A wedding is an event for which they prepare in advance, but there are also impatient young people who want everything faster without looking back at the posts. Most people in the Russian world are still serious about fasting. This can be seen from the statistics of marriages of young people during non-fasting periods. Now this is more explained to the newlyweds by their parents and priests - they all say with one voice that it is impossible to get married during fasting!
Why is it impossible to get married in posts? These days, strict rules of behavior and even nutrition, and much more are banned. At this time, it is necessary to show patience, have restraint, refrain from bodily intimacy, and the first wedding night is not possible. And all the holidays, to a greater extent, have a demonic beginning, which does not bode well for refusing to fast.
How to still hold a wedding in? For this, there must be good reasons and the permission of the priest on the chosen day. In this case, the church will go to the meeting, but the solemn fur celebration will be banned. You must behave modestly, on occasions of light celebration, only lean meals and non-alcoholic drinks are served on the tables. Even on any day outside the fasting time, we must celebrate the wedding soberly, and it is strictly forbidden for newlyweds to drink alcohol if they want healthy children. Few people adhere to this now, those grooms who allow brides to drink even champagne are fools - they are fools and uneducated people, alcohol genocide is going on against our country, and alcohol is a weapon of mass destruction.
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Is it possible to play a wedding in the post?
Here is a vivid video of the opinions of 2 priests, one categorically says no, and the second about the possibility, if people are not believers, there are a lot of sensible thoughts in their words, look!
Here, everyone in his family will decide for himself, based on beliefs and understanding of life, whether it is worth getting married or getting married in fasting. If it’s easy to register a wedding according to the laws, then it’s more difficult and much more difficult. Therefore, we wish everyone faith, love and respect for each other and church canons.
A very important point in organizing a wedding is the right choice of the wedding date. Newlyweds often ask themselves: what time of the year is it better to have a wedding? The answer to this question is simple: all seasons are good in their own way for getting married.
But if the newlyweds are wondering: what days are better to play a wedding, then you should prepare yourself - analyze the desired wedding day from many points of view.
The most ardent desire of the bride and groom is that their marriage be long, lasting and happy, therefore, advice and signs should not be neglected.
Summer is ideal for modern newlyweds to marry: the warmest time of the year, the delights of a celebration in nature, the lush flowering of plants and a rich wedding menu are available.
Each season has its own advantages for a wedding celebration, the choice is only for the newlyweds.
First of all, you should check the chosen day in the sad calendar of events of married families. Was there any death in the family that day? It is believed that a marriage concluded on such a day will not be happy.
What is the best date for a wedding? the newlyweds think. What dates do not play a wedding - read below.
It is believed that a marriage concluded on such days can also become "transitional", that is, short-lived.
Another number in the year is not suitable for marriage - this is February 29th. It only happens in leap years. A family created on such a strange day is considered difficult.
Astrologers, when choosing the best number for a wedding, analyze the position of the Moon and the Sun. Symbolically, in the perfect sacrament of marriage, the husband is the Sun and the wife is the Moon. In the lunar calendar, you can easily see the position of the stars. 
For a successful start of marriage, you need to choose a day when the Moon is in the sign of the zodiac under which the future wife was born, and the Sun is in the sign under which the future husband was born. 
The exception is the days when one of the luminaries or both at once are in the sign of Aries - such days are universally unsuccessful for marriage of those people who are born under other signs of the zodiac. Aries may not heed this advice.
It is better not to play weddings at the end of October and in November - the Sun is in Scorpio, which is not conducive to a family union.
A family that begins in March or at the end of February is not long-lived. But if the future wife according to the horoscope is Pisces, ignore this recommendation.
You cannot plan a wedding if the Moon is in the signs of Virgo, Scorpio or Capricorn; days of solar and lunar eclipses are also unsuitable for a wedding celebration.
What is the best year to get married?
This question often finds very interesting answers. For example, 2014 was declared the year of widows and widowers, so some couples have postponed their happy union day. 
A wedding in December is like a dream come true about a winter fairy tale. Around - white snow, against which you can make a beautiful photo shoot, and for a honeymoon you can go to a hot resort. But are the signs favorable to those who decide to marry in this month of winter?
December wedding - ancient signs and modern superstitions
In the old days, it was customary to play weddings after the completion of agricultural work. With the harvest and preparations for winter behind us, it was a good time to start a family. In winter, villagers often sent matchmakers and got married, and December was considered one of the most suitable months of the year for a wedding.
It is impossible to do a wedding in a church in December, as it is Christmas post, which lasts from November 28 to January 6. Therefore, the church does not recommend marriage at this time. You can also get married after the official marriage - in January, after Christmas.
