Your friend tells you that his girlfriend is acting unusual. To the question “what happened?” she answers “nothing,” and the guy is convinced that there is no reason to worry. But the authors of (life)buzz would say that the guy has problems, and very serious ones.
1. Great. This is a woman’s last argument in any dispute. This is the most convincing female argument, after which it is better for any man to shut up. Having heard “excellent” from your friend’s lips, know that you better not say a word again!
2. Nothing. You see that your friend is not behaving as usual. You ask: “Honey, what happened”? In response you hear: “Nothing.” No matter how it is! If a girl says “nothing happened,” that means something really happened. Often in a dispute, women's arguments begin with “nothing” and end with “excellent.” If this is your case, return to point 1.
Important clarification: if the girl says “no, nothing really happened,” you can breathe a sigh of relief: this means that nothing really happened.
3. Deep breath. This is a non-verbal cue that you are an idiot, and your girlfriend can't understand why you are wasting her and your time trying to figure out “nothing.” If you saw and heard a deep sigh, see point 2.
4. Go! Do you think the green light has been turned on for you? Oh, how mistaken you are! The phrase “Forward!” coming from your friend's lips is certainly not permission. It's more of a double challenge. With your “Forward!” she's just kindly giving you another chance to make the “really good decision.” So think again about whether what you were supposed to do and what you were supposedly given the green light to do is really worth doing!
5. Don't worry, I'll figure it out myself. This means that the girl asked you to do something several times and, since she did not wait for a reaction, she does it herself. Such a situation, you can be sure, will continue with the phrase “what happened?”, followed by the answer “nothing!” So, most likely, you will have to return to point 2 again.
6. Everything is fine. This is one of the most dangerous warning signs. Your girlfriend will think long and hard about what your retribution will be for what you did.
7. Five minutes. If you're watching a football game, you can be sure that the 5 minutes left in the half will last no more than 300 seconds. If you are waiting for a girl who said that she will need 5 minutes to get ready, this means that you will have to wait at least 15-40 minutes.
8. I don't care! This phrase is kind of synonymous with the phrase “to hell with you!” This phrase is a clear sign that you have big problems!
9. Thank you! An unreasonable “thank you” with an angry tint is not gratitude at all. It’s better to overcome the temptation to ask “why?” and simply answer “please!” If a girl says “Thank you SO MUCH!”, it’s better to do without even the “please”. Otherwise, the dialogue will end with the phrase “I don’t care!” If this happens, see point 8.
Well, you are familiar with the basic rules. Now a little test for consolidation. What does your girlfriend’s phrase mean: “Nothing happened, dear, everything is fine! Go ahead, watch the football for five more minutes and don't worry, I'll handle it myself. I’ll take out the trash myself.”
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A woman may say that she does not want a relationship. And not for any specific reason, but simply “because.”
And don't take it seriously “I have too much work to do right now.” or “I haven’t moved on from my past relationship yet”. These are all excuses. The reason is different. Why doesn't a girl really want a relationship? What to do if a girl doesn't want a relationship? Should I give up and not date or turn on man mode and woo her?
What if a girl doesn't want a relationship:
1. What is the reason that she doesn’t want a relationship?
If a girl said she doesn't want a relationship, she's lying. Yes, yes, that's exactly it.
3. You can’t force it.
What should be done? First of all, explain to yourself that all is not lost. You have many other options.
It is with this attitude that you can begin to take action to win a girl.
4. Stop worrying about what she thinks.
Stop thinking about what's on her mind. Develop the habit of not scrolling through different options for the outcome of events in your head. Simplify the situation for yourself. Be that as it may, the main person in your life is yourself.
Therefore, you should only care about what you personally feel. Your behavior should be based on your feelings and emotions. A woman acutely senses your mood and notices all the hidden signals of behavior. How you feel is of paramount importance.
Your self-confidence, resilience and originality will determine which group you are in: potential friends or men.
Relax and accept that she needs you as a friend. Take care of yourself, have fun, have fun and do not limit yourself in communicating with other women.
It is forbidden:
- send her messages every day;
- share your “feelings”;
- asking her when she will be ready for a relationship;
- pay too much attention to her;
- put pressure on her.
What then is possible?
1. Make friends with her friends.
No one has such a strong influence on her as her friends. Therefore, one of your goals is to become friends with her friend.
If you suddenly find yourself at the same party, try to get to know her friend better. Chat with her, show your best side.
