A good husband must ... or Qualities of a good husband. The main qualities and features of the ideal man

What is the concept of "ideal" for me? Probably, the synonyms that I select mentally when I hear this word will answer this question: utopia, unreal image, template, standard. I think enough.

The ideal, like any, exclusively personal subject, depending on individual tastes, can be completely opposite, according to different people. But there are still some general touches that everyone uses, then, already in their own taste, style and interest, completing the main picture. These fuzzy lines that serve as dotted lines should most likely carry a positive charge. Simply put, the ideal is something positive and bright.

When people fall into the perspective of any concept (regardless of gender, age, etc.), it must be remembered that a person is not a computer, not a robot, and nothing extreme should be allowed. It is impossible to see an animated face from the very beginning in that in which it is impossible to see it. Speaking clearly, if we talk about people, then the calculation of the "ideal" is inappropriate. This is not true from start to finish.

There is nothing similar in this world, and nothing is perfect. We have not yet come up with something that perfectly meets absolutely all requirements and standards. Then why all this talk, why constant talk and shouting, arguments and quarrels?

I can philosophize long and tediously on the topic of "ideal" men, but, despite the provisions of the hostess of the article, I decided to include other people's opinions in the dialogue. This, on the one hand, is interesting, and on the other hand, it confirms what was previously written that the opportunity to discuss something and someone is a chance "not to be bored." So, sit back and get ready to listen first to the men who responded to the request to imagine themselves in the role of a woman and indicate what an ideal man should be like?

"I'll try to tell my vision of the ideal man from the position of a woman. So:

1. To love (this includes flowers (not only for holidays), carrying on hands, gifts, performing various quirks and whims, well, sex, probably more often - this is for advanced long-term couples or families, and so that you don’t fall asleep immediately after it, but talked a lot about how good, gentle and affectionate I am, etc., etc.

2. Attentive attitude - after work, to communicate with me and my family, not sit all night long at the TV or computer, remember our important dates - like when we started dating, when we got married, when ... and more - and made me surprises on them.

3. To bring money into the house, which would be enough not only for pins and hairpins, but also for at least a weekly shopping in boutiques.

4. To not be a bore, to have a sense of humor, to speak interestingly and beautifully, but not to be a talker, to be a sociable guy (but in any company so as not to forget about me), to love my parents (or at least respect them - I don’t demand the impossible) , was an independent, well-established interesting person (although I will always correct those character traits that I don’t like), he listened (or at least pretended) to my opinion.

5. And, of course, that he drank and smoked in moderation (that is, a little with me). This is the main thing, we will decide everything else in the course of life. Well, something like that."

Maxim, manager, 27 years old, married, 1 child, 1.5 years of marriage - I myself am not ideal, according to my wife.

“It’s really hard for me to say what image of the ideal man women draw for themselves. I’m 38 years old and I don’t consider myself an old man or a man of old formations. I can only assume that it should be important for a woman that next to her is a real man with whom reliably, easily, warmly, and she can always hide from all adversity behind his wide, or not very, back.Unfortunately, in society, values change and perhaps for some it is more material wealth, but all this, in fact passing and, unfortunately, not from a good life, but love, decency, honesty are constant categories. And it seems to me that this is what should be valued. "

Evgeny Narcissov, director of the firm.

“The thought is this: there may be an ideal man for a single woman, and maybe one that is close to the ideal for the majority. Paradoxical as it sounds, he must be a woman or know what it means to be a woman - only in this case he will be able to most fully understand women - if there is a desire, of course.

Vyacheslav, psychologist, 25 years old.

Opinions, in my opinion, are different and there is something to think about and reason about. Just do not rush to conclusions, because you have not yet learned the point of view of the ladies who agreed to answer the question: What should be the ideal man for you?

"So that's it! Probably, appearance is still not the main thing ... so I'll go straight to the character ... or behavior ... For me, the ideal man is the type of Rhett Battler ("Gone with the Wind"), (or the heroes of Antonio Banderas), i.e. first of all - a man!Sexuality should be felt, albeit hidden, but I should feel that when we are left alone ... Further, I must be gentle, but at the same time, so that masculine power is felt both in actions and in Kind, reasonable (one of us must be reasonable), with a good sense of humor - this is, perhaps, a must ... It does not have to be a lover of parties, but it is easy enough to rise to all sorts of walks, romantic evenings and other forays dear to a woman's heart. Oh, in my opinion, I am describing my own husband ... And, of course, he must love me, but if it had not yet come to love, then see all of the above "...

