gold at weddings and organize lavish ceremonies, but your gentleman suggests limiting yourself to a table in a cafe and teaching mahr instead surah of the Koran. Or if it is customary for the daughter-in-law to clean and cook for the whole family, but the man says that there will be no problems in everyday life. Get ready to adopt other people's traditions, learn a language, live in an unusual environment, and adapt to a different culture. You are aware that you will have to change, and not your husband?
5. Language. At first, a few phrases may be enough for you, but to live together in an interethnic marriage, be prepared to learn your spouse’s language, especially if you go to his homeland. It is ideal to attend language courses, but you can use tutorials and lessons, which are now numerous on the Internet. You also need to take into account that you will have to teach languages to your children. Over time, you will master all the intricacies and rules of bilingual families, but to maintain literacy and a good level of two languages, you will have to work hard.
6. Documents. If the Muslim groom is not a citizen of the Russian Federation, then you will also have to comprehend the intricacies of international legislation. It doesn’t matter where you live, the rule “without a piece of paper you’re a bug” applies everywhere. Keep in mind that you need to complete all documents for marriage, take care of timely renewal of visas and obtain a residence permit for yourself or your future spouse. Often this process requires not only money and time, but also nerves.
7. Social status. Everyone probably knows the joke: “How to marry a millionaire?” - “Marry a billionaire.” In life, unfortunately, the opposite is often true. Women fall in love with unmercenary people and make millionaires out of them. They are ready to sell apartments and give up their savings just to be sworn of eternal love. Why this scheme works well with an Egyptian animator or Tajik guest worker, but does not work with a Russian janitor or waiter, is unclear to me. But the fact remains a fact. Unfortunately, even among my friends there are such victims. Problems can be avoided if you initially look for a spouse of equal status. To be fair, it should be noted that many couples start from scratch. But even if the chosen one is from a poor family, he must have potential, a desire to develop and improve, and not live at someone else’s expense. There is no “dowry” in Islam, but there is the concept of “ mahr" is a wedding gift for a woman, and responsibility for financial support after marriage rests entirely with men.
But the most important thing is religion. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “Truly, each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for the flock. A man is a shepherd for his family and is responsible for his flock.”(Muslim, Book of Government, 5, 1213).
Is Nikah done for those who, being non-Muslims, got married in a registry office or got married in a church, and then converted to Islam?
The opinions of the majority of Islamic scholars, based on the source (Koran and Sunnah):
If your faith with your wife was Christian and you both converted to Islam, then your marriage is valid and the children were born in marriage (legitimate), the past marriage is recognized, and there is no need to perform nikah again. And if they were ethnic Muslims, then it is even more believed that they had Nikah.
Because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not renew his marriage with Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) after Islam, and did not require his companions to reread the Nikah after accepting Islam.
Providing for a wife and child after divorce
1 - A woman divorced by an incomplete divorce with the right to return is entitled to material support and housing, and this is the responsibility of the husband until the period established for divorce ('iddah) has expired, in accordance with the words of the Almighty:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاء فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا الْعِدَّةَ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ لاَ تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِن بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَ لاَ يَخْرُجْنَ
“O Prophet! When you give a divorce to your wives, then divorce within the prescribed period, keep track of this period and fear Allah, your Lord. Drive them not out of their houses, and let them not go out of them” (65:1).
أَسْكِنُوهُنَّ مِنْ حَيْثُ سَكَنتُم مِّن وُجْدِكُمْ وَ لاَ تُضَارُّوهُنَّ لِتُضَيِّقُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ
« Settle them where you live yourself - according to your income. Don't harm them by trying to embarrass them"(65:6).
2 - A divorced person is not entitled to any financial support or housing. The proof of which is the decision of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) when Fatima bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her) turned to him after her husband divorced her with a final divorce, asking whether she was entitled to maintenance from him, for which The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “ You are not entitled to any maintenance or housing " Muslim 1480. The version cited by Abu Dawud says: " You are not entitled to maintenance unless you are pregnant. » Sahih Abu Daoud 2/433.