You can use this useful acquaintance for another purpose. She will see how much attention you pay to her friend and may become unconsciously jealous.
There is a chance that her fear of missing you will awaken. It will also get worse if a friend starts telling her how great you are.
2. Let events develop gradually.
I understand how difficult it is to force yourself to be patient and learn to wait.
So, if she is not ready for a serious relationship, build a frivolous one. Start dating her on an irregular basis without determining your status.
The goal is to give her the impression that she doesn't owe you anything. That she is still free and dating you just like that.
After calling her a couple of times, wait for the next time she does it herself. Don't try to talk to her about relationships.
The essence of this method is that over time she will begin to get used to your meetings and become attached to you. And this leads directly to a permanent relationship.
3. Set deadlines.
This doesn't always work. Therefore, you must determine for yourself the time frame during which you are ready to continue to achieve it.
If you haven't invested, get over it. Most likely, it really is her. Then give her freedom.
You have no right to waste a lot of your time on something that cannot be fixed now. It is likely that on the next street you will meet a woman who is ready to build a relationship with you.
If a girl told you that she doesn’t want a relationship, know that this is not always true and not necessarily forever. Try to find out what is really hidden behind these words.
If you do everything right, you will see that you have every chance of becoming her boyfriend.
Have you read the article? But how can all this information be put into practice? How to get step-by-step and comprehensive instructions to woo a specific girl?
You will learn about this in a paid training. “How to turn a feminine NO into a feminine YES.”
Hello, dear readers! Today I will reveal women's secrets. Girls are very difficult to understand. We already speak different languages. When one of the couple tries to hide information, it is not at all easy to understand the situation.
Today I will try to tell you how to understand that a girl doesn’t need you.
Many women are afraid to break up with their boyfriend and do everything to be abandoned. It is much more profitable to look like a defenseless victim of a “scoundrel” than to take on the courage and... Especially if they lasted more than two months.
However, there is another situation when, for other reasons, for example, he does not know how things can be different. She was accustomed to a certain model of relationships that she saw in her family. This scheme is completely unsuitable for a young man. He is convinced that he is no longer needed. In fact, people are just...
Heart puzzle.
How to understand the situation?
Have you met yet?
One of my acquaintances has been corresponding with a girl on VKontakte for 6 months now, and every time: she’s pregnant, then she’s giving birth, then she has to go film the beatings of her ex-husband. He just throws up his hands and says: “I don’t understand, is she playing with me or what?”
Some girls, through chatting with fans, increase their own self-esteem, prove that they are not a failure and can do it. They have no desire to move on; they are satisfied with everything as it is.
The best way to find out the truth is to stop communicating for a while.
Under no circumstances should you disappear silently or suddenly. Explain your action: “I am not happy with this state of affairs. If you ever get ready to meet, you can call me. I don't want to chat anymore. I have more important things to do."
A woman who values relationships will definitely find a way to prove her affection: she will explain the situation or try to make concessions and meet. She is afraid of losing a potentially loved one. Not necessarily now, maybe in a week she will find a way. If not, you were right, the girl was just playing with your feelings.
The main thing is to be persistent; the situation should not return to normal without changes in your favor.
If you feel that you cannot cope and cannot find answers to important questions, together we will analyze the situation and find a solution.
Don't live together
The most obvious sign that a girl no longer needs you is that she has no desire to spend time together.
Situations are also individual, sometimes a girl may simply have other priorities. For example, preparing for an exam, competition, or getting stuck at work. If she values the relationship, she will most likely tell you about it.
If they begin to hide something from you, this is a sign of reluctance to be together and a frank conversation will help to sort this out.
Why do we love you?
Personally, I really don’t like it when they say about men and women: “registration, sex” and so on. With such thoughts you humiliate yourself. Every person is good at something. Agree, we would call a man strange if we heard: “My girlfriend is with me only because I am incredibly handsome, smart and charming.” Now you are doing even worse by prioritizing things.
Your woman is wonderful. I am sure she is able to find another person with an apartment, a car and other benefits of civilization that will complement his good qualities. The same goes for you. Is money really all that a woman can be around you for? I'm afraid that such thoughts can plunge me into... They are dangerous.
Why do you feel like a girl is not dating you because of yours? If you are not satisfied with the relationship in some way, try to figure it out rather than look for external sources. Do you lack care, love, affection, alone time? Talk to your significant other about this. She may not even be aware that you are unhappy.