A wedding in December is a budget overrun. Therefore, they always tried to raise more money, fearing unplanned costs. Their advice is valid even now, in December it is extremely difficult to book a room in a restaurant - this is the time for New Year's corporate parties and other events.
Calendar of favorable and unfavorable dates
For a wedding on December 31, there is no negative value. And by New Year's signs As you meet the holiday, so the whole year will pass.
December 3, 6, 8, 20 and 30 are also considered successful. You can plan marriage on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 23rd and 29th. Some astrologers claim that all odd numbers of this month are great for celebration.
Regarding unfavorable days for a wedding, one of those is December 4th. This is the date Entry into the Church of the Most Holy Theotokos. The essence of the holiday is not combined with the wedding ceremony, so it is not customary to appoint it on this day. The 14th and 22nd are also unfavorable. Marriages concluded on these dates of the month are short-lived, as astrologers say. The rest of the dates are neutral.
Weather signs
Heavy snowfall or blizzard predict a rich life for a young family. The more snow, the more money will be in the family budget.
hard frost to the firstborn boy. The stronger the cold, the more health and luck he will receive. Frost promises young fidelity to each other. The relationship of the newlyweds will be ardent until old age.
Warm, lack of wind and precipitation- to a rich life. There will be bright events, money, health, there will be no peace. Rain during the wedding- to money. The sign also promises healthy children and the absence of quarrels.
The bad omen is unstable weather. If the weather has changed several times in one day, family life will be like a rollercoaster. It will be both bad and good.
Other Superstitions About December Marriages
If the bride tears her stockings or pantyhose, she will soon become a mother. One arrow or hole portends the birth of a daughter, two more - a son. Loss of a stocking - to a quarrel, possibly an early divorce.
Modern brides, contrary to popular wisdom, dream of original dresses, blue, black, and even trousers instead of a traditional outfit. But signs about wedding dresses recommend choosing white. Last but not least, pink. A red bridal outfit is allowed only for a second marriage, such were adopted by the ancient Slavs.
The appearance of two crows at the marriage ceremony - to fidelity, a happy family life and love until death. Do not be afraid of gloomy black birds, wedding ones have extremely positive meanings.
In winter, it is easier to follow one of the advice of ancestors - seat guests on fur coats. It could be faux fur. The sign in this case promises the young family wealth, tender marital relations.
In general, a wedding in the first winter month is not burdened by the presence of bad omens. This time has long been considered one of the most suitable for creating a family. But it should be remembered that the Nativity Fast lasts in December, and weddings are not held until its end.
Oh, how superstitious people become on the eve of the wedding, and even those who have never twisted a black cat's fig, are actively beginning to be interested in all wedding signs. The superstition about a leap year is especially strong among the people - they say that it is absolutely impossible to play a wedding in such a year, the family will be doomed to all sorts of misfortunes. Is it really possible to get married in a leap year or is it not worth it to get married? Is there any evidence for this superstition?
Why is leap year bad?To answer the question of whether it is possible to have a wedding in a leap year, you need to understand what is generally wrong with having an extra day in a year? Traditionally, a leap year was considered bad, this was due to the fact that Kasyan was the patron of such a year. This saint was considered by the people to be a miserly, envious, selfish and unfriendly type who brings people nothing but misfortune. And with such a patron, what good can you expect from the year? But statistics do not confirm this popular opinion - misfortunes occur not only in leap years.
There is also an opinion that more deaths allegedly occur in a leap year than in other years that are not burdened with an “extra” day. But this superstition is also not confirmed by science - a general pestilence is not observed every leap year.
Why, then, is it said that there are more troubles in a leap year, were our ancestors really so narrow-minded? No, in some ways they are right, there really is more than one day a year, which means that a little more events can happen. And why did they rely on bad events? It's just that people are more willing to believe bad things and listen to tragedies more willingly than rejoice in happiness.
Can you get married on a leap year?
Are there any signs associated with a wedding and a leap year, is it possible to get married this year? Superstitious people will say that you can get married in any year, but it is better not in a leap year. Because a marriage concluded in such a year will certainly fall apart. But this superstition is not something that is not confirmed by science, even folk tradition does not support it.
Will you say that since ancient times, in leap years, matchmakers did not go to the house of the bride, because this year was considered unlucky? Indeed, in a leap year, matchmakers were not to be found in the houses of brides, but not because of a bad year, but because matchmakers went to the grooms this year. Only in a leap year, the bride could send matchmakers to the groom, and he could not refuse her, with very rare exceptions. So history does not support the superstition about unhappy leap year marriages.