3 - A pregnant divorcee, even if she is finally divorced, according to the unanimous opinion of scientists, is entitled to maintenance and housing until she gives birth. Proof of this is the words of the Almighty:
أَسْكِنُوهُنَّ مِنْ حَيْثُ سَكَنتُم مِّن وُجْدِكُمْ وَ لا تُضَارُّوهُنَّ لِتُضَيِّقُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ وَإِن كُنَّ أُولاَتِ حَمْلٍ فَأَنفِقُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ حَتَّى يَضَعْنَ حَمْلَهُنَّ
“Settle them where you live yourself - according to your income. Do not harm them by wanting to embarrass them. If they are pregnant, then support them until they are delivered” (65:6).
4 - The responsibility to bear the expenses of children lies with their father, regardless of whether they are married or divorced, whether she is rich or poor. A woman is not obliged to bear expenses for them if their father is alive. And on this issue all scientists agree.
Ibn Qudama (may Allah have mercy on him) in al-Mughni 8/169-170 reported the words of Ibn Munzir (may Allah have mercy on him): “ All the owners of knowledge from whom we adopted the knowledge unanimously agreed that a man is obliged to support children who do not have their own property».
5 - If after a divorce the children are in the care and upbringing of the mother, then she can demand payment from her ex-husband for the care and upbringing of the children. See Mawsu'a al-fiqhiyya 17/311, as well as Sharh Muntaha al-Iradat 3/249.
6 - If a woman breastfeeds a child, then she has the right to demand payment from her ex-husband for this, in accordance with the words of the Almighty:
فَإِنْ أَرْضَعْنَ لَكُمْ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ وَأْتَمِرُوا بَيْنَكُمْ بِمَعْرُوفٍ
« If they breastfeed for you, then pay them a fee and consult among yourselves in a good way"(65:6).
This verse refers to divorced women.
This was the opinion of Abu Hanifa (may Allah have mercy on him), this is the most widespread and well-known opinion in the madhhab of Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him). This opinion was preferred by Sheikh al-Islam ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy on him), see al-Ikhtiyarat 412-413, and among modern scholars, Sheikh Ibn 'Usaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) adhered to this opinion, see "ash-Sharh al-Mumti'" 13/515-516. See also al-Mughni 11/431 and al-Fataawa al-Kubra 3/347.
7 - Material support includes: housing, food and drink, clothing, education, and anything else the children will need.
8 - The amount of material support, as well as fees for breastfeeding, and fees for the care and education of children, is determined by the customs of their area and time. At the same time, taking into account the condition and position of the ex-husband, in accordance with the words of the Almighty:
لِيُنْفِقْ ذُو سَعَةٍ مِنْ سَعَتِهِ وَمَنْ قُدِرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقُهُ فَلْيُنْفِقْ مِمَّا آتَاهُ اللَّهُ لا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلا مَا آتَاهَا سَيَجْعَلُ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ عُسْرٍ يُسْرًا
“Let him who has wealth spend according to his wealth. And whoever is short of money, let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not burden a person beyond what He has given him. After hardship, Allah creates relief” (65:7).
The rich must bear material costs in accordance with his position and condition. He who has average income, according to his position, is also poor. Or the parents themselves can agree on a certain fee, small or large. If the parents cannot reach mutual agreement on the amount, then the amount of material expenses for the child must be determined by a Sharia judge.
But still, it is better for them to come to a mutual agreement and assign a certain amount that will allow the child and his caring mother to live without need.
But the Prophet also said that “Most of those who will go to hell will be women.” This controversial opinion of Muhammad about the female sex actually resulted in a severe restriction of the rights of Muslim women. For example, in Saudi Arabia, women are actually prohibited from riding public transport; all parts of the body must be covered. Disobedience can result in imprisonment. And if she’s already behind bars, then there’s no early release, unlike men. Therefore, a Slavic girl should think seven times before deciding to marry a Muslim. Will she be able to endure all the restrictions that life as a Muslim will impose on her if she has to leave for her husband’s homeland? After all, there you will have to change your faith. Great love is not an excuse for a rash decision. You should verify your feelings with your mind. Passion may go away, but it is extremely difficult to rewrite a broken destiny again.