Natalia, manager, 24

The ideal man, in my interpretation:

1. smart
2. with a sense of humor
3. generous
4. determined
5. last and foremost: He must be a MAN!!!

And now about everything in order ...

1. I do not consider myself a fool, especially since I have two higher educations in various fields of activity (legal and acting). If I have time and no one is around, I spend it with a book. Friends consider me an intellectual, because curiosity is the main feature of my character ... I hope it is clear that the man next to me should not lag behind me in my horizons and even be a little higher level, so that it would be interesting to catch up.

2. I am a cheerful person, and for us to be always funny together, only my witticisms are not enough.

3. I don't like mean people, but the main idea is still not about money. Generous for the time devoted to me, generous for beautiful words (even smart women love with their ears), generous for affection, kindness and care.

4. A man who does not know how to make decisions is not just not perfect, but simply NOT a man. Details below:

5. A MAN is a person who is opposite to a woman in terms of sexual and functional characteristics. He must hammer nails, must carry weights, must have the last word, must be the OWNER. I will never tolerate a comrade nearby who needs to be managed, who needs to be led by the hand and who does not know what is important for him in life and what is secondary.

Eva, theater actress, 32 years old

"I love testing men, choosing the most suitable candidate for my brutal appetite, and therefore ideal for me. Since I live in the virtual space all my time, the casting takes place there. I can take off my stockings, faint and demand artificial respiration, I can dance flamengo and knock with castañedas, drink martinis and offer all sorts of personalities hiding under loud nicknames to drink brotherhood. Naturally, while playing, I watch how a man behaves in different situations. so it turns out that my ideal man should be strong and dexterous, accomplished and wealthy, with the ability to formulate his thoughts verbally and have a decent supply of compliments, since a woman loves with her ears. He must have an aversion to pasta, since I they make me fat.To have great feelings for cats, since he will have to share our family bed with my mustachioed pet as well. eat. To adore children (who are simply obliged to be born) and pamper them with all sorts of gifts, however, like their mother. To endure and respect my beloved girlfriend Aska and our cute hourly chirping with her. Do not restrict my freedom. Don't have the audacity to say that there is no need to wear short skirts because there are long ones. Once a month, give kindness and attention to your mother-in-law. The main thing is to revere and bow before such a miracle of miracles like me. Continue the list?"

Ann, frequenter of Cleo's mini-chat, she is 17 years old

I've saved my humble opinion on the subject for last. About my position on the question of "ideal" in general, I have already told at the beginning. As for ideal men, I think they do not exist, if only because there are no ideal women. Naturally, I evaluate people at a meeting, acquaintance, at work, in life, and there are still a lot of options when you can put a label on a particular person. To be honest, I don’t really like the word “label” and I don’t like to hang this, but it’s easier to call the habit of judging people on their dignity. Although often for shortcomings.

Just the other day I was asked: what should be the ideal man? I could not give a clear answer to this simple question, it turned out that it was not easy. Because in my attitude towards people (separately men and women separately) there are certain criteria and certain general qualities that I like, but I don’t want to take them out as an “ideal image”, since a single person is a separate image.

In men (since we are talking about them), I have always appreciated two main features - decency and a sense of humor. The first determines a person's ability to focus on universal values and principles of life, and the second - to ignore the fact that life and universal values and principles are often incompatible.

Surely every woman has her own image of a person, close to ideal. Of course, each of us has our own "fads" that we consider the highest priority. But in today's article, we will try to summarize all these parameters and try to create the image of an ideal man.

What should be the ideal man?

We have compiled a rough list of the qualities of an ideal man. Of course, these points may vary, but in most cases, every woman will appreciate such a man.

Good family man with modesty. Awareness of the importance of the institution of the family, of course, is one of the most important human factors. If a man hurries home after work, to his wife and children, and does not go to a bar to watch another football match with friends, this does not mean that he is a weakling and, on the contrary, it speaks of his maturity and concern for loved ones.
The ability to understand a woman. Unfortunately, not many representatives of the stronger sex have this ability. Therefore, men who seek not to escape from a woman, but on the contrary, to understand her behavior and condition are especially valued.
Good physical form. Although they say that “do not drink water from your face”, all the same, the ideal body of a man will please any woman. And we are not talking about eight pack abs, it is enough just to have a pumped up, not sagging stomach and courageous hands. Moreover, if a woman has a man in excellent physical shape, then for the lady there is an additional incentive to strive to improve her own figure.
Sexuality and sensuality. The ability to turn a woman on, give her pleasure and inspire her to continue spending time together is far from every man.
Sociability and communication. Of course, within reasonable limits. The ability to find a common language with people, unfortunately, is not present in all men. But it is so important to maintain a conversation or decisively move on to other actions ...
Loyalty and loyalty. Comments on these qualities will be superfluous.
and love of life. Positive, bright people attract others to them.