I can recommend you the book by Carl Rogers " Marriage and its alternatives" It tells in great detail how to learn to coexist together, develop and everyone to take their place in a couple. It will come in handy even if you decide to break up.
At least make every effort to improve them and become happier. If it doesn’t work out with this one, you’ll find another one and this knowledge will help you build a new love correctly.
If you are not satisfied with the personal qualities of the person who is nearby, do not try to blame him. Admit to yourself honestly that you want to break up because you think the girl is cold, angry, and not feminine enough.
You are beautiful. The fact that you have achieved success is a plus, a bonus, an advantage over other males. Only princes hide their property so that the young lady falls in love with them, and not with wealth.
Think of walruses fighting for females and territory. How would you react to a male who loses on purpose so that someone will fall in love with him?
Remember the book " Pride and Prejudice", the main character of which claimed that she fell in love with Darcy after she saw his estate. Of course it was a joke. He used his fortune to help the girl. , but a means. Something that helps make someone else happier.
Never allow yourself or others to think that money is your main quality. There is a lot to love about you. Do not humiliate yourself and your woman with such thoughts. Solve real problems.
Sign up for a Skype consultation with me, we will look at the problem together and find the most acceptable solution.
With this I say goodbye. Don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter and learn more about love and relationships in the book by Carl Rogers.
“My Aunt Tamara makes excellent dumplings stuffed with pancakes. Try it for the New Year holidays!” Don't be naive, this phrase is not praise for Aunt Tamara's culinary talents. This is encryption. And she means: “Get ready, my friend, we will spend the New Year holidays together!” But if the girl has stopped making references to your joint, I repeat, joint future, be wary. Most likely, she avoids such footnotes, since she already plans to eat dumplings alone or with another connoisseur of Central Russian cuisine. Only the most hard-hearted girl is capable of making plans for the future together out loud when she herself has already decided to end the relationship.
She kisses you less often
Sex, contrary to popular belief, is not a barometer of relationships. That is, if, of course, everything is completely bad. But the first signs of cooling are the girl’s reluctance to kiss and hug. And all because for us girls, kisses and hugs are extremely important. Sometimes it's more important than sex! After all, sex, no matter how you twist us, is a crude mechanical process (without it, however, it’s also sad). But kisses and hugs - yes, this is the peak of intimacy. Watch your back.
She's not eager to hang out with your friends.
Do you remember how, at the beginning of your acquaintance, her eyes shone as soon as she offered you to go somewhere with your friends. The girl considered them “wonderful people”, dressed up for the meeting, joked and laughed, and when you returned home, she talked about how Felt-Master is a subtle and sensitive person deep down in his soul (although you know for certain that Felt-Master is not like that). Now, as soon as you mention going bowling with friends, she has a good reason not to go. Fear of round objects, for example.
She stopped luring you to her parents
One of our characteristics as women (besides our affinity for high-heeled shoes) is our closeness to our parents. We are not ashamed to share our experiences and fears with mom and dad and confusedly ask them for advice, even if we ourselves already head transatlantic corporations. Therefore, the fact that a girl doesn’t want to show you to her relatives anymore is a dangerous symptom. There may be two reasons for this: either they are already aware of her execution plans for you, or the girl does not want her parents to guess everything, looking at your as yet some kind of couple.
She's making trouble like it's the last time
Of course, you have quarreled before. Small bright flashes of mutual discontent (caused, as a rule, by unreasonable jealousy) preceded a large and bright flash of sex. Now everything has changed. Now everything is so serious. She started hitting your sore spots: salary, mom, early baldness. (Although you are convinced that this is not baldness! Just seasonal hair loss!) In a word, “lost my fear” (yes, this is not one word, but I promised one). But the wonderful tradition of sex after reconciliation has faded into oblivion. She is no longer afraid of offending you once and for all. Or maybe he even strives for this.
She stopped making trouble altogether
And it happens like this with us: the girl doesn’t care. It would seem that this should make you happy: finally you can store unpaired socks in the bread bin and not get reprimanded for it! Don't rush to rejoice. Most likely, her indifference is a sign that everything is over. She no longer sees you in her life, which means she is completely purple (or whatever color is out of date this season) where you keep your socks. She's just hiding and waiting for the moment and courage, that is, a party at which she will drink enough to say goodbye to you out loud.
She has secrets
She defends her independence
Previously, she didn’t mind when you put socks in her drawer (the place in the bread bin is not rubber!) or jumped into the shower after her. Now the girl sternly reprimands you for what she calls for some reason “violating her personal space.” Beware: the desire for partial separation may gradually result in the desire for global separation.