Marriage of a Muslim woman with a representative of another religion (Christian, Jew)
Why do they marry Muslims?
- Peculiarities
- Consequences
Marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is a voluntary union of a woman and a man professing different faiths and belonging to different cultures, when a passionate feeling forces one to abandon traditional Christian virtues and accept Muslim values, namely complete subordination to one’s husband, restriction of rights and freedoms in public life . Are marriages possible between representatives of different faiths? Registration of love relationships between representatives of different religious faiths is allowed in any country. The restrictions apply only to the age at which one can officially marry.
Russia is a multinational state; more than 190 different peoples live in the country. Moscow has over 11 million inhabitants, and the Slavic brothers - Russians, Ukrainians and Belarusians - are a minority here.
Marriage to a Muslim
And some are resigned to their lot. But such a fate can hardly be called happy. In our troubled times, it is especially dangerous that preachers have appeared among young Muslims who describe the delights of Islam to Slavic women and even marry them. But in fact, women are recruited into the ranks of various terrorist groups banned in Russia.
And this is the most terrible side of marriage with Muslims. It happens that such women become suicide bombers. It is important to know! A mother should be aware of her daughter's affairs of the heart.
And unobtrusively, without shouting or scandals, tell her what might happen if she decides to marry an Islamist and go with him to his homeland. Watch a video about the marriage of a Christian woman and a Muslim man: Marriage between a Christian woman and a Muslim man is a very serious step.
Marriage between a Christian and a Muslim woman
It makes no difference that he is a Muslim; their customs are strict but fair. And he loves me so much. I’ll go with him and have a great life!
- Loneliness. The woman was already married. My husband, for example, drank a lot and beat me too.
A hopeless, tedious existence. I had to get a divorce. And here is an oriental handsome man with money. And how he cares, gives such gifts... He promises to take him with him, for example, to Turkey. There is only one life, but you want to live beautifully. - Business.
He comes from, say, Turkey. He has his own profitable business here. She works in his company. Warm relationships grew into love. They began to live together, over time the woman converted to Islam and left for her husband’s country. - The attraction of Islam.
Nowadays there are many divorced Islamist preachers; it is easy to find them on the Internet. They convincingly talk about the benefits of their religion. The vices of Christian society are stigmatized.
Is a happy marriage possible between a Muslim and a Christian?
And if Islam guarantees freedom of religion and customs to Christian and Jewish wives of Muslims, protecting their rights in accordance with their faith, then other religions do not guarantee freedom of religion and customs to a woman of another faith, nor do they protect her rights. There are also answers that cite quotes from the Koran as arguments for this prohibition, which IMHO do not answer the question of whether it is forbidden or not at all :) For example, in this answer a Christian is equated with an unbeliever and accordingly they answer like this: The marriage of a Muslim woman to an unbeliever is considered a great sin, and the unanimous opinion that it is prohibited and the marriage is considered void. Faith and Religion A Muslim woman is allowed to marry only a Muslim.
For Islam, marriage is the creation of a family home based on peace, faith and Islamic values.
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Moreover, the customs in other faiths are different, it is too difficult to get along and become different... But we love each other very much and are really happy together! When getting married, according to what religious traditions should the ceremony be held? Maxim, 18 years old. I will refrain from answering, but will only advise you to carefully read the book to the end. I'm dating a non-Muslim guy. He is German, and I am Chechen.
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I don't commit any sins. He understands that he can’t even touch me. I've been dating him for eight years, two of which we were friends, the rest is love. I tried to move away from him, stop dating, try to communicate with guys of my nationality, but nothing.
I'm in pain and can't do anything. He doesn't want to let me go either. Can I marry him? I know that there are many questions similar to mine, but I really want you to answer mine. Nadira, 22 years old.
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Under no circumstances can a Muslim woman marry a non-Muslim, even if he is one of the People of the Book. This is clearly stated in the Koran: “Do not marry [your daughters] to polytheists until they convert to the faith.” (The Koran, Agatha Christie’s Family Day in relation to Muslim women (who moved to Medina) says: “If you are convinced that they are believers, then do not return them to the disbelievers, for it is not lawful for the disbelievers to [marry] them, and it is not lawful for believing women to marry disbelievers” (Quran, 60:10). except Muslims.