The ideal appearance of a man

When drawing up the image of an ideal man, one cannot ignore such an important detail as appearance. At all times, the theme of the human body did not leave people indifferent. Of course, at all times the standards of beauty are different. Today we can observe the so-called "cult" of the male body.

The ideal figure of a man, according to the results of international surveys, looks something like this: the ideal height for a man is not less than 170 cm, the hips should be narrow, the buttocks should be pumped up, and the shoulders should be wide. Many women pay attention to male buttocks, the reason is quite simple: our subconsciousness and instincts work, if a man has a good physical shape and elastic buttocks, it means that he often makes love, is healthy and ready to procreate. The ideal weight, according to most, is the golden mean - a man should not be frail and fragile so that he wants to be fed, but being overweight does not delight most women.

Thus, we tried to create an approximate image of the ideal representative of the stronger sex. But it is important to remember that the concept of beauty and perfection is individual for each person. Therefore, first of all, it is important to appreciate the spiritual, moral qualities of the individual. Look for your man, despite his physical parameters, because feelings should come first.

We see that a lot depends on the wife in the life of her husband, and she secretly influences him, because the female power is the power of subtle nature.

In a woman, the subtle body of the mind is much more developed than in a man, and she has more subtle feelings. A man, on the other hand, tends to be less sensitive, often he has a more developed memory and mind. But nevertheless, in the external relationships in the family, feelings and the mind play an important role. Since we are in contact with this world through feelings and through the mind, in fact, if the wife does not appreciate the mind of her husband, does not consider that he occupies a sufficiently high position in the family, then as a result, the husband will lose the opportunity to show his mind in resolving issues related to family life and in the relationship of the family with the outside world. As a result, the family ceases to function properly.

On the other hand, if the wife is in a subordinate position, even though she is more intelligent than her husband, then the husband naturally yields to her. She humbly asks him, or gives him the freedom to choose. Thus, a man tends to act honorably towards a woman who behaves humbly, and vice versa, tends to behave very selfishly towards a woman who behaves insubordinately and puts herself above the man.

Thus, we see that whether we like it or not, a woman still manages our relationship with each other. The situation is in her hands. Management means for her - freedom of choice. Either she begins to obey her husband, and then the relationship becomes good, the children are brought up well and the family prospers, or she begins to lead over him and tries to humiliate him. This is where strife arises.

What should be the ideal husband, to whom the wife can obey, will love, cherish and cherish?

The duties of a husband to his wife are:

- buy clothes and jewelry,

- protect

- teach,

- bestow trust

- love and tender words,

- never upset her.

A man who has managed to win the love of a chaste woman has succeeded in comprehension of the Faith and has all the virtues.

The most valuable thing that a man can give to a woman is his Strength, the image of his Spirit and the image of his Blood. If for a wife her husband is the first man who threw his seed into her, then if he treats her as the mother of his future children, and not as an object of lust, he can give her not only the energy of his seed and the Force necessary for conception and bearing a child, but also to reveal her Feminine Lot.
A man, passing on to his wife the image of his Spirit - the qualities of his Life and the image of Blood - the qualities of his Breed, takes her under the protection of his Family, endows her with the Feminine Share - the ability to Love for her husband and children, and reveals her Family Memory - an intuitive insight into the accumulated experience of her and her ancestors in the female line about creating a loving relationship in the family and maintaining harmony in the house.

64 qualities that make a man perfect:

1. The ability to consciously act in accordance with the Commandments of the Ancestors, the laws of their Gods and the Will of the Progenitor.

2. Striving to acquire the qualities of Knowledge: modesty; humility; renunciation of violence; tolerance; simplicity; appeal to a true spiritual teacher; cleanliness; durability; self-discipline; renunciation of objects of sense gratification; lack of false ego; the realization that birth, death, old age and disease are evil; lack of affection; independence from enslavement by wife, home, children, household and work; calmness in the face of both pleasant and unpleasant events; constant and pure devotion to the Family; enlightenment of the mind and departure from idle communication and crowds of people into solitude; self-sufficiency; recognizing the importance of achieving excellence; continuity of deep knowledge of Spirit, Light and true "I"; wise search for the Perfect Truth.