And how does the church look at this, maybe it categorically forbids weddings on a leap year? And here is a mistake - the Christian church not only does not prohibit getting married on a leap year, it also dishonors superstitious people in every possible way, equating them with pagans. And indeed, if everything is the will of God, can the appearance of one additional day in a year somehow affect a married couple? 
If you are destined to live happily and long, then it will be so and no years will become an obstacle, and if it is written to part with your family, then not a single prayer will help. And the church canons are proof of the normality of a wedding in a leap year. They have days when the wedding ceremony is not performed - on the eve of major holidays, Wednesdays, Fridays and during many days of fasting. As you can see, nothing is said about the ban on church marriage in leap years.
It turns out that you should not be afraid to get married on a leap year, all superstitions are just a legacy of the dark and maybe not very happy past of our ancestors. We, modern people, are not afraid of them, and doesn’t true love overcome all obstacles?
- key events in the fate of each person. Both celebrations have one common goal - to unite a man and a woman in a marital union. But there are some significant differences between the ceremonies.
First of all, they concern the people of believers. It is important for them to know whether it is possible to register a marriage in Lent, and if not, when is it better to create a solid Orthodox family?
Is it possible to register a marriage in the post?
Registry offices do not adhere to church calendars. They have their own work schedule, which they strictly follow. You can get married or get married in a state institution regardless of fast days.
It is rather the choice of the person himself, whether he wants to have fun and celebrate during the “bright sadness” (this is how priests sometimes call fasting). The Church considers a formal marriage to be the basis for the beginning of family life.
Even if the ceremony at the registry office was not followed by a wedding. Moreover, the priest will agree to marry a married couple only after they provide.
This is done in order to avoid deceit, conflicts, and also to make sure the couple's decision to become spouses is serious. But the so-called "" in Orthodoxy is considered fornication. Such a pair of priests even.
So, we found out that the official marriage and the wedding in the church are interconnected. Now about what their differences are. The main one is that there are dates in the church calendar when it is impossible to get married.
The sacrament of marriage in the church is not performed on such days:
- Tuesday and Thursday throughout the year. They precede Wednesday and Friday, the days when all Orthodox fast;
- Saturday. This day is the eve of Sunday, which is considered a small Easter in Orthodoxy;
- September 11 and 27, as well as the day before these dates. The fact is that this is the time of the strictest one-day fast in honor of the Beheading of John the Baptist and the Exaltation of the Cross of the Lord;
- in the days preceding the twelfth feasts;
- during Easter, as well as during the week after it, which is called the Easter week;
- on the eve of the patronal holidays. In churches they are celebrated at different times. You need to clarify the dates with the priest of the temple in which the wedding is planned;
- days of continuous weeks;
- but the most important thing is that it is impossible to formalize the union in the church during the fasts: Great, Petrov, Rozhdestvensky and Assumption.
This restriction is connected with the fact that all kinds of celebrations, celebrations and feasts are inappropriate during fasting. After all, first of all, a person should think about how he lives, think about his neighbor, help him. In addition, family life involves marital intimacy, which will be impossible for those who fast.
There are special circumstances in connection with which you can get married in fasting. But they must be simply exceptional. For example, if the groom is going to.
For such cases, a bishop's blessing is requested. Only after permission received from the Bishop will the priest be allowed to conduct the sacrament.
Conclusion - Lenten days are not intended for weddings. Exceptions are made only in the rarest, even unique cases.
To understand why you should not get married in fasting, you need to get to know its essence better.
Great
One of the most important posts for Christians. A period of spiritual purification and prayer. Fasting lasts 48 days and is considered preparation for the most important Orthodox holiday - Easter..
According to church canons, at this time it is supposed to fast, confess and take communion. Naturally, there can be no talk of any festivities and weddings.
The decision on whether to register a marriage union in the registry office during the days of Great Lent should be made by future newlyweds. Also, they themselves will have to decide how to hold a celebration.
If, nevertheless, there is a desire to adhere to Orthodox rules, then it is better to postpone the wedding date to the days when there is no fast. In the absence of such an opportunity, registration and the holiday itself should be carried out as modestly as possible.
When inviting people to a wedding, you need to take into account that among them there will be those who observe the fast and those who do not keep it. Therefore, there should be lean and modest (non-lean) dishes on the table.
Petrov (Apostolic)
There is no set date for this post. It depends on when Easter and Trinity were celebrated in the current year. The beginning is a week after the Trinity or 50 days after the Easter celebration.
It always ends on July 12 - on the day of the apostles Peter and Paul (hence two more names - Peter and Paul and Apostle). Due to such mobility of dates, it can be very short - 8 days and long - up to 42 days.
Weddings are not held, but it is quite possible to formalize relations in the registry office. But, as in any fast, according to church tradition, it is advisable to avoid luxurious ceremonies and entertainment events. And it’s better to completely postpone the wedding to a date without fasting.