Islam allowed a Muslim man to marry a Jewish woman and a Christian woman, but did not allow this for a Muslim woman, explaining this by the fact that the man is the head of the family and responsible for his wife.
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Only such a family, established by the Lord himself at the creation of the world, can prevent or at least stop the further slide of modern society into the abyss of moral relativism,” the DECR press service quoted Metropolitan Hilarion as saying on Wednesday. According to him, the Catholic and Orthodox churches need to join forces to protect the traditional family and together seek its legislative protection. He is a Muslim, I am a Christian, will anything work out between us? When he returned, he somehow lost interest in me, but also said that he missed me very much.
Now I’m seriously wondering if anything will work out for us, since he’s a Muslim and I’m a Christian? And why did he change so much? I really want to be with him.
Is marriage possible between a Christian and a Muslim woman?
So that later all the harsh restrictions on the rights and freedoms of women that reign in Muslim society will not be a heavy duty for her. If this doesn’t stop you - love is above all, then good luck. But more often than not, women have a very vague idea of the consequences of marriage to a Muslim.
In the Soviet Union, there were often cases when a girl married a guy from Central Asia. Let's say he served where she lived. The soldier seemed like a sweet and reliable person, but upon arrival with his young wife at home he suddenly turned out to be a despot. His relatives also did not want to recognize her. And this became a great tragedy for the woman.
Today, a Muslim often takes his girlfriend to his country. All roots with relatives are cut off. It’s hard to say what could happen to her in a foreign land if life doesn’t work out. The unfortunate woman has to endure many ordeals, and it’s good if she manages to return to her homeland.
Is it possible for a Muslim to marry a Christian? Is this marriage valid?
In Saudi Arabia, being a female driver is a great sin.
- Internet restrictions. Anyone who wants to marry a Muslim should know that in Muslim countries he is under strict control. Let's say there is a ban on social networks, dating sites, etc.
The greatest restrictions exist in Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Jordan, and Iran. Anyone who violates Islamic values on the Internet may end up in prison.
It is important to know! The Islamic theologian al-Ghazali said: “Out of 1000 virtues, only one applies to women, the remaining 999 apply to men.” Before a Christian woman marries a Muslim, she should carefully weigh all the pros and cons of such a union.
So that later you don’t bitterly repent and don’t bite your elbows. Consequences of a marriage between a Christian and a Muslim Actually, all the features of the marriage of an Orthodox woman and a Muslim can become consequences.
Features of marriage between a Christian and a Muslim
Therefore, a Christian or Jewish woman is the wife of a Muslim. Marriage between a Christian and a Muslim woman is protected by a man who respects the foundations of her faith, her Scripture, her Prophets, but neither the Jew nor the Christian recognizes the divine origin of Islam, its Holy Scripture and the Prophet (Peace be upon him). How can a Muslim woman live with such a man in such a case, because her religion requires her to comply with a number of obligations and worships. It would be impossible for a Muslim woman to maintain respect for her faith if she encounters obstacles at every step from her husband, the head of the family. In relation to polytheists, Islam approaches from the position of rationality.
Is marriage possible between a Christian and a Muslim woman?
It goes without saying that it is better to choose a Muslim as a husband, since the husband is the head of the family, with all the ensuing consequences. But I know a person who is a Christian (at the same time, I have some confidence that for him the Almighty is not triune, but one). Moreover, the existing alternative in the form of an ethnic Muslim terrifies me.
I am ready to admit that I wish only the best for this Muslim, but I cannot live with him (after all, a family is created taking into account character and temperament). I hope for the mercy of Allah, who, if He wishes, will open his (Christian) heart to the truth (with my daily du'a-prayers). So, 1) does it make sense to choose an unloved person as a husband just because he is a Muslim? 2) How correct would it be to allow children to independently decide on their choice of faith at a reasonable age (instilling in every possible way a love for Islam from childhood)? 1.