3. Knowledge of the Vedic scriptures.

4. The ability to transfer one's consciousness to Navier, Klub'e, Kolobye and Divye's body.

5. Knowledge of mining law and the ability to prove one's case.

6. The ability to control your feelings.

7. The ability to control the vital force and the center of the hara.

8. The ability to organize your family and society.

9. Ability to teach a spouse.

10. Ability to be determined on the ground.

11. The ability to communicate with the elements of nature.

12. The ability to use their hair and beard.

13. Knowledge of folk customs and performance of rituals according to the precepts of ancestors.

14. Knowledge of the basics of star reading; auspicious and inauspicious days.

15. Cleanliness.

16. The ability to do various massages, maintain longevity and health.

17. Witchcraft treatment: herbal medicine, conspiracies, healing with vitality, etc.

18. Possession of honor and dignity; the ability to protect oneself, one's family, clan, people and Fatherland.

19. Knowledge of various types of martial arts.

20. Perfection in the art of sports games, military strategy and tactics.

21. Experience in owning various types of weapons, dexterity and skill.

22. The ability to move plastically and perform hand-to-hand combat techniques in dance.

23. The ability to make various types of weapons, equipment and tools.

24. Ability to design and build; knowledge of the symbolism of the home.

25. The ability to reason, identify patterns and draw conclusions.

26. The ability to be collected in any situation.

27. The ability to clearly and eloquently express thoughts.

28. Knowledge of various characters.

29. Knowledge of games that develop the mental abilities of a person.

30. Knowledge of various betting games.

31. Knowledge of slyness and the ability to deceive (“deception” is what is next to the mind, with the truth: tricks, pranks, practical jokes, sleight of hand).

32. The ability to mislead opponents.

33. The ability to guess the intended numbers, names, objects, phrases, etc.

34. Knowledge of games based on guessing (riddles, puzzles, charades, hide and seek, etc.).

35. Conducting business accounts, knowledge of measures of weight, volume, density, etc.

36. Knowledge of the tax system.

37. Ability to negotiate and conduct business.

38. The ability to recognize the qualities, abilities, states and intentions of a person by his gait, movements, gestures, facial expressions and posture.

39. The ability to recognize the state of a person by his handwriting, to express himself beautifully and competently in writing.

40. The ability to convey with the help of painting, drawing, sculpture, engraving, chasing, forging, casting, stone and wood carving one's state and perception of the world around.

41. Knowledge of the properties of stones and the ability to use them.

42. The ability to solve dreams and interpret signs.

43. Making garlands, wreaths, bouquets and knowing their hidden meaning.

44. The ability to make building materials, utensils, household items and toys from clay

45. Making fabrics and yarns from various materials; making and decorating clothes; knowledge of the hidden meaning of patterns and characteristics of products.

46. Preparation of paints; dyeing of fabrics, yarn, clothes, utensils.

47. Cooking art and preparation of drinks.

48. Knowledge of wild plants, their use in everyday life and nutrition.

49. The ability to get a good harvest in the field, garden and vegetable garden, preserve it and make food preparations.

50. Knowledge of animal husbandry.

51. Communication and games with animals; their training, the suggestion of the necessary actions.

52. Knowledge of tales, fairy tales, epics, legends.

53. Composition of poems, songs and their performance.

54. Knowledge of favorable and unfavorable rhythms, sizes, melodies and their reproduction on various instruments.

55. Ability to juggle various objects.

56. Possession and control of sexual power.

57. The ability to unwind with his wife a whirlwind of sexual energy of sufficient power to conceive an aristocrat (“aristocrat” - Arius a hundred times), a boyar (“boyar” - more ardent, bright, enlightened, wise, strong, courageous).

58. Management of sexual energy and its unity with the energy of the spouse in various love positions.

59. Knowledge of the art of lovemaking and games.

60. The ability to satisfy the spouse and give her the greatest pleasure.

61. Knowledge of the secret meaning of women's dresses and jewelry, the ability to present them to your spouse.

62. The ability not to upset the spouse.

63. Knowledge of affectionate words and the ability to use them.

64. Conscientiously fulfill the prescribed duties to the Family.

But the main duty of a man is to fulfill his highest duty, described in detail in the Vedic scriptures - to gain the Kingdom of Heaven. That is why all the luminaries advised: "Achieve perfection yourself, and thousands around you will achieve perfection." A person who has reached perfection will help his family - relatives for seven generations forward and backward.