Peter and Paul Lent is not so strict in terms of food. It is allowed to eat fish on all days, excluding Wednesdays and Fridays. If, nevertheless, unbelieving relatives insist on a wedding feast after the civil registration of marriage, then guests can also be treated to fish dishes.
Uspensky
Lent prepares the parishioners of Orthodox churches for the great feast - the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary. The post has clearly established dates - from 14 to 27 August. Dedicated to the Dormition (death) of the Mother of God.
It is similar in severity to Great Lent. Therefore, marriage with a wedding will have to be postponed. But no one bothers to register a marriage in the registry office. On the contrary, by the end of the Dormition Fast, the bride and groom will already have a marriage certificate in their hands, which is necessary to perform the Sacrament of the Wedding.
At the same time, you can continue to fast, refrain from amusements, which will be a sacrifice that is pleasing to God. Thus, the newlyweds will prepare for the feast of the Assumption, and then for their own main event in their lives - the wedding.
Christmas
This is the last of the long posts of the year. Its duration is 40 days. Starts in late autumn - 28.11, ends 7.01. It is associated with an important event - Christmas.
Living without feasts and fun, praying and fasting, a person tries to be cleansed of sins and meet the Baby Jesus with a pure heart.
As in the case of Great Lent, church officials do not prohibit the civil registration of the union at the pre-Christmas time, but they do not conduct the Sacrament of Marriage either.
No one prohibits the registration of a family union in the registry office on Christmas Eve. Only witnesses who also adhere to Orthodox traditions can be invited to it. They will understand why a grand celebration is out of place. It is better for other friends and relatives to send out invitations. They will need to indicate the date and place of the wedding, as well as the address of the restaurant or cafe where the celebrations will take place.
Solid weeks
Week is a Church Slavonic term. Means the week from Sunday to Saturday. It is called solid due to the fact that during this week on Wednesday and Friday you can eat fast, non-lean food.
Unlike the four main fasts of Orthodoxy, the celebration of the Sacrament of Marriage on the days of continuous weeks is possible, but undesirable.
The Orthodox calendar has several such weeks:
- Christmas time. Festive period from the day of the Nativity of Christ to 18.02;
- Publican and Pharisee. It marks the preparation for the Easter fast. Starts two weeks before it;
- cheese week. The last seven days before Lent. It is called so because at this time it is no longer possible to eat meat, but the ban does not apply to cheese and any dairy products;
- Troitskaya. The week following the day of the Holy Trinity.
The dates of all moving continuous weeks must be specified in the Orthodox calendar and, if possible, a wedding should be planned outside of these days.
Registration of marriage during Orthodox holidays
You can register a marriage at the registry office during any Orthodox holidays, if they are not designated as public holidays. According to church rules, everything is different.Great Christian holidays cannot be combined with a wedding. The days they fall on have a different, special purpose.
Therefore, it is better not to schedule a ceremony for the period on the eve of and on the days of the twelve main holidays of Orthodoxy. Their dates can be found in any church calendar.
But there are several other holidays when the wedding is not only not prohibited, but is even considered auspicious. Among them are the days of veneration of the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God (21.07 and 4.11), the Iberian Icon of the Mother of God - 26.10 and Nicholas of the Veshny (Mir Lycian) - 22.05.
Most of the holidays of the Christian Church fall on different dates each year. Before you decide on the day of the ceremony, you need to carefully study the calendar, which indicates fasts, continuous weeks and great holidays.
The task can be simplified - Orthodox websites contain special wedding calendars, which indicate the exact dates when the sacred Sacrament can be performed.
Is it possible to get married in fasting?
As already mentioned, post weddings are not allowed. Finding the right time to be married before God is no easy task. You need to know a lot of orthodox nuances.
There are a few tips to help you choose the date of the event:
- winter. At this time of the year, it is advisable to plan the ceremony for the period from Epiphany to the beginning of Maslenitsa;
- Spring. Krasnaya Gorka is one of the most common wedding dates since the times of Ancient Rus'. The first Sunday after Easter has long been considered the best day for a wedding after many days of fasting;
- summer. You can get married between two posts - Petrovsky and Uspensky;
- autumn. After the Dormition and before the Advent, any date permitted by the church is chosen.
Regarding whether it is possible to get married in fasting, there is only one answer - no. But to register a marriage in the nearest registry office is not prohibited. This is easy to do at any time when there is a free date in the institution's schedule.
If both the wedding and the marriage are planned for the same day, then the choice of the date must be approached more than responsibly. The church has its own limitations in this regard, which must be taken into account, respected and followed.