1. Women almost always know what a man's answer to their question will be.
2. When a woman says: “How funny.” This means that now it will not be funny for you.
3. Not every girl who says “You're great” means that she wants to have sex.
4. If you play poker with a girl, play only for stripping.
5. Good women are not easy to get, and nothing good ends with girls of easy virtue.
6. If a woman gets irritated by any of your minor mistakes, it’s not the mistakes that make her angry, but you.
7. Just because a girl is beautiful doesn’t mean she’s stupid.
8. A man should know that many, if not any, omissions can be resolved by your declaration of sympathy or love.
9. The first step should come from you, you should not be uncomfortable, ashamed or anything else, these are the right actions of a man. Call her, write or visit her.
10. Be the kind of man you would want your future daughter to date.
11. If your relationship with a girl goes to hell, leave her first, don’t waste your time. Don’t forget to part with her as carefully as possible, because there are already enough bitches among women.
12. Man know that if you deceive a woman, she may forgive, but will never forget.
13. If a girl tells you about her problems, it doesn’t mean that she’s a whiner and complains, it means that she trusts you.
14. Don't call her "baby" or other endearing words before you're in a relationship or anything like that. Otherwise, she will decide that you call all girls that.
15. Don’t forget to express admiration or compliment the girl.
16. If she responds to your messages or SMS promptly enough, it means that she is at least interested in you.
17. It doesn’t take a lot of money to make a woman feel special.
18. Girls don't like guys who are too nice, a man must have balls and she must feel it.
19. You should know that she will ask you the same question 1000 times to see how your answers change. Girls love checking out guys.
20. Never underestimate a girl's mental abilities - it will be worse.
21. They also need a guy at night, just like you need a girl.
22. If her breast size is less than 2, this is not a reason not to date her. After all, she is still growing!
23. If you see a girl constantly doing duck lips in a photo, she usually gives it on the first date. We checked.
24. A girl playing sports is probably the best thing that can happen to you in bed; she is unlikely to disappoint your expectations.
25. Every time she cries because of you, there might be someone who will make her smile.
26. Pregnancy and illness are not a myth - protect yourself and her.
27. Don't be afraid to date and kiss a girl in briquettes, she may be worth it more than others.
28. You should know that men's eau de toilette acts on women as a weapon of mass destruction. Of course in normal quantities.
29. If you can’t make a woman happy, don’t bother someone else.
30. Not every girl can be conquered, try the next one.
31. Two words over the phone or text: “Good morning” can make her think about you all day.
32. Don’t force her to be ready in 15 minutes, but know: girls who get ready and dress in just 5 minutes exist.
33. Never compare her with others; at the very least, she should be 300% better. Also, never talk about your exes, much less in a bad way.
34. If you forgive her, then do it quickly and decisively.
35. When a girl says that she is cold, congratulations, it means that you are slow and should have hugged her 5 minutes ago.
36. Don’t joke around with a girl, she may not forgive you.
37. Don’t tell the details of your relationship with your girlfriend to your friends, especially when it comes to sex.
38. Women always notice a gentleman and his attitude towards them.
39. Don’t make a problem out of little things, you should be a solution to problems, not a source.
40. A woman will never say that she wants to have sex. If you wait for her, then there will definitely not be sex. If you just sit and talk about higher matters, don’t be surprised that she will soon get up and leave.
41. You should know the secret of warm rain! If it starts to rain, kiss her, even if you have never kissed before. It's all about romantic films.
42. Playboy, you can chase after 100 girls and not be successful with them, but you can date one and the other 99 girls will dream about you.
43. If you don’t want to have one-time sex with a girl, then the second time you need to have quality sex during the first one.
44. Man, know that girls don’t wait more than 15 minutes and you shouldn’t check it.
45. If you come to visit a friend, bring ice cream, cake, chocolate or a piece of cake.
46. If a girl says: “Everything is fine, don’t worry.” Then most likely she is not doing well and it’s time for you to start worrying.
47. Girls are always right, even if they are wrong. I hope you understood this phrase correctly.
48. Don’t try to fully understand a woman, it won’t work anyway. We are too different. It's like a magician's secrets. If you know them, then you will no longer be able to believe in fairy tales and miracles. Do you need it?
49. Women do not like to wait; they are conquered by the impatient.
50. Love always requires sacrifice, be prepared for it.