The proverbs of the Russian people say:

A gracious husband always has a wife to spare.

A smart husband's wife is well-groomed, a stupid husband's wife is worn out on weekdays.

Without a husband, a wife is always an orphan.

A wife without a husband is the worst.

Parents take care of their daughter to the crown, and the husband of his wife to the end.

Without a husband, the head is not covered; without a wife the house is not covered.

Husband is honored for reason, wife for mind.

Red pava with a pen, and a wife with a temper!

A bad wife will make you old, a good wife will make you younger.

Whoever has the whitest wife is the sweetest of all.

Children are the grace of God.

Children are good - father, mother's crown,

thin - father, mother end.

What goes around comes around.

Like attracts like.

The apple never falls far from the tree.

What should be a husband so that you want to be an ideal wife for him, you will read today on the Koshechka.ru website. The very topic of a recent article about that could have caused you indignation: how is it, why is all the demand from a woman, but how about a man?

So let's talk about the strong half ... But let's not forget about us, loved ones!

Women's Problem: I don't know what I want

Many to the question What qualities should a husband have? can answer:

bringing home the entire salary,
fulfilling every whim,
helping around the house, etc.

And it is in this that his love is manifested, and this is how many see caring. Well, let's argue.

Let's say your husband brings you the entire salary. Okay, then how will he fulfill every whim? For what money? Take them from you?

There is another point - let's say he will give you the entire salary. But what if he wants to start a business? Or develop an existing one?

Further - what a good husband should be like - to help around the house. Let's say, yes, a husband can do this, but not in the context that you will lie down and watch TV shows, and after a hard day's work he will fiddle with mops and a mountain of unwashed dishes. First, it's practically impossible. Secondly, even if such a man exists in nature, he will not be enough for a long time. As long as there is passion, he can fulfill all the whims and dance around you, and then he wants a comfortable life.

Of course, if you are lying with a fever or very busy, and he refuses to simply wash the dishes, there is no excuse for this!

But sadly, sometimes women themselves do not know what they want, and from this the “sawing” of their husband begins, constant questions, scandals and tears.

Reply to forum members

All of these messages clearly demonstrate the underlying problem. For many, public opinion matters., and not how specifically they are comfortable or good with this or that man. There are far-fetched problems - someone said that a man should not go out with friends until late. Or: only a joint vacation - and nothing else! Everyone is chasing some ideals or even social norms, or something, without thinking what a real husband should be like, alive, real and their own.

By the way, some people really achieve that a man turns from a reveler into a kind of pet. He doesn’t go anywhere, sees friends less and less, after work he immediately goes home. And then they also complain that their husbands cannot make decisions, do not provide for their families and sit only on low-paid budget work. Such "henpecked" ..

There is only one conclusion from all this - do not chase stereotypes, do not think about what is good for others. After all, you live with this person and only you decide what is acceptable for you. But a few tips on choosing a future life partner can still be given.

What should be the future husband?

This part of the article is just for those who are still in search. So, you haven't found your companion yet, but for now you're just looking around. Of course, he himself must make you an offer, because otherwise even the ideal one for you can be scared away by perseverance.

Recently, an interesting note caught my eye that the ideal couple will be those who can answer three questions.

Do you like scary movies?
Are you ready to drop everything and sail on a ship on a trip?
Do you want to live in your own house?

By the way, there are no right answers to these questions - the main thing is that they match for you and your chosen one!

What should be the future husband so that you live comfortably with him? Main, so that you have the same outlook on life.

Do you want children and when?
How will you spend your time together? It is very important that there are identical or coinciding hobbies so that you can develop relationships while having fun.
Are there personal hobbies? And they should be, so as not to get bored. Go to yoga, and let him do volleyball - this is not a minus from spending time together, but a plus for the quality of the relationship.

And in general - an ideal husband for you can also be a homebody if you are ready to live quietly and peacefully and realize your career prospects, support your family. Or maybe rarely appear at home, but each meeting will be like a date, and the candy-bouquet period will turn out to be a lifetime. Or most of it.

Do not chase ideals, but be sure that on basic questions your answers are the same as him. After all , not abstract, but your own, real, largely depends on what is most important to you.

Eva Raduga - especially for Koshechka.ru - a site for those in love ... with themselves!